personally, i know of way more women who cheated on their men than the other way around. and ALL of these women cheated because they didn't respect their partner. most of them were right though, because they didn't even have to buy a vacation in the bahamas for the man to take them back.
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Women??? Cheating???? Noooooooooo!!!!! :cheeky:
Think men are the unfaithful sex? A study shows WOMEN are the biggest cheats - they're just better at lying about it | Mail Online
Infidelity, Cheating Wives - Women's Infidelity
And I always thought that women made the best, most sensible, decisions when choosing a relationship .....
Sex is cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're failing in life. - By Mark Regnerus - Slate Magazine
Where Have the Good Men Gone? - WSJ.com
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Think men are the unfaithful sex? A study shows WOMEN are the biggest cheats - they're just better at lying about it | Mail Online
Infidelity, Cheating Wives - Women's Infidelity
And I always thought that women made the best, most sensible, decisions when choosing a relationship .....
Sex is cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're failing in life. - By Mark Regnerus - Slate Magazine
Where Have the Good Men Gone? - WSJ.com
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Different perspective I guess, but being a woman, I know a lot more men that cheat (I am being honest here and I have a lot of males friends who speak openly around me). I have seen male friend cheat even though I am 1000 % sure that they love their wife/girlfriend. This is something a lot less common in women when they are really in love.
Women that I saw cheat did to it for revenge, or because their relationship was dead anyway but didn't end it, and so on....Never really saw women who do it for the thrill of it (not to say that it does not happen, but from what I have seen).
Oh for the love of God....
Sleeping with someone outside of the marriage or relationship does NOT mean you don't love your partner, it does NOT mean you don't respect your partner, it does NOT mean you don't value your relationship....get real. We are sexual beings and if I had to sleep with the same person for the rest of my life I'd kill myself.
Women who accept that their partner has wandering hands do NOT have to have low self-esteem, they do NOT have to have low-confidence, etc. If I am in love with a man who occasionally wanders, who the f*ck cares. If he loves me, respects me, and performs his husbandly duties without incidence.....fine.
Take my son's grandparents (on his father's side). His GF took care of his household, worked hard, provided his wife and kids with what they needed, and was always very loving to his wife and kids. The GM found out he had a side piece in some campo and goes off. Mind you, she heard this from 3rd parties. This woman never called her, never harassed her. I mean for Gods sake she lived 2 hours away. My son's GM began harping on her husband, nagging, and nagging... kicking him out, taking him back, kicking him out. Finally, he's like "f*ck it" and leaves her a$$ for good. Now he has himself a new woman, la vida tranquila, and she's sitting in her house wallowing in self-pity, age 57 looking 80. I've seen pictures of her "before the break-up"...gorgeous! And now she looks like the witch in Snow White. Lost the only man that ever truly loved her and for what??
Some of you are kidding yourselves....
Whatever man I end up with...I will enjoy myself, he will enjoy himself, and we will enjoy each other.
SHALENA
Sleeping with someone outside of the marriage or relationship does NOT mean you don't love your partner, it does NOT mean you don't respect your partner, it does NOT mean you don't value your relationship....get real. We are sexual beings and if I had to sleep with the same person for the rest of my life I'd kill myself.
Women who accept that their partner has wandering hands do NOT have to have low self-esteem, they do NOT have to have low-confidence, etc. If I am in love with a man who occasionally wanders, who the f*ck cares. If he loves me, respects me, and performs his husbandly duties without incidence.....fine.
Take my son's grandparents (on his father's side). His GF took care of his household, worked hard, provided his wife and kids with what they needed, and was always very loving to his wife and kids. The GM found out he had a side piece in some campo and goes off. Mind you, she heard this from 3rd parties. This woman never called her, never harassed her. I mean for Gods sake she lived 2 hours away. My son's GM began harping on her husband, nagging, and nagging... kicking him out, taking him back, kicking him out. Finally, he's like "f*ck it" and leaves her a$$ for good. Now he has himself a new woman, la vida tranquila, and she's sitting in her house wallowing in self-pity, age 57 looking 80. I've seen pictures of her "before the break-up"...gorgeous! And now she looks like the witch in Snow White. Lost the only man that ever truly loved her and for what??
