dominican men and an american girl

[TexasGringo]

I love that old line that we dudes will break out...

If you dont' quit making me crazy for thinking i'm out boning a bunch of 18 year old hotties in DR (kinda like what he did when he met you- although u are gringa), then i'm gonna leave you for one of those 18 year old hotties.

look- so long as he really wants to stay with you and really loves you and such...and he doesn't have any kids down there and isn't bringing home gifts for your special friend...

why make yourself crazy if your man gets a little something on the side??

 

[zelia1]

he is cheating !!!!! listen to your heart!!! he is telling you he is leaving and argueing with you as an excuse so he does not feel guiltly. I bet the other girl even knows you exist and does not care.. I am american white girl and travel with my husband every year and i see other girls try to talk to him even in front of me they dont care. they see money and green card. That is the reason i will never let my husband travel there alone..

 

[TexasGringo]

he is cheating !!!!! listen to your heart!!! he is telling you he is leaving and argueing with you as an excuse so he does not feel guiltly. I bet the other girl even knows you exist and does not care.. I am american white girl and travel with my husband every year and i see other girls try to talk to him even in front of me they dont care. they see money and green card. That is the reason i will never let my husband travel there alone..

well Zelia- I hope you're giving him everything lose little Dominicanas want to give him or he might get to thinking with his little head and look for greener pastures.

(no flame)

 

[yess]

there are seldom any "greener" pastures just new unmowed ones oh well I guess that makes them greener but you get my point

the only thing that keeps a man from cheating is the man himself

 

[TexasGringo]

there are seldom any "greener" pastures just new unmowed ones oh well I guess that makes them greener but you get my point

the only thing that keeps a man from cheating is the man himself

not sure i'd use the word 'unmowed' either. cause someone's always mowing grass somewhere.

well as for men and cheating- we men do possess the ability to have a casual meaningless sexual liaison. far more than women can IMO.

women seem to get so caught up on the act of sex itself (probably cause it means more to yall in yall's minds)- but what about the emotional connection? i mean i think i could always justify a trist to myself but if i was emotionally connected with a gal- i know i'd be in trouble...

 

[yess]

I know I am getting off topic here but its an interesting age old discussion
If I were to be cheated on (and I have) I would almost rather it be for the big romance the all encompassing love of his life
I mean what manner of man risks so much hurt and disruption to his life and the woman he loves over something meaningless?
if it means nothing to the man and so much to the woman he loves, why do it?
Because it is NOT meaningless, the woman he has the fling with may be as nothing but the act itself satisfies him beyond the orgasm.
Lots of individuals lots of reasons, all meaningful

 

[TexasGringo]

that's interesting yess...

seems a woman would feel much worse to have their man find some other woman that he actually loved and wanted to be with more than just a romp in the sack.

my ex gave me carte blanc after some years of marriage to have a fling if need be- but said she didn't wanna know...cause she'd be too scared if i were to ever fall in love with another woman over her...

for me the act of having a fling with another gal if i were married would be based on ego and orgasm...combined...and maybe a little of mystery and chase...

but not emotional strings...such as love and commitment...

 

[swtness]

Take it easy

that's interesting yess...

seems a woman would feel much worse to have their man find some other woman that he actually loved and wanted to be with more than just a romp in the sack.

my ex gave me carte blanc after some years of marriage to have a fling if need be- but said she didn't wanna know...cause she'd be too scared if i were to ever fall in love with another woman over her...

for me the act of having a fling with another gal if i were married would be based on ego and orgasm...combined...and maybe a little of mystery and chase...

but not emotional strings...such as love and commitment...

Summed it up all at once, I think the reason men cheat is the lack of excitment or passion the need for the chase. There is also the very common excuss of "My wife would never do this for me" or "She use to when we were dating" I am not saying that it's okay for men to cheat but I hear guys talk about it all the time like the saying goes If you don't feed your dog at home he will roam out on the streets to eat.

Most men are sexual creatures and it has even been proven that they think about sex alot more then women do, Again I am in no way shape or form. defending cheating. Which then in turn brings up the question have you stopped doing things you use to? Has the relationship become so ritualistic that it's old?

I just think you need to analyze this relationship very carefully it is very easy to get carried away by insecurites or jealousy. How bad would you feel if he really wasn't cheating and was able to prove it. Then what would you do if he was so sick of the accusations that he just left you. Think about things logic and order along with fact and proof.

Swtness

 

[zelia1]

i give my husband everything he needs and wants and dreams. the point i was trying to make is when dominican women see a man coming from overseas they drool and dont care if they are married or not. when men get together tease eachother and push on each other for them to cheat and put **** in there head . some men do slip . and by the way i have been with my husband for 15 years since the age of 15 we have 3 children and if everything we have and been through and what we have together is not enough for him then let it be.. why would you want to tease a guy if you can stop it from happening why not .

