Do Dominican women make good wives?

[nas]

I am sort of an eccentric and very particular with many things, women included. I would admit to being shallow with certain things, as well.

Family must be the center of her universe for my woman. If my immediate family, children and I, are not her priority, something is wrong. It wouldn't work! Why? simply because the opposite must also be true.

Respect: It shouldn't be lost, ever. Simply not acceptable!

Innocence: Not to be confused with ignorance. There is nothing more precious than a woman who has procreated life, yet her innocence remains intact. Priceless!

I have a weakness for pretty women. hence, my shallowness.. Yeah, pretty is subjective as some might argue.
This would include grooming, neatness and dressing for the occasion. Some might argue this as being vain, shallow or unimportant. Those things matter to me.

These are some of the traits I would look for in a woman with whom I would plan to embark on a long term relationship.
If these traits are missing, next!

I lot of Dominican women have these traits and I am fortunate I got one.

Yeah, I know. They lie, steal, "No es mi culpa" and whatever else someone will come up with.

As a reminder, it is important to choose wisely and every now and then say, "next!"

 

[dv8]

i am totally with you on the point of grooming i used the word "vain" for a reason, in order to mock. but it is true that dominicanas are well taken care of, sometimes to the point of absurd when a woman will go hungry but get her nails done
i do my nails, btw, but only because i am too lazy to haul my ass to the salon just for that. but hair? no. waste of time to spend four hours in the salon just to cut four centimeters off my hair.
dominicans often say that gringos are sucio and ain't that right. as soon as i leave the plane back home (especially in madrid) i cal smell armpits, crotches and sweaty clothes. nasty!

ironically i am not sure about putting family first. yes, family in DR is a center of life but somewhat the circle around it is often crooked. most of my european friends would call dominicanas "bad mothers". for different reasons. first of all because they often (% N/A) choose and press for a c-section. a big no no in europe. then also because they (% N/A) choose not to breast feed (quite popular option among some women who do not want to lose their shapely breasts). then because some (%N/A) leave their babies with any available family member in order to make a living or just have freedom. and some other (% N/A) hire a set of 24/7 nannies and never even change a dirty pampers. and of course because there are some (% N/A) who leave their kids home with a candle to go and buy something or chat with someone and have their children die in a house fire.

but hell, you may find a dominicana who is a loving and devoted mother. but then: were you looking for a loving and devoted mother only? because i hear sea louse does the job best: first, she's lured by the male into his bachelor burrow for mating where — surprise! — she discovers that she's actually in a harem with 25 other pregnant females! if that wasn't bad enough, once the babies are ready to be born, they make their way into the world by eating her from the inside out. worst. childbirth. ever. (info and quote courtesy of animal planet)

and you may find a clean gringa. who does go to the salon. maybe

 

[JohnnyBoy]

I wish my woman would lie to me a bit. She is brutally honest telling me If I gained a few pounds or have bags under my eyes. She describes how young and hot the trainer at the gym is who hits on her and texts her begging her to leave me. If one of her family calls me old or cheap which they do every holiday she lets me know as soon as they leave.

I have been with more than my share of women. All of them were good looking, most were fairly nice personality wise and I have learned that there is no such thing as a perfect anything. Every woman will have three things about her that you will hate. Just make it three things you can live with.

 

[greydread]

I wish my woman would lie to me a bit. She is brutally honest telling me If I gained a few pounds or have bags under my eyes. She describes how young and hot the trainer at the gym is who hits on her and texts her begging her to leave me. If one of her family calls me old or cheap which they do every holiday she lets me know as soon as they leave.

I have been with more than my share of women. All of them were good looking, most were fairly nice personality wise and I have learned that there is no such thing as a perfect anything. Every woman will have three things about her that you will hate. Just make it three things you can live with.

What's he doing with her cell #?

"EJECT!"

 

[JMB773]

I am not that clever to pull that off.

Actually, I was going for sarcastically funny, if that is some how possible, to set a lighter tone to the debate.

Close this thread? Absolutely not.

A few people still need to understand or realize that demeaning a group of women to somehow place the women they feel closer to or more confortable with on a pedestal, brings a bias or an agenda into the argument. This usually resolves nothing.

In the last few posts, JMB has ferociously defended American women's values against what he cosiders attacks coming from DBCooper. JMB went all out to say that "all" women should be respected. Had this thread been closed, I wouldn't have had the pleasure of reading this post.

Although JMB is right about his statement, I am still in awe, since in the past he has nothing nice to say about Dominican women. By him saying that "all" women should be respected, I hope he is including my beloved Dominican women in the pack.

