There is no one near us and although the public education system is supposed to have a child psychiatrist in each district it appears that there is not one. I know nothing about psychiatry but what I believe is that this is not a one off fix. He would need regular visits and I am afraid that is not logically or financially possible when you live in the middle of nowhere with limited access to public transport. We just do the best we can with Dr. google and this thread has been invaluable with advice from those who have been there, done that. Talking with people who have gone through similar issues in the US, with access to the best psychiatrists, drugs, hospitals they have all told me the same. Waste of time and in the end they have had to ask the child to move out or he has been jailed or whatever. Admittedly a small sample. We just do the best we can and fingers crossed it might work - got to give it a chance. Luckily there are no drugs here in the mountains and he has no access to alcohol so that might help.
Matilda
You can guess that I kinda knew the answer about having professional support before I wrote. Keeping living life situations in perspective to others sometimes needs a kick.
Their is NEVER a "one off fix". If their were, we as a people would not have these challenges. It's a one on one, day at a time, baby steps.
My son/s did not do so well. I leaned after a long time of hurt that it was not ME. Our daughter, second wife, turned out to be a challenge also in her teens. (Like WHO has not been their?) But we built the foundation of doing right and "morals?" was instilled her. After her own time of discovery she become a wonderful, happily married, working, wife/partner/equal with a son in law that is her equal raising 2 children of their own. We could not be prouder.
You do what you can. You support as you can. You hope for the best. You get beat down and you get up and do it again.
But sometimes you have to know when to say 'good bye".
Matilda is not near having to say "good bye" yet.
Let's here about some cooking tonight.