I dont get it

[Angel_04]

Thanks JDJones, I will take that as a compliment. I may be older than alot of the babes at the resorts, but I think I can hold my own. And besides, I do know how to talk the talk and walk the walk. It seems that everyone already has passed judgement on me and thinks that I am a fool. Dont be too sure, because I got what I wanted too. And if I spent a few dollars, so what, dont men do that all the time, and than go home alone anyway. Who ever said that I went home alone, or that I didnt have a good time while on vacation. After all I am going back in a few weeks, so I dont see where this is such a bad thing. I am old enough to know what I am doing and what I want. I do not have low self esteem, or think I should not be treated good, and I always try to do the same to others. If two adults want to do the deed, than whats wrong with that. as long as they are careful, and know what the end results will be.......Love em, Leave em, Come back and see em.....if they were any good at all, and I dont just mean in bed. Sometimes people can develope a friendship. After all Most of the people out there putting in their two cent$ seem to know all the SANKIES, and claim to just be friends. And they sure know alot about them....nothing better to do ? Hey, I think I am finally getting this whole thing.....its an on line "venting session" that you dont have to pay a shrink to share with, and get the standard normal response....."1) yes, I see. 2) "why are you setting yourself up" 3) what is it that you are really looking for " 4) were you mistreated when you were little and now you are looking to be loved by anyone that shows you some attention" Well, just think about how much money we are all saving each other. What a burn to the medical field...:glasses:

Blondie woman, I am all for women to be sexually liberated, and not have issue exploring their sexuality... it's wonderful. If you truly had enjoyed yourself and didn't mind blowing your cash.. then who the hell cares. You had a good time and that is that... let it go and move on ... I couldn't agree more.
You didn't have to justify anything to me or anyone else on dr1...

However, I must say that I don't believe some of the bs that you are shovelling at us now... You were just soooo desperate to find out info on your man...I mean, I had never seen ANYONE post so psychotically ... stupidity deleted.. start another.. deleted... hell, start another... insanity!!! But, ya whatever... you are totally rational now... all better... perfecta :cheeky: Now we can all sleep at night :bunny: Muchos gracias!

 

[blondie woman]

and the reason is

this was the first time I have actually participated in "online" anything like this, never had to, or even thought about it before. I am not crazy, but am a little concerned about my return trip coming up with in a few weeks. I just got bit by the wild jungle bug on vacation, had a taste of the kinda fun I had when I was 21, enjoyed it as I have always been a bit of a wild child that really has never grown up....just have been playing the part of the responsible working woman, mom, grandma, and "wife" for so long, and I'm not complaining cause it has been great. But my kids have their own lives now, and I wanted just a taste of the wild life again. It was fun. But since I am going back, and planning a trip with my "husband" from the dominican ( why he referes to himself as that I dont know, and I am his wife...never wanted to play house with this guy) I have others to consider. I do not want my family hurt or exploited in any way by my Hanky Panky with A Sankie. It would be devistating. I am not proud of my behavior, and than at the same time I am not ashamed. I know my family just wouldnt understand, and my grandkids are too little, well except for my one grandchild, and he would think his gran was going to hell, he is a very good boy, and it would hurt him if he thought I was mean to his pappa (gramps) In retrospect, just looking out for myself, and my family. And I do always make sure that rain wear is worn if needed. I dont care if the guy I am with doesnt like to dress his soldier boy appropriatly for the plunge. And if he doesnt he can not go out in the rain. I may be sexually liberated, but I'm not nuts

 

[Angel_04]

Blondie woman, you say that your self-esteem is perfectly in tact, then do tell... WHY are u bothering with this dirty sanky?? I am sure you must know that you deserve better than that! There are some really good, family oriented men with values in the DR... get out of the tourist areas and you just might meet one. Ok skeptics, there REALLY are Dominican men out there who are honest and faithful (not sure how MANY but they do exist! lol) ...

If it was simply FUN that you're after, then you wouldn't have gone so insane trying to get info on him.. you wouldn't care... you know what I am saying??? It wouldn't matter if he was a sanky or player or whatever--you wouldn't have mentioned his name online cos it wouldn't matter how many OTHER women he is with or even what he is up to. So let's be honest, you have feelings for him and that is why you are mainly going back... I wish you could "leave your feelings at the front door", have your fun and forget about him when you get home.. but.. look at ya!! You're out of control! Out of control I tell ya! lol.

