Missy
I think that I knew he was a good guy, because I spent alot of time talking to him and getting to know him before taking it any further. He wanted to spend time with me, and was happy to know that I was living here. Some other men, those looking for some tourist to take them away from life here so they can start a new life, lost interest when they knew I wasn't going back to Canada. I am not saying all are like that, but alot of them haven't gotten through high school, cannot read, and are stuck in a rut. They don't have money, so they cannot afford an education, other than the education that we call LIFE. And what LIFE here has taught them is to do what many of their friends are doing: become SHANKY PANKYS, get money from tourists, and hopefully, one of them will bring them into their country, and they can have a good life. They don't sometimes realize that they have alot, because their families are very tight-knit here, and they are very loved. They take care of each other here. I know a guy who says he was married before, but it wasn't love, it was "business". He wanted the girl to take him away, and when the visa didn't go through, they divorced, and he is still looking for someone else to fall in love with him, and he can get out of this country.
Again, not all are like that. If you want to fall in love here, it is a very easy thing. Get to know the guy first, don't give him money, and don't give in to sex, until you WANT to. Be the one in control, and he will respect you. They can be very aggressive, and you don't want a man like that, anyways. Send me an e-mail before you come down, and perhaps we can meet.
