OK OK OK... I have read every post out there and I am parinoid now. I swore I'd never date a Dominican...But I have found a hot one, and now I am asking the "Sankie or not" question:
I live in the Sosua area (Been here off and on for two years, but lived here full-time for 6 months), he's from Santiago, has a decent working class job, and a bank account (not sure about the balance). But absolutely BEAUTIFUL man. Let me start off by saying I am by no means in "love" with this guy. We enjoy each other's company
I did not come here looking for love. I have zero interest in a "real" relationship right now. I am actually a very attractive mid-twentys american girl. I get so much attention here it makes me ill. I am young, successful and have plenty of guys to choose from (All nationalities including my own with Bucus of money), and believe it or not this one would be my first vote for Mr. right now. But after reading the Billion sankie posts I am starting to wonder if he is indeed a Sankie.
We met at his Job (can't say where to protect his privacy) but nothing in resort or tourism...We had been flirting for a month or two and he asked me for my number, I gave him a business card, and the game was on. He bought me gifts, roses, teddy bears, made me CD's, bought me lunches dinners etc. NEVER asked for Money. He has cooked for me (and paid for the groceries and restocked my fridge). We both speak fluent English and Spanish. We've been having fun & hanging out together quite a bit.
BUT....here are my red flags
-Told me he loved me too soon. (I wouldn't say it back)
-He calls me Princess...But then again so does my dad...and hes not Sankie
-He's got a little girl, who's "baby's mama" lives here in Sosua
-He has no car
-I have no idea what his job pays, or how he affords the gifts he buys me
-THEN the one that really scares me is he wants me to go with him to Santiago to meet his family Mother, Bother & Sister etc. I saw this in "sankie" posts a bunch of times.
I have to admit I love the gifts, pampering, attention, affection....and Damn he's hot, but if he is a Sankie I want to cut him lose sooner rather than later. I am used to dealing with the Dominican Laborers here for my job, so I can be cold as ice. Even if his mother, sister, cousin, friend died, got sick or lost their job I'd never dish a peso.
I also told him on our second date that if he wanted to be with me I never pay for anything (period). He stuck around....I am used to being the Gold digger in the relationship here LOL.
My inner voice is saying this: I know this has almost Zero potential to work out, but who cares, he's hot, we're having fun, I'm not in LOVE, and I sure as hell am not giving him a money. This might be justification, but every rich white guy I know has about 10 Dominican Chica's, why can't I keep one hot guy until he asks me for money, and drop him like a bad habit? Especially when he's treating me like a queen & I pay for nothing...
Even still...if this guy is a sankie I do want to let him go, so give me your thoughts....I have mixed emotions on this one.
I live in the Sosua area (Been here off and on for two years, but lived here full-time for 6 months), he's from Santiago, has a decent working class job, and a bank account (not sure about the balance). But absolutely BEAUTIFUL man. Let me start off by saying I am by no means in "love" with this guy. We enjoy each other's company
I did not come here looking for love. I have zero interest in a "real" relationship right now. I am actually a very attractive mid-twentys american girl. I get so much attention here it makes me ill. I am young, successful and have plenty of guys to choose from (All nationalities including my own with Bucus of money), and believe it or not this one would be my first vote for Mr. right now. But after reading the Billion sankie posts I am starting to wonder if he is indeed a Sankie.
We met at his Job (can't say where to protect his privacy) but nothing in resort or tourism...We had been flirting for a month or two and he asked me for my number, I gave him a business card, and the game was on. He bought me gifts, roses, teddy bears, made me CD's, bought me lunches dinners etc. NEVER asked for Money. He has cooked for me (and paid for the groceries and restocked my fridge). We both speak fluent English and Spanish. We've been having fun & hanging out together quite a bit.
BUT....here are my red flags
-Told me he loved me too soon. (I wouldn't say it back)
-He calls me Princess...But then again so does my dad...and hes not Sankie
-He's got a little girl, who's "baby's mama" lives here in Sosua
-He has no car
-I have no idea what his job pays, or how he affords the gifts he buys me
-THEN the one that really scares me is he wants me to go with him to Santiago to meet his family Mother, Bother & Sister etc. I saw this in "sankie" posts a bunch of times.
I have to admit I love the gifts, pampering, attention, affection....and Damn he's hot, but if he is a Sankie I want to cut him lose sooner rather than later. I am used to dealing with the Dominican Laborers here for my job, so I can be cold as ice. Even if his mother, sister, cousin, friend died, got sick or lost their job I'd never dish a peso.
I also told him on our second date that if he wanted to be with me I never pay for anything (period). He stuck around....I am used to being the Gold digger in the relationship here LOL.
My inner voice is saying this: I know this has almost Zero potential to work out, but who cares, he's hot, we're having fun, I'm not in LOVE, and I sure as hell am not giving him a money. This might be justification, but every rich white guy I know has about 10 Dominican Chica's, why can't I keep one hot guy until he asks me for money, and drop him like a bad habit? Especially when he's treating me like a queen & I pay for nothing...
Even still...if this guy is a sankie I do want to let him go, so give me your thoughts....I have mixed emotions on this one.