Looking for my husband, can anyone help?

[bronzeallspice]

Deleted comments. Just read where she said that he was illegal.

 

[keepcoming]

Feel for you OP...We all make mistakes. Some more costly then others. Finding him might not be easy but I do agree with some try the social media web pages, you would be surprised what you can find. In the long run karma is a bi*ch so...I think the price is better if you file "abandonment" as the cause. You just need to show the Judge you are unable to locate him and the Judge will then allow you to do a divorce by public notice, meaning a public ad taken out in the town of the last known residence for him ( or is it yours, not sure) but it is called divorce by publication. In NY you can actually do the paperwork yourself. A good deal unless you have some unresolved issues with him such as money, property, kids..ect. Divorce by publication is the way to go..I have a friend in upstate NY who did it...She is now divorced and ever so happy...Good luck

Just remember in NY almost everyone knows everyone so ask around...you would surprised who knows who....

 

[Rattus_Rattus]

i did try facebook and google as well I actually found 2 profiles for him on FB but they are private and it seems that he hasn't accessed them in a few months.

You said you found him on faaboo, then make a well made false profile. Use a photo of a unknown young very beautiful woman on your profile.


He willl accept you as a "fren" straight away, wait and see...

Take it from there.

 

[Richard Alberto]

Deleted comments. Just read where she said that he was illegal.

I may be missing something but how can you legally marry an already illegal immigrant?

 

[Castle]

I may be missing something but how can you legally marry an already illegal immigrant?

Sure. It happens all the time. In fact, I think it's the fastest way to become legal.

About the OP case, if you have his full name maybe you can get his cedula name, and then find a way to get a report from a credit bureau. If he has a phone line, cable service or electricity contract to his name, it will show up there. If he's been to jail, it will show up there. If he borrowed money, it will show up there. If he hasn't done any of this things, he might as well be invisible.

 

[Richard Alberto]

Sure. It happens all the time. In fact, I think it's the fastest way to become legal.

About the OP case, if you have his full name maybe you can get his cedula name, and then find a way to get a report from a credit bureau. If he has a phone line, cable service or electricity contract to his name, it will show up there. If he's been to jail, it will show up there. If he borrowed money, it will show up there. If he hasn't done any of this things, he might as well be invisible.

Actually after 911, it is NOT so easy any longer. You actually may have to go back to your home country and wait it out. In any event it is not advisable for the OP to post personal data on anyone, over the Internet. If indeed he is legal now she can face a pretty nasty personal disclosure lawsuit.

 

[Castle]

Actually after 911, it is NOT so easy any longer. You actually may have to go back to your home country and wait it out. In any event it is not advisable for the OP to post personal data on anyone, over the Internet. If indeed he is legal now she can face a pretty nasty personal disclosure lawsuit.

It's still easy. I have two dominican friends who got married in the US while being illegal. In less than 3 years they got their green cards (last year). In fact, that's why they got married. Not that their wives know this, of course...

In any case, I did not suggest OP to post any personal data. I suggested she got his cedula number and find a way to get his credit information. All this is in the DR, not in the US, as she's looking for him HERE in DR. Read, please.

 

[Richard Alberto]

It's still easy. I have two dominican friends who got married in the US while being illegal. In less than 3 years they got their green cards (last year). In fact, that's why they got married. Not that their wives know this, of course...

In any case, I did not suggest OP to post any personal data. I suggested she got his cedula number and find a way to get his credit information. All this is in the DR, not in the US, as she's looking for him HERE in DR. Read, please.

The last paragraph was not related to your comment. Also please do not patronize me.

 

[Castle]

The last paragraph was not related to your comment. Also please do not patronize me.

Sorry, then. You did quote me in your response. All's cool.

 

[bronzeallspice]

I may be missing something but how can you legally marry an already illegal immigrant?

Many have done it and illegals were able to get a green card but now it has become extremely
dificult to obtain one as immigration officials are aware of the fraud that some are committing. An
illegal immigrant will offer a US citizen a certain amount of money to marry the person and get
the green card.

But in this case I am surprised that he did not wait instead he took off.

 

[Frank the Tank]

Let's keep the sidetracking, bickering and foolishness to a minimum. Otherwise it's adios to this thread.

 

[windeguy]

All you have to do is post ad in newspaper. Do not pay a lawyer a dime. You can do a divorce with help from websites for as little as $99 Get a second opinion.

Excellent advice.

 

[Luperon]

I would also do your due diligence on your new fianc? now, especially if he is Dominicano. At the very least he does not seem to have the funds to help your cause.

I would also bait him with a beautiful fayboo lady.

