New to Dr1, not to DR, but need advice on children

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rice&beans

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Hello,

I have a leadership role in a multinational US corporation. I have traveled the globe (35 US States, Europe, China, Latin America and the Caribbean). I have been to DR at least twice a year over the last two years, and a few more times over the last decade. In the last two years, I have seen the same lady every time I visit. We have good chemistry, and I speak a little Spanish (from US elementary school, NY Boricuas & Dominicans, and my visits), but I would not call myself fluent. She does not want to leave the DR (this is no green card seeker). She loves her country and her people. I know she wants another baby. I am not the only man (or woman) in her life. Nevertheless, she lets me try to make a baby every time we meet. We start out with "protection", but we always wind up planting seeds. This is not about sex, but we are both skilled and the chemistry is powerful.

I have no children of my own. I find her to be a fine mother to her children, and very encouraging to other pregnant women we encounter. I believe she wants me to father a child with her as much as I want to father a child with her.

The question is: Is it possible to maintain a long distance parental relationship (I am not leaving the US, nor is she leaving the DR), to give a child the opportunity to be a bilingual dual citizen, and have all the benefits of a US father and a Domincan mother?

I'd like to propose that the child be born in the US (guaranteeing US citizenry), but return to the DR with the mother. I would provide child support (I am not wealthy but $500-$600 per month is very reasonable), and educational expenses (bi-lingual education, of course). I can visit the DR once or twice a year, as I do now, and the child can visit the US as often as desired. When the child reaches the age of consent, they would be free to choose to a life in the US or the DR (or both).

All I expect is DNA testing to verify the child is mine and the expectation of a quality bi-lingual education. What are your thoughts?

Please check the cynicism and snide comments at the door.


Wow, you sound like a guy who has his SH-T together, I'm impressed.......

I didn't know mescaline was so readily available again.......
 

ctrob

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Why would you make a kid and intentionally burden them with a fatherless home?
You're not the only man in her life? What's that mean?
You want a DNA test? So it's not true love and you don't trust her?

Shirley you can't be serious....
 

LTSteve

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Run Forest, RUN like hell and forget you ever met this women. She is using you and others to step up the ladder. End this and move on. I am sure you can find happiness in the US. If you don't do this you will regret your decision long term and that means FOREVER. Get a grip and bail out.

LTSTeve
 

LTSteve

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Maybe I wasn't clear enough in the last posting. GET THE __CK OUT IMMEDIATELY. I mean NOW GRINGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LTSteve
 

yacht chef

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Helll yes thy got some good stuff in colarodo now rice & beens .
What is all this 18 year stuff , big money stuff this is not the usa.
If you are going to go local, then go local .
You know ?
entonces........
 

JMB773

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Hello,

I have a leadership role in a multinational US corporation. I have traveled the globe (35 US States, Europe, China, Latin America and the Caribbean). I have been to DR at least twice a year over the last two years, and a few more times over the last decade. In the last two years, I have seen the same lady every time I visit. We have good chemistry, and I speak a little Spanish (from US elementary school, NY Boricuas & Dominicans, and my visits), but I would not call myself fluent. She does not want to leave the DR (this is no green card seeker). She loves her country and her people. I know she wants another baby. I am not the only man (or woman) in her life. Nevertheless, she lets me try to make a baby every time we meet. We start out with "protection", but we always wind up planting seeds. This is not about sex, but we are both skilled and the chemistry is powerful.

I have no children of my own. I find her to be a fine mother to her children, and very encouraging to other pregnant women we encounter. I believe she wants me to father a child with her as much as I want to father a child with her.

The question is: Is it possible to maintain a long distance parental relationship (I am not leaving the US, nor is she leaving the DR), to give a child the opportunity to be a bilingual dual citizen, and have all the benefits of a US father and a Domincan mother?

I'd like to propose that the child be born in the US (guaranteeing US citizenry), but return to the DR with the mother. I would provide child support (I am not wealthy but $500-$600 per month is very reasonable), and educational expenses (bi-lingual education, of course). I can visit the DR once or twice a year, as I do now, and the child can visit the US as often as desired. When the child reaches the age of consent, they would be free to choose to a life in the US or the DR (or both).

