My daughter, Sara (18 years old) has been sick for over a week. I took her to the emergency room last week, as I was registering her the clerk asked me her age and informed me that she had to signed her own papers now, because she was an ?adult? and she should decide if she wanted the doctors to share information with me. I told her, and whom do you think is going to pay the bill? She laughed and told me it will only get harder for you from now on, she wasn?t kidding.
As I was walking into the room to see the doctor, they asked Sara who had a very bad throat infection, other symptoms and could barely nod, if she wanted me in the room. At this point I was ready to punch the nurse, but I kept my cool. Sara scared out of her mind because she has never been real sick before and this time she was totally out, rolls her eyes at me, she knows exactly what I am thinking. Once we enter the nurse directs all her questions at Sara totally ignoring me, Sara can?t talk she can?t even swallow her saliva, so she is getting annoyed now, besides, she has never managed her health info so she looks at me for guidance. I go into mother overdrive and handle the questions ---yes she was a post term c-section baby c- section for failure to progress (I make no impression on the nurse with my medical terminology) all of her youth health problems dates and so on, the symptoms she has been feeling for last week etc etc? To all my effort the nurse tells me you know after I do the my thing a Teen facilitator will come in and ask questions at that point you have to leave. I was like sure ok in the words of every teen out there ?whaaaaaateveeeeeeeeeeeer? accompany by the rolling of the eyes. :cross-eye
The facilitator has her turn with Sara. My daughter comes back into waiting room to beg me to come back as she can?t really talk and she is counting on me to talk to the doc. The doctor comes in and finally some one with sense who wants to talk to the parent. I answer all kinds of questions express my concern at what they keep calling a viral infection, that nothing can be done but ride it out. This seems to be the common diagnosis nowadays everything is a viral infection that one has to let run its course. I ask the doctor why all this hostility towards parents in the hospital nowadays she says is not hostility is that patients over 18 are consider adults and they have rights. I said well that is fine and dandy but when your child is sick you forget that they are 18, 25 or 56. She says I totally understand, but we are concern about the young adults feeling like we care and we can help them.
I ask Sara what the teen facilitator talked to her about (you didn?t think I wasn?t going to ask did you? :devious: ) she said Maaaaaaaaaaa you are so noisy, yes I am, that is how I know what is going on in your life, my job. She told me the facilitator ask about sex and depression and informed her that they have a Teen Rap Center that offers treatment for health maintenance, pregnancy concerns, reproductive care, HIV testing, sexual transmitted diseases and give them info about birth control. Physicians, Nurse Practitioners, Physician Assistants, Social Workers, Health Educators, and Medical Assistants run the center. This is all free all you need is your student ID. The part that annoyed me, is this ?Parental consent is NOT needed for sexually-related concerns or health care.? This program is for kids from 13 and up. So for those of you who are saying what is she talking about her daughter is 18, she is an ?adult?. Yes she is an adult but13 is not an adult and the program starts at 13. The program seems like a good thing but why exclude the parent why not set up a program where the parents are involved as well. Many parent believe it or not talk to their teens inform them of the options and the responsibilities of being sexually active. I have been talking to Sara for years because she is such a mature person I have talked to her openly about many things at a very early time.
The DR content, besides that I am a Dominican mom raising my girls with some of the values my parents raised me. In the DR Those of you who have young adults what are the procedure for medical care for young adults? Has anyone else gone thru this, am I just a parent that doesn?t want to let go? Would a program like this work in DR? Are Teens given too much rights and not enough responsibilities? (I believe in the US they are).
I while ago there was a thread about sexual education in the DR. I strongly agree that such programs are good, but the parent can?t and shouldn?t be excluded. As parents we have to take responsibility to talk to our children to inform them early on about the choices they will have to make and the outcome of such choices. I don?t want an outside agency to exclude me from talking to my daughters about such things from listening to their thoughts, and giving them guidance.
Lina
This having ?adults? kids is new to me?..Help!!!
As I was walking into the room to see the doctor, they asked Sara who had a very bad throat infection, other symptoms and could barely nod, if she wanted me in the room. At this point I was ready to punch the nurse, but I kept my cool. Sara scared out of her mind because she has never been real sick before and this time she was totally out, rolls her eyes at me, she knows exactly what I am thinking. Once we enter the nurse directs all her questions at Sara totally ignoring me, Sara can?t talk she can?t even swallow her saliva, so she is getting annoyed now, besides, she has never managed her health info so she looks at me for guidance. I go into mother overdrive and handle the questions ---yes she was a post term c-section baby c- section for failure to progress (I make no impression on the nurse with my medical terminology) all of her youth health problems dates and so on, the symptoms she has been feeling for last week etc etc? To all my effort the nurse tells me you know after I do the my thing a Teen facilitator will come in and ask questions at that point you have to leave. I was like sure ok in the words of every teen out there ?whaaaaaateveeeeeeeeeeeer? accompany by the rolling of the eyes. :cross-eye
The facilitator has her turn with Sara. My daughter comes back into waiting room to beg me to come back as she can?t really talk and she is counting on me to talk to the doc. The doctor comes in and finally some one with sense who wants to talk to the parent. I answer all kinds of questions express my concern at what they keep calling a viral infection, that nothing can be done but ride it out. This seems to be the common diagnosis nowadays everything is a viral infection that one has to let run its course. I ask the doctor why all this hostility towards parents in the hospital nowadays she says is not hostility is that patients over 18 are consider adults and they have rights. I said well that is fine and dandy but when your child is sick you forget that they are 18, 25 or 56. She says I totally understand, but we are concern about the young adults feeling like we care and we can help them.
I ask Sara what the teen facilitator talked to her about (you didn?t think I wasn?t going to ask did you? :devious: ) she said Maaaaaaaaaaa you are so noisy, yes I am, that is how I know what is going on in your life, my job. She told me the facilitator ask about sex and depression and informed her that they have a Teen Rap Center that offers treatment for health maintenance, pregnancy concerns, reproductive care, HIV testing, sexual transmitted diseases and give them info about birth control. Physicians, Nurse Practitioners, Physician Assistants, Social Workers, Health Educators, and Medical Assistants run the center. This is all free all you need is your student ID. The part that annoyed me, is this ?Parental consent is NOT needed for sexually-related concerns or health care.? This program is for kids from 13 and up. So for those of you who are saying what is she talking about her daughter is 18, she is an ?adult?. Yes she is an adult but13 is not an adult and the program starts at 13. The program seems like a good thing but why exclude the parent why not set up a program where the parents are involved as well. Many parent believe it or not talk to their teens inform them of the options and the responsibilities of being sexually active. I have been talking to Sara for years because she is such a mature person I have talked to her openly about many things at a very early time.
The DR content, besides that I am a Dominican mom raising my girls with some of the values my parents raised me. In the DR Those of you who have young adults what are the procedure for medical care for young adults? Has anyone else gone thru this, am I just a parent that doesn?t want to let go? Would a program like this work in DR? Are Teens given too much rights and not enough responsibilities? (I believe in the US they are).
I while ago there was a thread about sexual education in the DR. I strongly agree that such programs are good, but the parent can?t and shouldn?t be excluded. As parents we have to take responsibility to talk to our children to inform them early on about the choices they will have to make and the outcome of such choices. I don?t want an outside agency to exclude me from talking to my daughters about such things from listening to their thoughts, and giving them guidance.
Lina
This having ?adults? kids is new to me?..Help!!!
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