 

[blondie woman]

ya, I'm not a monster

ya, I have feelings for him, but not in the way you think. I am not a cold hearted B****. I am going back because I fell in love with the island, and the wonder and the beauty of it. I dont ever forget people that I connected with , some good , some bad. I have asked Alex for help and guess what he has also helped me. It is not a one way street. and if it does become that, well I will day good night. I have friends in Jamaica that I stay in touch with and see when I go there. I also have friedns in Cancun that i see when I am there. Aruba, Barbados, and 2 in Brazil. Next year I am going to my "husbands" home in Venice, and if I make some friedns there I will also stay in touch with them. This all started out as one time shot cause I came across this sight by accident, and was curious about all this Sankie stuff. I thought it was rather interesting, and now here I am....hooked, maybe we are all Sankies, just looking for other things from one another, as opposed to money or a visa. We keep throwing out the questions/ comments, and love it when we get a nibble, and when we land the big one...well you know how this goes, you have been at it a while from how threads you have got involved with, and people you have helped, or people you have hurt with your comments. And I am sure my little rebuttle here isnt going to change you or me or the other half of the people who are viewing this right now......Good night, and I hope you have a brighter day tomarrow.....

 

[DominicanScotty]

It's what they are told.....

Now I want to go to some of those resoerts again and see if i can spot some of these guys working their scam!

oh actually come to think of it i saw one that i recognized as a sankie in....SANTIAGO!!!!!!!!!! he was at the casino.... and he thought he was a real gift to women....I could actually see him trying to work into groups. he eventually wound up with a white woman on the large side, with so so looks..not ugly, not attractive....it was funny watching him.

when at the resorts i have been to, I can honestly say i have never seen it !!!!!!!!!but I have never satyed at a resort for more than 2 nights.....usually just a place to spend the night while in that town......


I doubt Ill be able to find a room in Puerto plata or sosua for easter weekend now!......

were gonna try that helicopter ride, and might want to sleep over.

bob

Hi Bob,

You are right but we can't go blaming the player if we don't like the game. Really, we can't blame these guys because they are being enabled. There is one plane after another touching down at La Union Intl full of tourists with that "doinked" look. I know you seen them too as I have. Some have been "doinked" so many times that they are just plain "doinked out". I go to the airport alot to pick up and drop off friends and associates. I see the pale white faces of the "doinked" ones coming out of the terminal and the pinkish, reddish sunburned "doinked" faces of the ones that are leaving. Hey, as long as they are getting what they are paying for then it is their business and their busines alone. It's the ones that cry FOUL that absolutely drive many of us DR1ers insane. Come on, you are playing a game whether you want to admit it or not. The fact that you don't realize it is a game is not the sankies/putas fault it is YOURS! Learn the game if you want to play. Play at your own risk, play it well or quit! But stop crying!

What bothers me is when on rare occurances a tourist gets seriously hurt as the (ooops sorry) Canadian woman did a year and a half ago. Her Dominican husband (yes they were married) went into a jealous rage and beat her face into a pulp, nearly strangled her to death and left her for dead taking the credit cards, and automobile (which were also in his name) with him. She laid in a Puerto Plata hospital for three days before the Canadian Embassy escorted her back to Canada. The poor woman never knew what hit her until it was too late. She admitted that she was mesmerized by the mystique of the Domincan lover.


A couple of years ago a European (not sure where he was from) was found murdered after he went back into the jungle with a Haitian puta. A Haitian man was found wearing his watch. It happens people and it is never good news when it does. But thankfully it doesn't happen often. However, once again, for the ones that are foolish and don't know how to play this game it can get dangerous.

I hear tourists commenting about the glazed looks that putas have while they cruise the clubs. A different player, the same kind of game just a different face. Putas desensitize themself to an occuptation that many of them despise doing. However the money is there and so they put that face on and bear it all to horney, oversexed, intoxicated men that worship them all night just to get them between the sheets. They hear it over and over and over again just how hot they are.

Now back to the sankie. These guys are idolized like they are rock stars. They strut around the resort as if they are a God because the female tourists make them this way. All day long they are gawked at with that "doinked" look and hear the loud sexual comments. Again, you can't blame these guys for what they are doing.

Do I like this sankie business? No, I think it is humorous but still it is disgusting. Most people that choose to live here will agree with me. We deal with it because it is a way of life for many Dominicans and the demand for their craft is not going away anytime soon! It is something that was here a long time ago and will be here as long as there are silly Jillys and Willys to come down here to frolic in their world.