Some of you are kidding yourselves....
Whatever man I end up with...I will enjoy myself, he will enjoy himself, and we will enjoy each other.
SHALENA
What about what the kids learn through mommy's behavior of bedding multiple men whenever she wants to?
Isn't setting a living example for children even more important than mommy's pleasure?
I'm A-OK with folks diddling all they want...but not at the expense of impressionable minds.
I guess I'm old fashioned. I always thought that the moment a child is brought into the world, the parents have an obligation to sacrifice much of their lives and *pleasure* for the proper rearing of that child. And unless folks want their child to also jump from bed to bed on a whim because mommy and/or daddy did it, therefore it's OK, that includes sacrificing some of a promiscuous self-centered sex life.
Kids learn first and foremost from their parents: love, hate, domestic and other violence, relationships, priorities in life, how to treat pets and other humans, honesty, thrift, everything.
Disfunction breeds disfunction.
I can PM you my number and I don't mind you asking my kids how many men they have seen in my house
SHALENA
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Please learn how to spell "dysfunction", I really can't take you seriously or absorb all of your judgemental rants because the spelling is distracting me.
SHALENA
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Please learn how to spell "dysfunction", I really can't take you seriously or absorb all of your judgemental rants because the spelling is distracting me.
Forgive my speeling. I posted before my iSpeel doesn't work on DR1.
But you obviously get my point or you wouldn't be picking nits in defense.
I merely asked the question: what are the children supposed to think? Kids are a LOT more observant than many adults give them credit.
Now you are just being catty: dys- is a Greek prefix meaning "bad", "abnormal", "difficult", or "impaired".
dis- is a Latin prefix with none of the above meanings.
dys- has the right meaning, but function is a Latin word. Hence the confusion.
P.S. Merriam-Webster has this under "dis- prefix": "5 [by folk etymology]: DYS- <disfunction>".
Language is about communication, and regardless of the spelling, the meaning was clear. There is a clear difference between cheating (infidelity, or deception by a loved one) which destroys trust, and an open relationship where one is free to have sex with whomever one wishes. To most people this means you are not committed to the relationship, however whatever floats your boat. I had my share of unfaithful girlfriends and was a player myself, in relationships where I wasn't emotionally committed. When I'm committed though, I'm committed, and I don't like to share.
That is true....kids are very observant which is why I am not worried about mine. Just a few weeks ago my 11 y.o. daughter asked me when can she have a boyfriend and go out on dates. I told her as soon as I had a boyfriend and went out on some dates....she said "that'll take foreeeeeeever!"
I guess they would pick up more if I was getting all dolled up to go somewhere, but when your mama is fine all the time, you can't tell the difference.
SHALENA
Maybe.
But is the potential damage to the kids worth the risk?
Some would say no. Others would say yes.
We are all free to choose.
But kids see alot more than adults might think. I know I did.
Frankly, I never had kids because I've never been sure I could live up to the standards necessary to raise a wholesome, mentally and emotionally healthy kid. I know of no harder job on the planet. And I have a huge admiration for folks I know (like Hillbilly and Chip, just to name two) who DO have what it takes. Guaranteed their kids will grow up more well rounded and stable than many in today's society who view kids almost like inconvenient pets, more concerned for themselves than for the overall well-being of the kids (chill, Shalana, not aimed at you.)
To get a good glimpse of the future of a given culture, go look at the kids and the parents who raised them.
That is true. It cannot work if someone is lying, and hiding things. I can assume that my man is occasionally satisfying himself somewhere else but if I got the right man there will never be any solid proof because an occasional romp is just that. And he will keep that sh*t in check
Some women are soooo stupid that they can't see the forest because of the trees.
