Well this has been quite an experience LOL, yes it is the sankie section but that was not what this thread was about.
You know, life is complicated, I am sure we all struggle to make the right choices and we may all get knocked down, but that is Life, to me it is somthing that teaches me right from wrong, and it makes me realize i need to grab every ouch of happiness that comes my way. I never said this man was perfect nor did i say i was perfect.This is a man i have come to care about a great deal. I have sat and watched people i know meet a guy then after two visits say they are in love and give up everything they have worked so hard for to have that person they dont even know here with them, Well for me i cannot do that. I am a single mom i work 3 jobs, and am finishing the last year of my degree. I am in no situation to turn my life upside down to bring a man here and just watch it fall apart before my eyes because i didnt wait to learn more about him, as i have seen and heard so many people do. If he wanted out of his country he would be out by now. I am thankful for every moment of happiness i get to share with him. You know i have seen so many horrible things in my life, and it has taught me to be a better person, i have a 10 yr old daughter who fights everyday of her life with cancer, and i am thankful for every day we make it through. it has taught me to be happy to live and to love with out judgement or sacrifices. What is meant to be wil be. If we are meant to be together we wil be, but for now it cannot be, we have lives in two different parts of the world we have to live for now, and yes he could of dated this girl and i would of never known, but he did tell me, and i was thankful that he thought enough of me to tell me. Who knows where our lives wil bring us, Love is a very difficult thing, and if he meets someone in his own countries that is going to make him happy, and he feels that she is the one, then i say good for him, and even though i would be sad at first, i would never regret anything, i will be happy for the memories we made and cherish them with every other great time i have had in my life. We both know how hard it is, trust me when i say we do care for each other, but i am not about to make a mistake when it comes to my happiness, but i am also not going to jump into things with my eyes closed. It takes time, trust, openess and communication to have a relationship with anyone. And if someday it happens to us, then we will both know we did everything right. We will be able to go into it, personally knowing each others families, cultures, lifestyles, and above all each other. I am sorry that people find it so hard to beleive that two adults can care about each other and still live seperate lives, but i am not sorry that i found this wonderful person. We all do things differently in our lives, and some thingd work for us and some dont, but if you beleive in something or someone, patience will help you see your path clearly. Well for me anyhow.So i will continue and what ever happens, happens, we will perhaps someday be together, or maybe we will find someone new. I will never be broken hearted, but only thankful for having another wonderful person in my life. who for the moments we got to share made me smile, laugh and feel special.
Lisa
You know, life is complicated, I am sure we all struggle to make the right choices and we may all get knocked down, but that is Life, to me it is somthing that teaches me right from wrong, and it makes me realize i need to grab every ouch of happiness that comes my way. I never said this man was perfect nor did i say i was perfect.This is a man i have come to care about a great deal. I have sat and watched people i know meet a guy then after two visits say they are in love and give up everything they have worked so hard for to have that person they dont even know here with them, Well for me i cannot do that. I am a single mom i work 3 jobs, and am finishing the last year of my degree. I am in no situation to turn my life upside down to bring a man here and just watch it fall apart before my eyes because i didnt wait to learn more about him, as i have seen and heard so many people do. If he wanted out of his country he would be out by now. I am thankful for every moment of happiness i get to share with him. You know i have seen so many horrible things in my life, and it has taught me to be a better person, i have a 10 yr old daughter who fights everyday of her life with cancer, and i am thankful for every day we make it through. it has taught me to be happy to live and to love with out judgement or sacrifices. What is meant to be wil be. If we are meant to be together we wil be, but for now it cannot be, we have lives in two different parts of the world we have to live for now, and yes he could of dated this girl and i would of never known, but he did tell me, and i was thankful that he thought enough of me to tell me. Who knows where our lives wil bring us, Love is a very difficult thing, and if he meets someone in his own countries that is going to make him happy, and he feels that she is the one, then i say good for him, and even though i would be sad at first, i would never regret anything, i will be happy for the memories we made and cherish them with every other great time i have had in my life. We both know how hard it is, trust me when i say we do care for each other, but i am not about to make a mistake when it comes to my happiness, but i am also not going to jump into things with my eyes closed. It takes time, trust, openess and communication to have a relationship with anyone. And if someday it happens to us, then we will both know we did everything right. We will be able to go into it, personally knowing each others families, cultures, lifestyles, and above all each other. I am sorry that people find it so hard to beleive that two adults can care about each other and still live seperate lives, but i am not sorry that i found this wonderful person. We all do things differently in our lives, and some thingd work for us and some dont, but if you beleive in something or someone, patience will help you see your path clearly. Well for me anyhow.So i will continue and what ever happens, happens, we will perhaps someday be together, or maybe we will find someone new. I will never be broken hearted, but only thankful for having another wonderful person in my life. who for the moments we got to share made me smile, laugh and feel special.
Lisa