i am 30 and my husabnd is 40 and we have been together for 12 years and we love each outher very much!! i went to dr his home town alone and then he goes every 6 months to visit his family because we can not junto with our jobs! but recently i have been thinking that he has some one else over there, and that he calls over there to talk to some girl that he has met! he reassures me that that is not the case, and that he loves me and our life! we have plans in the future to go junto or for me to go in 1 year agin but still am i overreacting!!!?? when he comes back from there i check every thing! am i crazyy
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How long is he gone for? Has he just started doing this all of a sudden?
Have things gotten different lately? I would need to know more before saying he's cheating. Because it sounds like you guys are okay unless there is something you are leaving out if he has alot of family there he could actually be doing what he says he is.
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How long is he gone for? Has he just started doing this all of a sudden?
Have things gotten different lately? I would need to know more before saying he's cheating. Because it sounds like you guys are okay unless there is something you are leaving out if he has alot of family there he could actually be doing what he says he is.
Swtness
Macho Culture
With macho culture all around him he may just do what macho culture says he can do....
Could, yes.
With macho culture all around him he may just do what macho culture says he can do....
bavaro princess resort in punta cana
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i am 27 and my step daughter is 17 and we went to the bavaro princess resort and we had a blast!! we wish that wecould have had more than 1 week there!! there are a lot of clubs to go to arieto is good but mangu is the best and they have one that is at the casino which is alittle small but it was fun we went there every night it opens at12:00am. it was really fun!!!
So let me understand this....when you are/were 27, you went on a girls trip and you were OK with that but not OK with him going solo? Does his 17 year old daughter ( your step daughter) ever accompany him on his trips home?
he says that i am making him crazy with all these things that i am doing and saying and he's going to end up leaving me because of what i'm doing. he says that he can not take it any more! and i don't blame him!
Thanks for digging that up, something isn't right here. How does one forget their age by 3 years when posting in the same year.
And if the OP is for real, please hire a PD, how the heck would we know what he's there for. We would only be guessing.
no she does not go with him when he goes he goes for about 3 weeks when he goes!! i don't mind if he goes alone its just recently about 9 months ago it seems like i have been putting things in my head for example- if he calls his female cousin in dr i think that he is calling to talk to one of her friends or if he sends money to his uncle its really for a girl overthere or if he has a clling card in his pocket i think that he is calling over there to a girl when he is home alone and i am at work!! but when he sends money he will tell me and when he talks to his family he will tell me or he will call with me around and i will try to hear the whole conversation which i know is wrong!!
So your trip report from 2007 was written in the present tense? Wow, things have changed a bit since I graduated.
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aranoid:
This is really confusing, It is starting to sound like you may be a bit overprotective yet the mixup with the postings are strange and you admit he calls in front of you. Maybe he is cheating but you sound like your driving him crazy. Do you have any concrete reason to believe he is cheating. You still haven't said if something has happened in the marraige to even make you think this, I do agree with the comment about the macho attitude and if he has you already assuming he's cheating when he is not I could see his buddies telling him to go ahead, In his mind you have already assumed he did it so if he hasn't you need to stop.
Swtnessaranoid:
aranoid:This is really confusing, It is starting to sound like you may be a bit overprotective yet the mixup with the postings are strange and you admit he calls in front of you. Maybe he is cheating but you sound like your driving him crazy. Do you have any concrete reason to believe he is cheating. You still haven't said if something has happened in the marraige to even make you think this, I do agree with the comment about the macho attitude and if he has you already assuming he's cheating when he is not I could see his buddies telling him to go ahead, In his mind you have already assumed he did it so if he hasn't you need to stop.
Swtness
aranoid:Look The reality is that infidelity is often a deal braker for American women. In this we are not llike the Europeans, who understand that marriage is a full legal contract, involving much more than sex. If a man seeks sexual satisfaction elsewhere - since the male of the human species is no different from the males of any other species-- they are genetically programmed to mate with as a many women as they can. That is how the strongest of the species survive. You married a man from a culture in which 40% of the women are raising their children alone ------- and where men brag about how many children they have, as a sign of their potency.."MY grandfather had 80 children!) - don't laugh - I have heard it.... So chill -- does he come home to you? Does he provide for you? If you are worried about HIV - which you should be-- insist on getting tested... If you cannot tolerate infidelity ----- well, DID YOU MAKE THAT CLEAR? If you are being eaten up by jealousy -- get some therapy and figure out your divorce settlement since you are headed for it.
"he says that i am making him crazy with all these things that i am doing and saying and he's going to end up leaving me because of what i'm doing. he says that he can not take it any more! and i don't blame him!"
Oh that is such a ploy! and you fall right in with it
Trust your intuition, sometimes we just cannot pinpoint what it is but it doesn't mean there isn't a problem.
As far as making him crazy, looks like there is enough craziness to go around
Oh that is such a ploy! and you fall right in with it
Trust your intuition, sometimes we just cannot pinpoint what it is but it doesn't mean there isn't a problem.
As far as making him crazy, looks like there is enough craziness to go around