 

[blondie woman]

a new question

I am really getting an education here, and I will thank my lucky stars ) and i am sure God ) that I came across this sight. I just read a very disturbing post. and I thought I didnt get it before...this was a real shocker to me. Is it true that there have been women, as well as men that have gone back down to the DR for a "call back" and ended up as victims of "domestic abuse" ? Having the crap beat out of them while at a resort or on a holiday with their new DR lover, friend, etc. I'm sure this is not unique to DR, and not all men or women are violent or take things to such extremes, but I am going back down there soon, alone to meet up with my friend, his sister and his cousin. What the heck have I stepped into here. There are many crazy things here in the states, but in my little ho-hum life, I dont get beat up, dont worry about being murdered, and am not afraid to walk around late at night. maybe I am just a total fool. I think I really am going to have my "husband" come with me. he was staying home cause he knows how I can handel myself, but I dont think we are as wordly and wise as we like to believe. He thinks I will be safe with Alexandro because he knows him, but he doesnt know everything...I NEED SOME ADVISE ! go ahead let the dirt fly, tell me like it is....I really need to know. I am very worried.
Thanks from: ONE BLONDE who DOESNT want to be know as the DUMBEST BLONDE EVER

 

[DominicanScotty]

It happens everywhere, domestic violence that is!

I am really getting an education here, and I will thank my lucky stars ) and i am sure God ) that I came across this sight. I just read a very disturbing post. and I thought I didnt get it before...this was a real shocker to me. Is it true that there have been women, as well as men that have gone back down to the DR for a "call back" and ended up as victims of "domestic abuse" ? Having the crap beat out of them while at a resort or on a holiday with their new DR lover, friend, etc. I'm sure this is not unique to DR, and not all men or women are violent or take things to such extremes, but I am going back down there soon, alone to meet up with my friend, his sister and his cousin. What the heck have I stepped into here. There are many crazy things here in the states, but in my little ho-hum life, I dont get beat up, dont worry about being murdered, and am not afraid to walk around late at night. maybe I am just a total fool. I think I really am going to have my "husband" come with me. he was staying home cause he knows how I can handel myself, but I dont think we are as wordly and wise as we like to believe. He thinks I will be safe with Alexandro because he knows him, but he doesnt know everything...I NEED SOME ADVISE ! go ahead let the dirt fly, tell me like it is....I really need to know. I am very worried.
Thanks from: ONE BLONDE who DOESNT want to be know as the DUMBEST BLONDE EVER

Hi Blonde,

I am not trying to scare anyone and if I did it was not my intention to do so. However, the truth is the truth and these incidents do and have happened. It happens everywhere in the world but we are discussing the Dominican Republic and these things do happen here. Sorry if the truth hits hard but....

I was in The New York Shark Bar with the Canadian woman and her Dominican husband on that fateful night. We were in the Shark Bar on the beach after dark and things were going well. Big Lou had the music playing nicely and the night was gorgeous. I can't remember the woman's name although I am sure Louie does. She was a friendly woman and she was having a great time. The booze was kicking in for both her and her hubby. The hubby was friendly at first but as his wife began flirting a little too much with the guys in the bar his mood changed and he grew dark and quiet. Sometime later he decided that enough was enough and they left. Nobody ever dreamed for a second that this man was going home with his wife to beat her face in and nearly strangled her to death.

The incident involving the European happened I believe last year or so. Yes, that too did happen. The fellow left with a Haitian puta and went off into some barrio somewhere. Yes, he was murdered and later a Haitian was found wearing the gentleman's watch.

Again, these incidents don't happen everyday. I cannot say this enough that the Dominican Republic is probably much safer then your own home town. However, they do happen just as they do anywhere else in the world where you have unknowing people wandering into unknown and otherwise dangerous areas with strangers. Keep in mind that as a tourist chances are you do not know the other person you are with too well. You might think you know them but in all honesty how well do you know them? If you picked up a stranger in your home town you run the same risks as anywhere else on the planet. Would you pick up a stranger or be picked up by a stranger and just get on the back of a motoconcho with him or her in your own home town and head off into the darkness with them? Then the very rhetorical question is this. Why would you do it anywhere else? There is an answer to this ridiculous question and it is this:

The problem with tourists is they are under the false sense of security that they are in paradise, they are on vacation and nothing bad is going to happen to them.

