no doubt dominican men are handsome and among the sweetest talkers on earth. im very attracted to them, i love the culture, the music, the food, etc. so ive dated a bunch in my day, but inevitably i find myself in the same predicaments and im at the point where i think maybe i should just give up hope of finding a dominicano who knows how to treat and respect a woman.
it seems to me that dominican men talk A LOT about being great lovers and romancers, etc., but that when it comes down to it they dont really deliver. theyll say anything to make a women feel good in the moment, but when it comes to her real needs and long term work (emotionally, intellectually, physically) theyre just not really interested in doing much once they know the woman is hooked (attached, interested in them, put it how you like...)
i hate stereotyping and believe me im not some ignorant gringa. i speak spanish, have lived and traveled all over latin america and im very familiar with the culture, but my experiences with dominicanos always seem to involve them being lazy, not following through on promises to me, being late for everything, showing little appreciation for things i do for them, etc. in other words behaving like spoiled brats.
correct me if im wrong, but in my experience most dominicanos are totally pampered by their mothers (many of them still live at home waaaay into adulthood) their moms cook for them, do their laundry, clean their rooms, practically wipe their asses without ever expecting a thank you. these guys are treated like kings at home and held accountable for nothing (even cheating is rarely frowned upon....see other threads for proof of this...) it's like they do nothing at home, except give their mothers a little cash from time to time.
i cant help but think that this translates into the way they act in relationships. i feel like they seem to always make promises and never follow through (ill be there, ill call you, etc.....) it's like they worship you and tell you everything sweet imaginable but once te han conquistado....forget about it...it's like you don't really hold the same value for them... they only do the work if they haaaaave to... otherwise theyd rather just sit on the sofa and have you cook for them.
any advice and opinions from dominicanas is especially appreciated here. but anyone who can relate or tell me how to deal with this or who thinks ive just met 'the bad ones' please, tell me where are the good ones hiding? or how do i bring out the good behavior instead of the bad?
im an intelligent attractive woman and i love to pamper my man. i just hate feeling like im being taken advantage of and underappreciated.
graaacias por sus opiniones...
it seems to me that dominican men talk A LOT about being great lovers and romancers, etc., but that when it comes down to it they dont really deliver. theyll say anything to make a women feel good in the moment, but when it comes to her real needs and long term work (emotionally, intellectually, physically) theyre just not really interested in doing much once they know the woman is hooked (attached, interested in them, put it how you like...)
i hate stereotyping and believe me im not some ignorant gringa. i speak spanish, have lived and traveled all over latin america and im very familiar with the culture, but my experiences with dominicanos always seem to involve them being lazy, not following through on promises to me, being late for everything, showing little appreciation for things i do for them, etc. in other words behaving like spoiled brats.
correct me if im wrong, but in my experience most dominicanos are totally pampered by their mothers (many of them still live at home waaaay into adulthood) their moms cook for them, do their laundry, clean their rooms, practically wipe their asses without ever expecting a thank you. these guys are treated like kings at home and held accountable for nothing (even cheating is rarely frowned upon....see other threads for proof of this...) it's like they do nothing at home, except give their mothers a little cash from time to time.
i cant help but think that this translates into the way they act in relationships. i feel like they seem to always make promises and never follow through (ill be there, ill call you, etc.....) it's like they worship you and tell you everything sweet imaginable but once te han conquistado....forget about it...it's like you don't really hold the same value for them... they only do the work if they haaaaave to... otherwise theyd rather just sit on the sofa and have you cook for them.
any advice and opinions from dominicanas is especially appreciated here. but anyone who can relate or tell me how to deal with this or who thinks ive just met 'the bad ones' please, tell me where are the good ones hiding? or how do i bring out the good behavior instead of the bad?
im an intelligent attractive woman and i love to pamper my man. i just hate feeling like im being taken advantage of and underappreciated.
graaacias por sus opiniones...