Lots of the men here talk about the women here as if they are only interested in themselves.. ok. maybe that is true by their experience. But it is also the tradition here that the children will support the mother in her old age. That is the mother's old age insurance. So if the child can be working in a foreign country, the odds of his having a good job are far greater than here.
I believe that is how it works out in the long run and so probably how it looks, all planned out. But I really do not think the majority have the intelligence to look past the moment. These are live for the moment people, this is why no one has any savings yet are constantly on the blag. I agree with what you say, but I do not think it is the long game for most, it just turns out like that.