How to keep happy a Dominican girl?

[Juan Pablo]

I AM WRITTING FROM ARGENTINA.
I POSTED A NEW THREAD CAUSE I AM DATING A DOMINICAN GIRL WHO CAME TO ARGENTINA 3 YEARS AGO. BUT SINCE I AM A "GRINGO" I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE HER.
I ALWAYS HAVE DATED ARGENTINEANS GIRLS OF COURSE, BUT THEY ARE QUITE DIFFERENT TO DR WOMEN.

PLEASE ADVISE ME. I HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR 2 MONTHS NOW AND I LIKE TO KEEP HER, BUT I FEEL THAT SOMETIMES IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME TO KNOW HER NEEDS.

JUAN PABLO

 

[norman]

I AM WRITTING FROM ARGENTINA.
I POSTED A NEW THREAD CAUSE I AM DATING A DOMINICAN GIRL WHO CAME TO ARGENTINA 3 YEARS AGO. BUT SINCE I AM A "GRINGO" I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE HER.
I ALWAYS HAVE DATED ARGENTINEANS GIRLS OF COURSE, BUT THEY ARE QUITE DIFFERENT TO DR WOMEN.

PLEASE ADVISE ME. I HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR 2 MONTHS NOW AND I LIKE TO KEEP HER, BUT I FEEL THAT SOMETIMES IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME TO KNOW HER NEEDS.

JUAN PABLO

It's a good question. I struggle a bit with it myself with my new wife. I'm from Canada . There is the normal stuff like most people do when they are dating or married, but I think that there is more that is not on the surface. I would love to hear what other people say as well. We never argue , but sometimes there are things that are unsaid but may be bothering her. .

 

[Tony C]

Juan pablo

Just keep paying her. She stick around as long as there is cash!

 

[XanaduRanch]

Just keep paying her. She stick around as long as there is cash!

Sad, but true. Also depends on the time away from the DR, and where in the DR she comes from. DR women in the US have different expectations than those here for example. Probably the same in Argentina.

 

[linamia]

Tony,

Do all men do that or just non Dominican. Sh*t my hubby never pays me. Do you pay Mrs. C? If so how much is she getting?(kidding Tony).

Listen Juan Pablo, just treat her like a human first then like a lady. Communicate with her you will be surprised what you will learn.

Lina

 

[ERICKXSON]

Tony needs a South Beach Drag queen lol! to wake up!
i guess you are dating the wrong type of women if you have to pay i don't.

 

[norman]

Juan pablo

Just keep paying her. She stick around as long as there is cash!

That's not funny . If you have soemthing to say that's worthwhile say it , otherwise keep playing with your self not us.

 

[dale7]

Just learn to accept the mood swings. I don't know but often a little bit of humor goes a long way, laughter must be built in to them. If you don't have a gold digger, any little thing you do to show affection is very appreciated. They give a lot of themselves and have a very, very, strong tie to their family and cousins, godparents, etc. They are very sexual and open so pleasing them regularly in bed is a plus. They get mad very easy but it goes away in a short period of time, and they don't withhold anything at night like N.American women(canadian/US) do when they are pissed off for days. But overall, they are very similar to any other woman I have ever dated with just a few slight differences. If they love you, they will work to keep a hold of you, they are possessive, and will say/physically assault another woman in a dance club showing you attention, this is from personal experience. All in all, I find them more attentive and loving than north american women and if you treat them right, talk with them, give them some good loving, listen, and make an effort at showing affection, you have a devoted partner who will stick with you. If they only ask for Western Union and excuses about why they need money, drop them. I was going to make some jokes but I decided to edit and post what I have found out through a few I have dated shortly and one long-term experience.
dale7(Howard)

 

[XanaduRanch]

On the mark, Dale. That's very good advice. You know them well.

They get mad very easy but it goes away in a short period of time, and they don't withhold anything at night like N.American women(canadian/US) do when they are pissed off for days.

My wife gets over the argument much faster than me! Now I am the one feeling like I am witholding something ... LOL

 

[Juan Pablo]

Many thanks for your advises.
From my little experience with DR woman (2 months) i have learnt that they are extremally expressive and loving persons. I have the feeling that she wish to spend all the time in the world with me. She is also a very generous person.