 

[bronzeallspice]

Matilda, thanks so much for your info, i did try facebook and google as well I actually found 2 profiles for him on FB but they are private and it seems that he hasn't accessed them in a few months. But I will try Junta as well. Thanks

For everyone else who made rude comments, that weren't very nice that's fine, I guess I had that coming, however none of you know the circumstances as to what our relationship was or why it ended. I also want to find him because I want a divorce and YES 10 years later, because initially I didn't care about a divorce because I didn't ever plan on marrying again, HOWEVER, things do change over the years AND people to change their minds so in this case I have since changed my mind.

Kat, you don't need to know where he's at to obtain a divorce. You can divorce him under grounds
of abandonment and the amount of years that has gone by and you do not know his whereabouts. Your lawyer should know this.

Also I see that you stated that your relationship ended, so you were separated at the time.

Ask your lawyer to check and see if he was deported, maybe someone ratted him out.

Many posters have given you good advice and yet you still seem intent on locating him.

 

[Ken]

Kat, you don't need to know where he's at to obtain a divorce. You can divorce him under grounds
of abandonment and the amount of years that has gone by and you do not know his whereabouts. Your lawyer should know this.

Also I see that you stated that your relationship ended, so you were separated at the time.

Ask your lawyer to check and see if he was deported, maybe someone ratted him out.

Many posters have given you good advice and yet you still seem intent on locating him.

"Abandonment" is what I was thinking about when I made my post. Hard for me to believe it is necessary for somebody to hire investigators to find the person who abandoned his spouse in order for the woman to get a divorce.

I think the suggestion to get a second opinion is a good one.

 

[bronzeallspice]

"Abandonment" is what I was thinking about when I made my post. Hard for me to believe it is necessary for somebody to hire investigators to find the person who abandoned his spouse in order for the woman to get a divorce.

I think the suggestion to get a second opinion is a good one.

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[Kat Reyes]

@ bronzeallspice, I'm sorry yes I'm trying to take everyone's advice, well those that are offering sound advice, and the reason why I am still intent on finding him is because the lawyer i spoke with (it was just a consultation, I haven't hired him yet) told me that I need to locate him in order to divorce him that is why I am continuing to try to find him. This is what the lawyer told me and again I haven't hired him. But he also told me that yes I can file divorce on abandonment but that I still need to locate him because the other way, divorce through publication isn't as easy or cost effective as everyone seems to think, you have to show a judge that you tried locating him other ways before you can be granted permission to post a publication in a newspaper and even then the newspaper publication is very costly.

Also, i don't even know the exact reason for him leaving, I heard from the people at the barbershop where he worked at the time i met him that he got into some kind of trouble and that he left back to DR because the police were looking for him.

No we have no kids together and no money ties or nothing, I don't care about anything but obtaining a divorce and no my new significant other is not Dominican and he has no idea of all that I'm going through with this, so I wouldn't ask him to help me in this matter.

I thank all of you for your help and I will continue to take the advice from those who have given me good tips.

 

[bronzeallspice]

@ bronzeallspice, I'm sorry yes I'm trying to take everyone's advice, well those that are offering sound advice, and the reason why I am still intent on finding him is because the lawyer i spoke with (it was just a consultation, I haven't hired him yet) told me that I need to locate him in order to divorce him that is why I am continuing to try to find him. This is what the lawyer told me and again I haven't hired him. But he also told me that yes I can file divorce on abandonment but that I still need to locate him because the other way, divorce through publication isn't as easy or cost effective as everyone seems to think, you have to show a judge that you tried locating him other ways before you can be granted permission to post a publication in a newspaper and even then the newspaper publication is very costly.

Also, i don't even know the exact reason for him leaving, I heard from the people at the barbershop where he worked at the time i met him that he got into some kind of trouble and that he left back to DR because the police were looking for him.

No we have no kids together and no money ties or nothing, I don't care about anything but obtaining a divorce and no my new significant other is not Dominican and he has no idea of all that I'm going through with this, so I wouldn't ask him to help me in this matter.

I thank all of you for your help and I will continue to take the advice from those who have given me good tips.

Go for a second opinion and tell the lawyer exactly what the situation is(which I'm sure you did) and see
what he says. After a certain amount of years, in your case 10 years or so, if his whereabouts are
unknown and he's left the country, the judge will grant you a divorce. Don't give up.

 

[Kat Reyes]

Go for a second opinion and tell the lawyer exactly what the situation is (which I'm sure you did) and see
what he says. After a certain amount of years, in your case 10 years or so, if his whereabouts are
unknown and he's left the country, the judge will grant you a divorce. Don't give up.

ok will do, thanks for your help..

 

[Dandman]

It seems unreasonable that a person needs to serve papers on someone who abandoned them and left no address. It could be anywhere in the world.