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POPNYChic

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thing is, dominican culture values homogenity greatly...maybe even moreso because its such a small island. its irritating...and comforting...all at once. And we loooveee to gossip.

however, i find that in order to make it "big" in the u.s. working for other people or whatever....you have to conform big time and mirror the upper class whites in every way. if you do not, you are too ethnic and you suck and are relegated to lower positions. thats why i ran from corporate. so, it really all depends on how you look at it. then again, the u.s. offers me the opportunity to be an "other" in relative peace....i get the side eyes anyway....but i guess in the DR its so small you get side eye plus "i betchu she does drugs too. she wears too much black!" which becomes "the devil worshipping chick who does drugs" by the time it gets to the next person. LOL been there, done that....ran from it and now know how to deal with it....w being the "weird" girl...forever...lol and somehow getting by anyway.

Dominicans believe you CANNOT get anywhere if you arent the mirror image of everyone else. It is kinda true in many ways....in most of the world.
 

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The argument that I am more Dominican than you or I am a real Dominican or New yorkers are superior to Dominican or whatever, makes no sense unless you make that comparison as an individual.
There are many types of Dominican for instance the Banco Central executive or the perico ripiao fellow on B.C... both Dominican. And that bank exec. has more in common with another bank exec from.. Clombia than the fellow Dominican tha plays merenge.
I have said that your own ethical commitments and not the actions of your fellow nationals are the reasons for pride and steem.
 

Taino808

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I think you misunderstood her article. We(she) didnt pass judgment over people because what they have. She is pointing out how the wealthy people in the Santo Domingo Country Club scene do. And just like Jerry Lewis did in that movie where he painted himself into a tuxedo from painters overalls, she does the same using the attire of the day. MY point is that there is no mold of what is REAL fashion or trendy. And if there were, do you think it would consist solely of high-end name brands? And if it did, seriously, who do you think the arbitors of this would be? The people who make Glossy Ad pages in ELLE, Cosmopolitan and GQ is my bet. But how would you know if they were actually telling you or selling you what hip was? When I was growing up, it was Sergio Valente shoes, Kangol hats and Gazelle eyewear. And BTW, the Ferragamo shoes would get you in but the A6 wont do, its just a dressed up Passat. Trade it in and get a TT, an A8, a Q7 or even better an S8. Then you can make the best phony friends you ever wanted.

I didnt understand the 2nd paragraph, something wine and roses about going to school. I dont know what you are saying there.

My thoughts exactly about the magazines you just mention, they are there to make you judge your self for what you are not, and to show you what you need in order to become someone else. The same goes for all the award and entertainment shows in the States. The soul purpose of these entertainment shows (Extra, Access, E!) is to sell you an image so you could look like the actors on the big screen. This mind set would make anyone living in the States more judgmental towards others around them, than any Islander could ever be.

The second paragraph was clear and simple, I believe you knowledgeably avoided it because I made reference to your friends ?phony? self when I quoted her. Yeah sure I?ll admit that the A6 is not the best of car, however, its far from the best I?ve had. The Q7 been there done that, and also the S500. Keep in mind that I don?t drive in these cars to make new friends as you stated above, if you really want know why, then please revisit my previous post and reread the second paragraph.
 

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what is so surprising about what the article says? there is nothing really surprising nor amazing about Dominican "pyche" is just a remnant or another form of "redneck" culture. most of Dominican society is just a contradiction to me.

what i find fascinating is the author's interest in going back every so often.
I really do not understand such need.
 

JohnDo

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I disagree with you.
when it comes to the USA, you cannot compare the fundamental principles upon which society was built (true culture) to those in the Dominican Republic.
the US was founded by and for FreeMen. Not so the DR unfortunately.
If you understood the principles of freedom which emanate from the founding documents of US society, you will understand that is truly not about emulating, a certain race, but rather emulating principles, that in turn, become culture, that in turn enable the individual to achieve whatever goals, he or she aspires to.

is too complex to explain in a single post. but the reality is, Most dominicans see themselves and the rest of the world thru the prism of race, and this is in itself a self projected limitation for most.
 
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cobraboy

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She sounds bitter to me, neither truly accepted in NY society because of the ethnicity yoke she wears nor DR society because of her self-styled NY "cool."

We see that a lot in the DR, foreigners not fully accepted in their country to the extent they'd like, seeking refuge in the DR where they are fawned over as "special", yet not accepted in Dominican culture because they can't or refuse to accept the contradictions within their host culture.

Her bitterness comes out as "I'm better than both" arrogance.

I wonder if she even knows NY/Northeast US culture is just a small slice of overall US culture, just as Santo Domingo Country Club is hardly representative of the totality of Dominican culture.

But opinions vary, all blessings. At least she got off her butt and actually created and WROTE in her blog. Few do that. Kudos.
 