I met her in a dance club, here in argentina, which is specially intended for DR people. But there are a lot of PR and Brazilian people too. She gave the first step touching me when i was passing near her. She is very thin and tall, and wear her hair with "trenzas".

She lives with a big group of DR people that i had the pleasure to meet. Little by little she has introduced me to her world. I have taste their food, their way of living and of course their sex. I have been pleased to learnt that they are extremally horny when they drink a little of alchool, of course that all women are, but not in the same way as DR women. For example, she cannot wait to arrive home, she attacks me in the car, and by the way I like been attacked the way she does.

Anyhow, my main problem is that I dont know how to keep her under control. All things must be done in her way. If not, she pissed off. I feel that she is passing over me always. I have learnt to control argentinean girls very efectivelly, but with this girl, AH, it is like a roller coaster.

Another problem is the safe sex. She have been struggling since we met to have unsafe sex with me, to the point that she offers me to do a HIV test. She saids to me that she doesnt enjoy with the rubber on, but well she has not beat me yet. .

Please teach me how to controll her!!!!

 

[dale7]

She's headstrong and/or selfish but that doesn't necessarily mean anything is seriously wrong in the relationship. A relationship is give and take. She can't always have her own way and neither can you. Yes, dominicanas are very horny when they drink No one can tell you how to control her, some women can't be controlled and no woman should be, but neither should she be allowed to make you obey her every whim. Some personalities are more aggressive than others and take all they can get because humans thrive on their own personal gain. Once she knows she can get her own way, whether by her whittling you down with her attitude or you just letting her, it will continue. Actually most dominicanas prefer a gentleman who is a little bit of a tiger as well, you either have the ability to lay the law down or you don't. That is not something that is easily developed, it is a part of your makeup. If I had a woman like that, with my personality and cultural/environmental upbringing, I wouldn't tolerate it and would let her know that you must respect me and listen to what my feelings, wants, and desires are or else this relationship can't last. I like a feisty woman who sticks up for herself but a controlling woman who is self absorbed in her own pursuit of self gain without regards to how I feel, that's not for me. You just have to weigh the positives of her being against the negative aspects that you find undesirable and make a decision. No one here can give you a magic elixir to make everything better, that is something you two must sit down and seriously discuss. I would insist on the safe sex part until testing was done because nothing feels better than the real thing and that also is a part of a trust issue Be firm and tell her how you feel and what you expect in the relationship without wavering and go from there.
dale7(Howard)

 

[Juan Pablo]

Dale7

Thanks againg for your usefull recommendations.

She is not selfish, on the contrary, she give herself to me, but always in her terms. She wants to make me happy but in the way she thinks i would be happy. And, it is very difficult to impose my self. I have been using my intelligence to try to handle her, but while i have to use my mindpower to control her, she does controll me in the most natural way.
Sorry to bodder you, but since you seem an open DR women book, I have an issue that have been crossing my mind. The question is how a DR woman is on long terms relationship. I have just knew her for 2 months, but i do not have a clue of how she will behave in the 5 - 10 years, if our relationship continue of course. I am asking you this, cause it appears that we have different visions of the future. On the one hand, I am (23 years old) planning to finish my studies (i am on 6th to be an accountant) and then continue studying. On the other hand, she seems to like to have a more simple life, and mainly depending life. The most rest of the women in our country have high expectatives in their lives, while she (22 years old) is interesting in nothing else to spend time with me and have fun.
Another issue is that here in argentina black people is to be highlighted form the rest of the population, and DR women are linked with prostitution (the 90% does). So each time we go out, I feel like everybody is looking at me, and whispering. Personally it is not that important to me, what people say, but i have realized that sometimes I think twice to go to certain places where black people are considered as wired.

JP

 

[Tony C]

i guess you are dating the wrong type of women if you have to pay i don't.

We all pay in one form or the other.

My Dad explained it to me when I was a young boy.

"They are all whores till you marry them. Then they are your wife!"

Words to live by!

"That's not funny . If you have soemthing to say that's worthwhile say it , otherwise keep playing with your self not us."