 

[TexasGringo]

i think as a man when we are not getting regular pleasurable sexual activity- especially if we're married- it is very immasculating.

i mean its very rare IMO that a couple when newly in love for the woman to withhold sex from her man. - She dare not, because she knows that if she does withhold sex from her man before married he'd drop her like an old shoe...

so why then is it ok for her to then after years of marriage to believe this withholding or limitation would be willingly accepted by her husband?

of course there are plenty of guys out there I believe that probably do not wanna put themselves in the position where their entire sexual life is the responsibility of their wife. so they cheat. as much as possible. likely just as sexual conquests, trists as opposed to having an emotional long term affair.

call it insecurity or whatever you wish but most of it IMO is driven by natural instincts of the male gender.

society's rules and traditions i believe actually are in direct conflict with this.

 

[TexasGringo]

i give my husband everything he needs and wants and dreams. the point i was trying to make is when dominican women see a man coming from overseas they drool and dont care if they are married or not. when men get together tease eachother and push on each other for them to cheat and put **** in there head . some men do slip . and by the way i have been with my husband for 15 years since the age of 15 we have 3 children and if everything we have and been through and what we have together is not enough for him then let it be.. why would you want to tease a guy if you can stop it from happening why not .

There is an old saying Zelia- "show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I'll show you a guy that's tired of fuking her"

I do believe you are doing everything you can to please your husband and not to discourage you or anything like that- but here's a story:

I have a friend she's been married to a guy she dated in HS and college (they are in their 40s)...She's in very good shape, has gotten some large manmades to enhance her figure and from what she says- she's a nympho for her hubby...gives it to him at minimum 4 times a week however and whenever he wants or she wants...

Both hold down 6 figure jobs with his being close to half a million/year.

And he gets busted cheating and scamming porn sites in a major major way- he was looking for other trists...


Go figure...

 

[BettyDiamond]

good looking people can be quite boring in bed.

 

[TexasGringo]

that is way too funny Betty.

its kinda like from the movie Shallow Hal with Jack Black...

paraphrase:
Costanza says a beautiful woman typically has no personality because she never had the need to develop one. But an ugly girls always have great personalities because of the necessity to be accepted in society.
He says the best women are ones with the ugly duckling syndrome...ie- they were ugly when they were young, thus developing their personalities and then blossomed into gorgeous women yet they still believe they are ugly.
If you're lucky enough to find one of those- you've struck a gold mine...

 

[BettyDiamond]

I am like the back of a bus.....am I exciting you

 

[TexasGringo]

no u just made me laugh...

 

[Tamborista]

no u just made me laugh...

Please don't laugh @Betty if you see "her" peeing" standing up.

 

[TexasGringo]

oh my...

Betty La Hombre?

thats worse than Betty La Fea...


i've seen it before- i was in Los Angeles years back and saw an much older dude with a younger 'gal' with a dress on...

i went to the bathroom at one point and as i left the stall- i saw "her" at the stand up urinal with the dress hiked up peeing...

i had to have a few more drinks to get that image out of my mind.

 

[swtness]

why would you want to tease a guy if you can stop it from happening why not .

I am not understanding what you ment by this? No need to get offensive obviously you feel he is cheating on her then so the big question is she going to leave him if she is, just get the divorce attorney and make sure you and the kids are taken care of. I know it's hard with a long history and children but many women move on to be happier I did.

The biggest thing is we always want to know the truth and why things happen but when we get the truth what do we do with it. It doesn't seem like your leaving him so what is it that you want to do. Take a deep breath and analyze... analyze.. What is going on.

Good Luck
swtness

 

[TexasGringo]

swt- in many if not most instances, its often better to be lied to than know the truth.

as you said- what am i gonna do with the truth?

perhaps its either something hard wired into the woman's psyche or it could be a learned phenomenon, but you woman talk talk talk about wanting to know the truth.
analyze things ad lidum but in all honesty you'd rather not know...

u just need to mind to believe something as true that you can live with...

i mean would you ever ask your husband if when you are having sex if he's thinking of only of you?

or when you catch him flying a kite...is he thinking of only you?

its much better for him to tell you and for you to believe he only thinks of you...always...

 

[swtness]

Good read

swt- in many if not most instances, its often better to be lied to than know the truth.

as you said- what am i gonna do with the truth?

perhaps its either something hard wired into the woman's psyche or it could be a learned phenomenon, but you woman talk talk talk about wanting to know the truth.
analyze things ad lidum but in all honesty you'd rather not know...

u just need to mind to believe something as true that you can live with...

i mean would you ever ask your husband if when you are having sex if he's thinking of only of you?

or when you catch him flying a kite...is he thinking of only you?

its much better for him to tell you and for you to believe he only thinks of you...always...

Well Thank god I am not like that!!!!! lol it is normal to fantasize if he tells me he's thinking of the vs model there's a little jealousy but I fantasize also and I am not naieve. My last marraige made me grow up and realize in a relationship the ground rules and expectations have to be set from day one so there are no misunderstandings. It makes for a stronger relationship and bond.

We are not children here guys we know what men want and like the key is to stay ahead of the game. And of course other women don't care if he is married it is our job to keep to maintain what we have, before someone else snacthes it away. Marraiges do fail primarily for lack of sexual intrest and financial problems. But nagging and harassment speed things up men complain about the nagging all the time. The biggest thing is men think with their c**ks and women with their hearts which becomes a handicap in some cases, and no one thinks with their heads!!!

Good post texasgringo we should start a whole new thread on female male behavior lol

swtness