How to make a marriage survive!

MommC

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There was once a man and woman who had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything. They had talked about everything.
They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover.
In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside. She agree that it was time that he should know what was in the box.. When he opened it, he found two crocheted doilies and a stack of money totaling $25,000.
He asked her about the contents. "When we were to be married," she said, "my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doily."
The little old man was so moved, he had to fight back tears.
Only two precious doilies were in the box. She had only been angry with him two times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with happiness. "Honey," he said, "that explains the doilies, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?" "Oh," she said, "that's the money I
made from selling the doilies.

A Prayer

Dear Lord,
I pray for Wisdom to understand my man;
Love to forgive him;
And Patience for his moods;
Because Lord if I pray for Strength
I'll beat him to death
Amen!
 

Crya

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Nice. Actually, i am so touched by the story. You know what, I am married for one year and five months - and i've been mad to my husband so many many time and we fight a lot, i've been crying a lot also, because every time we have a fight, he takes me for granted. I am so mad at him.

Now, i know that the secret of a happy marriage is never to argue - i will give it a try - not to argue with my husband anymore.
 

MommC

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well I haven't been married quite 60 years yet

and I don't crochet however after years of occassional 'fights' I too learned they don't accomplish anything.
Better to turn your anger into something positive (I cook or clean) then 'discuss' what made you angry in a calm manner.
Sometime just telling your partner how you feel (or felt at the moment of anger( without accusing works wonders and draws the two of you closer together........