No, please keep the thread open; others might get on line and either knowingly or unknowingly it might dawn on them that a lot of Dominican women are awesome too.

:chinese:

Brother Nas I respect ALL women, not most or some but ALL. My first wife and only wife is Dominican and I still love her with all my heart. Some people think I got burned or mistreated by my wife in SD nothing can be further from the truth. My wife and I realize that being married together is not for the best. I miss being her husband, but she is not for me. which does not mean she will not be a terrific wife for someone else. JMB773 does not belong in DR looking for a spouse, it is not my style. Dominican women are like TLC Crazy, Sexy, Cool ( RIP Lisa Lopes). I can honestly tell you I have NEVER disrespected a woman in DR in my whole life. I have no issues with Dominican women as far as I can tell they are lovely women.

Nas I will let you in on a secret I am not really attracted to latin women no matter where they are from. Chicago Puerto Ricans and Chicago Mexicans are not your typical latinas. My GF is from the middle east and I knew her for 2 yrs before we started dating. She is a beautiful woman from from head to toe. Also one of the strongest women I ever met. She is Muslim so she wears her head covering everytime we go out. I never knew she had beautiful hair because of her head covering. When we both spend time on the weekend I am straight up " urban/ hip hop when I dress timberland boots Air Jordans, jersey, fitted baseball caps etc. and she is very conservative with her attire. Tight ass jeans, and blouses for women is not my idea of a woman, but that is my choice. Some guys like their women breasts to be popping out of their blouse and ass sticking out.

You should see some of the looks we get when I am sitting alone and she walks up and hug me. I feel more at ease with a Pakistani women the a African American or Puerto Rican not saying its something wrong with either. I love my GF not because who she is, but rather who I am.

BTW If I was attracted to Dominican women I would be in DR chasing women just like majority of men in DR. They are beautiful women including my ex wife.

 

[JMB773]

Also one more I wanted to bring her to Santo Domingo next month because she really wants to meet my child in DR, but the fact that she wears her head dressing in a place where the "salon" is queen I told her no. She gets funny looks in Chicago about being Muslim and I am bit uneasy, but she will be with me in March or April when I go back , but next month I am solo.

My question is do you see any Dominican Muslim wearing a head dressing in DR. I have never witness any. I know she will be stared at BIG TIME, but she is used to that.

 

[JohnnyBoy]

What's he doing with her cell #?
"EJECT!"

Youre showing your age GenY texts and facebooks even their enemies. The door is open, Im not a warden. If I didnt trust her she wouldnt be my woman

 

[greydread]

Youre showing your age GenY texts and facebooks even their enemies. The door is open, Im not a warden. If I didnt trust her she wouldnt be my woman

Not my age....my experience.

The fact that she pushed this guys advances in your face speaks volumes.

 

[pollogringo]

bueeeeeeeno...that thread about white rice is really fascinating

 

[AlterEgo]

My question is do you see any Dominican Muslim wearing a head dressing in DR. I have never witness any. I know she will be stared at BIG TIME, but she is used to that.

I've never seen anyone wear one in Santo Domingo, you're right, she might get stares, but that's probably about it.

 

[sayanora]

Also one more I wanted to bring her to Santo Domingo next month because she really wants to meet my child in DR, but the fact that she wears her head dressing in a place where the "salon" is queen I told her no. She gets funny looks in Chicago about being Muslim and I am bit uneasy, but she will be with me in March or April when I go back , but next month I am solo.

My question is do you see any Dominican Muslim wearing a head dressing in DR. I have never witness any. I know she will be stared at BIG TIME, but she is used to that.

In the DR she would be stared at out of curiosity, rather than the negative stares she would get in the US.. my best friend was Persian in Miami and she had a really hard time with stereotypes.

 

[donP]

She'll be one of 800.

My question is do you see any Dominican Muslim wearing a head dressing in DR. I have never witness any. I know she will be stared at BIG TIME, but she is used to that.

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donP

 

[JMB773]

In the DR she would be stared at out of curiosity, rather than the negative stares she would get in the US.. my best friend was Persian in Miami and she had a really hard time with stereotypes.

Her having a hard time is a understatement here in the US. The sad part is the so called educated Americans are the worst she says. I never thought about Muslim Dominicans until she asked if she can come with me. Do you think she will get stared as so much it will make her uneasy about it. In the US she knows what to expect, but she knows nothing about Dominicans, and I do not think she knows that Dominicans stare and point alot.

I am sitting thinking if I ever saw a Muslim tourists in DR with a head covering I don't know because I never thought about it.

Sayanora why do you think she will get stared at out of curiosity? Dominicans have seen Muslims are TV right?

