ricktoronto said:
I agree there are some idiot gringos who fall in love basically with anyone who will give them attention, but the norm in BC at least is that it is a transaction, not a "date" , no meals, and drinks, etc., suing teh throwing good money after bad adage.
Sure the girl will then try to string the gringo along for Western Union money ( I have helped girls translate into English the same e-mail to 5 guys at once). Other than the suckers like that, it is an hour, or a massage parlor, in and out of the hotel after the in and out IN the hotel.
I can not make a qualified statement about the working women of BC because I have only been in BC one time. I can however share my experiences in other parts of the DR, especially in the South.
Up front I will tell you that I have been a player. Give them the money, do your thing, then move on.
90% of all of the women I have ever met in the DR worked in bars, restaurants, or in the tourist trade, so as a gringo I thought they were all professional working girls. Not until last year did I realize that their occupation did not always dictate my way of thinking. Believe me there are many women working in these types of industries who are not players. They work to make a living and to meet someone to share their lives with. Not all women in the DR can be had for money or the hope of moving to the US or Europe.
I know from experience that you can pick up a date, develop a casual relationship and have sex, (sometimes on the first date) and find out that the woman you are with is not a hooker, punta, or whore. In fact you can even fall in love with women in these places. As CC said, ?where else in the world can a 50+ year old man, 50lbs., overweight, find a rock hard, knock dead beauty, that would even give them the time of day.
With that said, why not buy a dinner and a few drinks. Who knows, you may have some great conversation, find out what the girl is all about, realize that she is just like the girls back home, but lives in a whole different world than you could ever understand, and have a great time with a beauty, whether you get laid or not. Don?t worry, if that is all you want there are plenty of female players who will gladly take your heart and you money.
As jrzguy said, ?it?s all about respect of the other person.?
Charlie