SHALENA
OMG!!! I could say some things right now but I won't cuz I try not to talk badly about Christian folk but I'll just say this...please watch people carefully before you "admire" them. Watch how they interact with their spouses and children before you call them God's gift to parenting.....
SHALENA
Funny how fast people forget what it was like to be children, and I'm speaking in general here so please no one take any particular offense.
Kids are more hypersexualized than ever before, and recreational drug uses/alcoholism has been around forever. Every parent I know who does recreational drugs, drinks or sleeps around says the same thing-"my children don't know what I do because I hide it from them", or the classic "I act so natural when I'm drunk/high that my kids don't suspect".
Kids know, they are just unwilling to suffer the disappointment of having such a monumentally confrontational discussion with parents. They have instincts and are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for. What they won't do is shout their parents out because in this cruel world of ours, a mother/father is usually the last line of defense for children and they know it. Most would be unwilling to break that bond of trust to tell a parent "yeah, I know what you do. Don't think I'm so stupid".
That disappointment gets compartmentalized and buried. And when they grow older and act out, many parents remain stupefied and think, "where did they learn this from?" They learned it from the home and from their equally dysfunctional peers at school.
Kids are more hypersexualized than ever before, and recreational drug uses/alcoholism has been around forever. Every parent I know who does recreational drugs, drinks or sleeps around says the same thing-"my children don't know what I do because I hide it from them", or the classic "I act so natural when I'm drunk/high that my kids don't suspect".
Kids know, they are just unwilling to suffer the disappointment of having such a monumentally confrontational discussion with parents. They have instincts and are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for. What they won't do is shout their parents out because in this cruel world of ours, a mother/father is usually the last line of defense for children and they know it. Most would be unwilling to break that bond of trust to tell a parent "yeah, I know what you do. Don't think I'm so stupid".
That disappointment gets compartmentalized and buried. And when they grow older and act out, many parents remain stupefied and think, "where did they learn this from?" They learned it from the home and from their equally dysfunctional peers at school.
Pretty clear who you mean, Shalana, like it's not transparent. Real classy. Does "that person" talk sh!t about you?
I don't recall I EVER called anyone "God's gift to parenting." That doesn't mean I don't admire what they do, because I do. Men (the generic "humankind" men for the uber-PC crowd), as I have repeatedly said, are flawed. Some more than others. Some less than others.
My dad used to tell me: "Son, if you want to see what a girl will become, just look at her mother." After 59 years of observation, I can say he's right. Again. Same holds true for fathers. My solid male friends have solid kids. My dYsfunctional male friends largely have dysfunctional kids.
Funny how it works that way. Amazing.:cheeky:
And after hiring thousands of RNs, LPNs, HHAs, MSW, PTs, etc, over the years, I could write a book about high-functioning codependants and their children.
Perfect example-there is a Dominican in my building who by all external accounts appears to be the perfect family man. Goes to work, comes home, provides for his family-"un hombre serio" as Dominicans say. Two years ago his daughter developed into a young woman and all she does is prance about in the most ridiculous hoochie outfits I've ever seen. Her boyfriend is the prototypical teenage jag-off who is allowed to visit her home wearing his pants so low every bit of his underwear shows.
If this cat were any type of father he wouldn't allow this. He lives under the same roof as his kids but apparently has no control over this, or he sees nothing wrong with it. When there are no standards at home, kids gravitate to whatever will garner them the most attention for the least amount of effort. This is especially true of young girls, whose self-esteem issues always play themselves out in a sexual fashion.
Sometimes it's not always about the example one sets as a parent, but of the example one fails to project.
If this cat were any type of father he wouldn't allow this. He lives under the same roof as his kids but apparently has no control over this, or he sees nothing wrong with it. When there are no standards at home, kids gravitate to whatever will garner them the most attention for the least amount of effort. This is especially true of young girls, whose self-esteem issues always play themselves out in a sexual fashion.
Sometimes it's not always about the example one sets as a parent, but of the example one fails to project.
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