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she is certainly dishing some dirt against DR1 and Robert on the main page of her blog....

She does appear to have a chip on her shoulder.

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RacerX

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Dang HB, that is 7 months from now. She posted a new message this afternoon for those who care to read.
 

Berzin

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She's using DR1 to garner traffic to her site.

And she is doing so in a misleading and dishonest manner.

I wouldn't give this fool an audience. Just the way she misrepresented herself, her motives and her MO is enough not to want to bother with her.

And her writing style is pure pseudo-intellectual jibberish, reminiscent of Oswald Bates-

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Chirimoya

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Did all those user names come from the same IP? Otherwise I would give her benefit of the doubt.
 

Africaida

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Bitter ??

She sounds bitter to me, neither truly accepted in NY society because of the ethnicity yoke she wears nor DR society because of her self-styled NY "cool."

We see that a lot in the DR, foreigners not fully accepted in their country to the extent they'd like, seeking refuge in the DR where they are fawned over as "special", yet not accepted in Dominican culture because they can't or refuse to accept the contradictions within their host culture.

Her bitterness comes out as "I'm better than both" arrogance.

I wonder if she even knows NY/Northeast US culture is just a small slice of overall US culture, just as Santo Domingo Country Club is hardly representative of the totality of Dominican culture.

But opinions vary, all blessings. At least she got off her butt and actually created and WROTE in her blog. Few do that. Kudos.

Who is not accepted in NYC because of ethnicity yoke (whatever that means)??? 40 % of the pop is foreign born and there are about 1 millions Dominicans if I am not mistaking.

I agree that she does come out a bit arrogant as I am better, I am from the best city in the world type of thing, which is very very New York and-Dare I say it ?-very American* ;)

Too bad cause her blog could have been a lot more interesting.

*her latest blog entry is Why Do they hate US so much....
 

corsair74

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I wonder if she even knows NY/Northeast US culture is just a small slice of overall US culture, just as Santo Domingo Country Club is hardly representative of the totality of Dominican culture.


I agree with you.

I like her blog. But the impression that I get from reading it, is that she's only been to the Dominican Republic and "The City". I could be wrong. But that's definitely how she comes across in her writing.

Vince.
 

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But the impression that I get from reading it, is that she's only been to the Dominican Republic and "The City". I could be wrong. But that's definitely how she comes across in her writing.

Vince.
I have met many, many Dominicans and Dom Yorks who have that exact view of the US.

I'm fortunate to have traveled to every US state except for NV and Maine (55 of the 57 ;)). I've lived in GA, FL, AL, TN, NY, PA and OR (plus the DR), pretty widespread and scattered. I'm not sure folks have any concept how many completely different "cultures" exist within the US.

NY is not the center of America, nor is SD Country Club the center of the DR.

I think she enjoys trying to show how she's "better" than Island-tied Dominicans, while a "victim of ethnicity who got out of the 'hood" in the US.

Writing skills are no indication of emotional health.
 

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I have met many, many Dominicans and Dom Yorks who have that exact view of the US.

I'm fortunate to have traveled to every US state except for NV and Maine (55 of the 57 ;)). I've lived in GA, FL, AL, TN, NY, PA and OR (plus the DR), pretty widespread and scattered. I'm not sure folks have any concept how many completely different "cultures" exist within the US.

NY is not the center of America, nor is SD Country Club the center of the DR.

I think she enjoys trying to show how she's "better" than Island-tied Dominicans, while a "victim of ethnicity who got out of the 'hood" in the US.

Writing skills are no indication of emotional health.

She writes well, but it does seem that she is stuck between cultures.
 

greydread

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It's NYC...the mixing bowl

She writes well, but it does seem that she is stuck between cultures.

That's probably prevalent among the "1st generation born or raised" in any new country. In NYC you will find a lot of this going around but by the 3rd generation native born, with a little cultural and ethnic "cross pollination" it is guarranteed to subside.
 

cobraboy

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That's probably prevalent among the "1st generation born or raised" in any new country. In NYC you will find a lot of this going around but by the 3rd generation native born, with a little cultural and ethnic "cross pollination" it is guarranteed to subside.
While what you say is true...I experienced it as a young guy in Tampa where many of my friends and frat brothers were 3rd generation Spanish who couldn't speak much Spanish and their grandmother couldn't speak much English, and they were just as "Americanized" as I despite the latin surname...it is not an excuse for talking down another culture.

I find humor in her complaining about the trappings of some aspects of Dominican culture, yet she went out of her way to "fit in" and be "accepted" with extensive wardrobe planning.
 

Robert

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Her 5 mins of fame on DR1 are over.

She was warned about link spamming, but continued.
She used new usernames that we banned.
You only give a person so much rope.

Closed.
 
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