Norman,

You are apparently new here so I will cut you some slack. The first one is free. Enjoy it while you can.

Tony C.

 

[norman]

We all pay in one form or the other.

My Dad explained it to me when I was a young boy.

"They are all whores till you marry them. Then they are your wife!"

Words to live by!

"That's not funny . If you have soemthing to say that's worthwhile say it , otherwise keep playing with your self not us."

Norman,

You are apparently new here so I will cut you some slack. The first one is free. Enjoy it while you can.

Tony C.

Personally I coud care a less what you do or don't do. Just don't but into a conversation with your own bullsh**

 

[Dominican Babe]

Juan Pablo, I think you are trying to analyse everything far too much. Your relationship is still very new, you are both still getting to know each other. Forget about trying to control her - do that too much and she's likely to dump you anyway - just take it as it comes and enjoy yourselves.

As for not knowing how she will behave in 5-10 years time, of course you don't know! How can you even know how you yourself will be in 5-10 years time? A lot of things can happen in that sort of time frame to change what you do/how you are/where you live, etc. Just chill, and if it's meant to be, it'll happen.

 

[Eddy]

Word of caution

Sex without condoms = Pregnancy
You appear to want to continue with your education.
Gonna be a little more difficult if you have to support a woman and a child.

 

[Negro Lindo]

You say she's not selfish... but she only give herself to you in her terms. She wants to make you happy but in the way she thinks you should be happy.
You are using your mind power to control her? Are you some kind of super hero or something? Well super man I think she might be your Kryptonite.
She will throw tantrums to get her way as long as you let her. You have to learn to be firm with her in other places besides the bedroom or she's gonna walk all over you man. It may not even be intentional but it will happen just because you let it. You don't have to be a jerk about it but if she acts like she's gonna be mad about not getting her way about something then just let her be mad and act like you don't care if she's mad or not, change the subject do what you want to do and she will get over it.
Say for instance you want to eat at a certain restaurant and she wants to go somewhere else and gets an attitude. You tell her that you can go eat where she wants to if she pays for it but since you are paying , it would be in her best interest to either come along or go find some other guy to go with her...... if she goes to find another guy,,,,it's apparent she wasn't for you and you can go get another girl. But more than likely she will see it your way and come along.
Nobody is gonna know what the future will hold, if any of us knew that we would be rich or famous or something. So you will just have to take it one day at a time from her on out.
Just love her "con carino" and share all good things with her, hold her when she's sad, be there when she needs you, protect her and pay attention to her.
It would be nice if women came with instruction manuals but even if they did no two manuals would be exactly the same because no two women are exactly the same. So take our advice but don't expect it to be fool proof and work everyday. What makes things better today may be the start of an argument tomorrow.
Cuidate.

 

[Tony C]

Personally I coud care a less what you do or don't do. Just don't but into a conversation with your own bullsh**

And your contribution to this thread is?

So you don't like my answer? I am so sorry. Perhaps if you share with us your wisdom on relationships with Dominican Women you can show everyone on DR1 how wrong I am.
Tell us how you have lived in the DR. How you have had many relationships with Dominican Women. I am particulary interested on hearing about your sociological Studies on relationships Dominican Style.

A note to everybody on DR1!!!

If you don't think you will like the answer don't ask the question.

 

[Forbeca]

this is so unnecessary.....

That's not funny . If you have soemthing to say that's worthwhile say it , otherwise keep playing with your self not us.

and from a new member!

The advice given here thus far is so redundant. Kindergarten stuff. Stating the obvious, what a waste of time.

 

[norman]

And your contribution to this thread is?

So you don't like my answer? I am so sorry. Perhaps if you share with us your wisdom on relationships with Dominican Women you can show everyone on DR1 how wrong I am.
Tell us how you have lived in the DR. How you have had many relationships with Dominican Women. I am particulary interested on hearing about your sociological Studies on relationships Dominican Style.

A note to everybody on DR1!!!

If you don't think you will like the answer don't ask the question.

You did not provide an answer of any kind only a thoughtless remark not related to the question or topic. . It was not helpful or even informational. Just poison.