 

[sayanora]

Her having a hard time is a understatement here in the US. The sad part is the so called educated Americans are the worst she says. I never thought about Muslim Dominicans until she asked if she can come with me. Do you think she will get stared as so much it will make her uneasy about it. In the US she knows what to expect, but she knows nothing about Dominicans, and I do not think she knows that Dominicans stare and point alot.

I am sitting thinking if I ever saw a Muslim tourists in DR with a head covering I don't know because I never thought about it.

Sayanora why do you think she will get stared at out of curiosity? Dominicans have seen Muslims are TV right?

Sure they've seen Muslims on TV but most wouldn't be able to identify them. They would stare out of an innocent curiosity and say to themselves "porque diablo tiene esa vaina en la cabesa con este calor", translates to "why would she wear that thing on her head in this heat?", which is a logical response to anyone who doesn't understand the religious reasons for dressing that way.

Absolutely nobody would think "she's a terrorist" or any other completely disgusting stereotypes, mostly because those haven't been driven into their heads. Also meeting people would be awesome because they would be so curious and interested in knowing more about her religion/culture. I took a few cousins to the Jewish museum in Sosua and they thought it was really interesting, the way the Jews settled there and basically started that town. They couldn't believe that the Jewish community is basically non-existent now and the Synagogue is rarely used, they almost seemed sad about it. I'd say bring her down and just prepare her a bit for something new.. but I have a feeling the positive form of curiosity will be refreshing for her.

 

[JohnnyBoy]

not my age....my experience.

The fact that she pushed this guys advances in your face speaks volumes.

lol..

 

[dv8]

In the DR she would be stared at out of curiosity, rather than the negative stares she would get in the US.. my best friend was Persian in Miami and she had a really hard time with stereotypes.

right enough. dominican have a certain childish honesty to stare at something new and different to them. but there is no hatred there. if one stands out they will be looked at and there may be some finger pointing but all because the person is out of the ordinary and that attracts attention. i have never met with a negative reaction towards a person who is visually different.

 

[greydread]

right enough. dominican have a certain childish honesty to stare at something new and different to them. but there is no hatred there. if one stands out they will be looked at and there may be some finger pointing but all because the person is out of the ordinary and that attracts attention. i have never met with a negative reaction towards a person who is visually different.

I have a travelling buddy who suffers from a thyroid condition which makes his eyes appear to literally bug out of their sockets. On a few travels through the D.R. I've observed some grown Dominicans actually pointing, tee-heeing and exclaiming "Los Ojos!" "jeejeejee!". I felt worse for them than I did for him. "Childish" is a good word for it.

 

[dv8]

yeah, that happens. but i do not think there is any intention to hurt, it's just childish stupidity, in a way. a kid will say out loud "look how fat tia maria is!" without thinking that tia maria has feelings and may cry because of that....

 

[sayanora]

I have a travelling buddy who suffers from a thyroid condition which makes his eyes appear to literally bug out of their sockets. On a few travels through the D.R. I've observed some grown Dominicans actually pointing, tee-heeing and exclaiming "Los Ojos!" "jeejeejee!". I felt worse for them than I did for him. "Childish" is a good word for it.

well.. they don't feel bad about it because they do it to each other too.. ever heard someone nicknamed "cojo".. basically, calling someone who limps cripple.. my nickname is chino gordo, my friend said i look chinese and im overweight and it stuck.. my best friend is tripa, apparently when he was a kid he smelled so bad it stuck... umm who else.. well can't think of anymore but basically Dominicans have really thick skin when it comes to bs like your eyes bulging out or being overweight..

 

[JMB773]

I have a travelling buddy who suffers from a thyroid condition which makes his eyes appear to literally bug out of their sockets. On a few travels through the D.R. I've observed some grown Dominicans actually pointing, tee-heeing and exclaiming "Los Ojos!" "jeejeejee!". I felt worse for them than I did for him. "Childish" is a good word for it.

Are you kidding they did that? I can imagine what they would say about my friend and her hijab. She is as normal as any other woman she wears makeup, lipstick perfume etc. I never thought about this because I am so use to her wearing it. The thing about staring it is very rude I use to the some of the behavior in DR as far as staring. Sometime I catch people taking a quick glance, because her and I make an odd couple.

I have to investigate this further, because I have witness Dominicans stare at gay men really bad in the Colonial Zone. My GF understands how a large part of the world feel about Islam. The funny thing she has only been to 3 countries in her life USA, her country and Canada never a place like DR. I will talk to her this weekend about this and what to expect in DR.

I never once thought about the two Dominican Republic and Islam until tonight. Like I said I am so use to her wearing her hijab.