 

[blondie woman]

Thank you

Thank you for being so observant and noticing my cry for help as well as advise. I never even gave any of this a second though, just like you said, I'm on vacation having fun....what could happen. This sight has sometimes upset me, but I do thank God that I found it...it has given me a very insightful big picture. Its so easy in such a wonder place as the DR to become mezmerized
and overly confident. I will not take so many chances. Fun is Fun, but now we are talking a whole different ball game. and I dont think I want to be part of that team. Just decided, my Big Wonderful Italian husband is going with me for my birthday vacation.....I know he loves me, and I am always safe with him. He trys to warn me and take care of me....but I always think the best of people, and most of the time things go well, and all is fine, but I DONT WANT TO BE WRONG THIS ONE TIME..THAT COULD BE ONE TIME TOO MANY..thanks for sharing, I consider you a true caring good guy !!!!
Blondie Woman

 

[marliejaneca]

Dominican Scotty,
Thank you for your wonderful posts! I am so glad you are a patient man, because the rest of us just ended up frustrated in trying to reason with blondiewoman. I think you have finally gotten the point across, and hopefully to a number of the women who access this board as well.

Blondiewoman,
I am happy to hear you are thinking with your head now and not other parts of your body!!!
You have to imagine our total frustration when someone asks for advice and information, we try to tell them how it is, and they refuse to listen? We may have come down hard on you, but you were (like Angel_04 said) out of control. I have never seen such chaotic posting during my years on the board. It became hard to take you serious, and yes, we all thought you were either a "sock puppet" or a lunatic.
I am glad that you have now settled down and can see the situation clearly ( as opposed to when you had your rose-coloured glasses on)!
Go with your husband, enjoy the vacation, and come home with wonderful memories.
Do us a favour, though, if you see your "friend" in action, warn the poor unsuspecting female, tell her your story, save this girls' heart from breaking. It will make you feel like a million bucks to help another individual, and it will save us all from probably having to answer these questions all other again!!!LOL

Marlie

 

[Baby Girl]

Have any of you been anywhere else in the world beside the Dominican Republic? Pick any country where there is tourism, go ahead, pick one and go there. There will be "sankies" there as well. There are gigilos that hang out in NYC night clubs that prey on foreign tourists for Pete's sake.

It's not limited to the Dominican Republic!

I completely agree .... I've been many other places and there are sankies EVERYWHERE!
Saw some in Mexico(x2), Cuba(x2), and many other places.

*Baby Girl

 

[Baby Girl]

Blondie Woman,

It is nice to see that people have finally talked some sense into you and that you have calmed down (like other posters have pointed out).
You cant blame everyone for acting the way they did when you first started posting, it was a litte crazy! You seemed like another sock puppet to me. But hey I guess we got passed all that and you seem like a smart sensible woman.

Take your husband with you on your trip and I hope you have fun.
Remember, dont let these sankies have the best of you, us woman are way smarter than that.

If all you're looking for is fun, then have it and forget about it when you come back home.

*Baby Girl

 

[DominicanScotty]

Been there done that too!

I am not one to sit on my pedestal and look down on the rest of the world. When I began coming down here to the Dominican Republic in 1993 I was perhaps one of the most clueless tourists around at the time. A Correction Officer traveling with other Correction Officers we thought we were the deal. How wrong we were! Anything that could possibly happen to a tourist happened to us from being ripped off by taxi drivers and clubs to being ripped off and threatened by putas and their chulos. They didn't give a damn that we had badges in our pockets, they didn't give a hoot that we were Americans from New York either. This is their country, their world and they let us know that we were visitors there.

IT IS THEIR SANDBOX AND THEY OWN THE SHOVEL,THE BUCKET AND SAND!

Although I cannot say I was "sankified" by a puta or resort worker I can admit that I had a couple of girlfriends whom I met through introductions (not out in the street) which turned into nightmares. I know what I know now because I learned the hard way. I didn't have a DR1.com to help me out. I did not know anyone at the time and I was completely on my own.

Now, more then 10 years later and a degree I earned from the "school of hard knocks" I can now proudly say that I have learned the ropes and know my way around this great country. It didn't happen quickly and it didn't come easy, but I learned.

This is not directed at anyone in particular. It is for those that want to make changes in the way and manner in which they are viewing the beautiful enchanting island country of the Dominican Republic. Myself, much like many people on the board want new comers to enjoy their stay here. We want you to have the wonderful time here that we have all had and want to insure that you leave here happy, safe and would want to come back again, and again and again!