When a post is replied to as being an “asshole post” the implication is that the poster is an asshole. I was accused of being an asshole yesterday from one who is seeking help with his personal relationship and DR expatriation from dr1ers on the dr1 public forum (keyword = public). This is okay. Dr1, as described recently, is a tool that can help. As such, I try to help with my own 2 pennies worth, when I feel that I can. I too use the tool. I try, however, to be respectful and empathetic, and to use life experience as a point of reference. This being said, I take offense to the public implication that I’m an asshole, and all that that concept entails, particularly when my accuser lacked the nuts to call the Dominican Mandingo whom he has issues with an asshole to his face.
I will not always write what one wants to read or what may become popular on this forum. But if one reads carefully, one will see merit. When I carefully read through my accuser’s posts I sense that he has a preoccupation with his wife that’s troublesome, a solution for which lies within that narrow space between her and himself not, in this case, on dr1. This was my message.
It’s not so much what he writes it’s what he doesn’t, and what I tried to convey too is that it’s all public. The fact that he is posting at 2:30 in the morning when he could be cuddling says something. He sleeps until 2 in the afternoon. That says something. He doesn’t party b/c he doesn’t dance and needs a body guard. That says something. He is publicizing very personal stuff. That says something, and if he continues he cannot be averse to critique.
I intended to step off his (should I call it an asshole thread) after asking if he really wanted to continue talking about his wife in the third person. I thought I read something in one of CC’s replies that expressed what I was suppressing. I made a mistake. Call it personalizing, call it rationalizing, call it what you may, but whatever you will, the shoe will fit my accuser too. One thing that’s different though, I don’t shuffle. While I acknowledge the value of dr1, I don’t love it. I’m not running for office where I’m not so sure about my accuser.
Finally, no doubt this will not present as sexy a thread as perhaps something like “looking for a dance partner for my wife” or like something about a “Dominican Daddy,” and so I expect the thread will be short-lived. At least I got it off my chest. Just know that “thar’s somethin’ fishy in them thar hills.”
I will not always write what one wants to read or what may become popular on this forum. But if one reads carefully, one will see merit. When I carefully read through my accuser’s posts I sense that he has a preoccupation with his wife that’s troublesome, a solution for which lies within that narrow space between her and himself not, in this case, on dr1. This was my message.
It’s not so much what he writes it’s what he doesn’t, and what I tried to convey too is that it’s all public. The fact that he is posting at 2:30 in the morning when he could be cuddling says something. He sleeps until 2 in the afternoon. That says something. He doesn’t party b/c he doesn’t dance and needs a body guard. That says something. He is publicizing very personal stuff. That says something, and if he continues he cannot be averse to critique.
I intended to step off his (should I call it an asshole thread) after asking if he really wanted to continue talking about his wife in the third person. I thought I read something in one of CC’s replies that expressed what I was suppressing. I made a mistake. Call it personalizing, call it rationalizing, call it what you may, but whatever you will, the shoe will fit my accuser too. One thing that’s different though, I don’t shuffle. While I acknowledge the value of dr1, I don’t love it. I’m not running for office where I’m not so sure about my accuser.
Finally, no doubt this will not present as sexy a thread as perhaps something like “looking for a dance partner for my wife” or like something about a “Dominican Daddy,” and so I expect the thread will be short-lived. At least I got it off my chest. Just know that “thar’s somethin’ fishy in them thar hills.”