All I expect is DNA testing to verify the child is mine and the expectation of a quality bi-lingual education. What are your thoughts?

Please check the cynicism and snide comments at the door.

Oh this is easy I know 15 guys who wanted this also. You have to go to the US embassy and ask for a "US Soil Birth" visa. Tell the people you want you child born in the USA , but she will return to the DR( make sure to mention they will return to the DR very important)

The fee for the visa is 19.75USD and the do not accept RD or have change so you will need the exact amount. Also they will interview you GF and make sure she mention how much she loves DR and her people, because unlike your girl many people arrive in the USA on a "US Soil Birth" visa and stay.

People think us Americans are bad, but we are okay with a man knocking up and woman then bringing her here so his child can be born in the USA.

BTW the visa is good for 3 years because they want the baby to get a feel for life in the USA before they return to Russia, Thailand, Dominican Republic, Honduras etc. Good Luck.
 

JMB773

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Hello,

I have a leadership role in a multinational US corporation. I have traveled the globe (35 US States, Europe, China, Latin America and the Caribbean). I have been to DR at least twice a year over the last two years, and a few more times over the last decade. In the last two years, I have seen the same lady every time I visit. We have good chemistry, and I speak a little Spanish (from US elementary school, NY Boricuas & Dominicans, and my visits), but I would not call myself fluent. She does not want to leave the DR (this is no green card seeker). She loves her country and her people. I know she wants another baby. I am not the only man (or woman) in her life. Nevertheless, she lets me try to make a baby every time we meet. We start out with "protection", but we always wind up planting seeds. This is not about sex, but we are both skilled and the chemistry is powerful.

I have no children of my own. I find her to be a fine mother to her children, and very encouraging to other pregnant women we encounter. I believe she wants me to father a child with her as much as I want to father a child with her.

The question is: Is it possible to maintain a long distance parental relationship (I am not leaving the US, nor is she leaving the DR), to give a child the opportunity to be a bilingual dual citizen, and have all the benefits of a US father and a Domincan mother?

I'd like to propose that the child be born in the US (guaranteeing US citizenry), but return to the DR with the mother. I would provide child support (I am not wealthy but $500-$600 per month is very reasonable), and educational expenses (bi-lingual education, of course). I can visit the DR once or twice a year, as I do now, and the child can visit the US as often as desired. When the child reaches the age of consent, they would be free to choose to a life in the US or the DR (or both).

All I expect is DNA testing to verify the child is mine and the expectation of a quality bi-lingual education. What are your thoughts?

Please check the cynicism and snide comments at the door.

I also most forgot the best part your Dominican GF gets to bring one grandmother, uncle and one aunt to witness the birth but they can only stay for 2 years on " US Soil Birth" visa. Once again good luck.
 

Criss Colon

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JMB773, sounds like you have already done, just exactly what the "OP" wants to do.
Who loaned you the $19.75 USD,....."Baby Daddy"???????????????????
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Aguaita29

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Hello,

I have a leadership role in a multinational US corporation. I have traveled the globe (35 US States, Europe, China, Latin America and the Caribbean). I have been to DR at least twice a year over the last two years, and a few more times over the last decade. In the last two years, I have seen the same lady every time I visit. We have good chemistry, and I speak a little Spanish (from US elementary school, NY Boricuas & Dominicans, and my visits), but I would not call myself fluent. She does not want to leave the DR (this is no green card seeker). She loves her country and her people. I know she wants another baby. I am not the only man (or woman) in her life. Nevertheless, she lets me try to make a baby every time we meet. We start out with "protection", but we always wind up planting seeds. This is not about sex, but we are both skilled and the chemistry is powerful.

I have no children of my own. I find her to be a fine mother to her children, and very encouraging to other pregnant women we encounter. I believe she wants me to father a child with her as much as I want to father a child with her.

The question is: Is it possible to maintain a long distance parental relationship (I am not leaving the US, nor is she leaving the DR), to give a child the opportunity to be a bilingual dual citizen, and have all the benefits of a US father and a Domincan mother?

I'd like to propose that the child be born in the US (guaranteeing US citizenry), but return to the DR with the mother. I would provide child support (I am not wealthy but $500-$600 per month is very reasonable), and educational expenses (bi-lingual education, of course). I can visit the DR once or twice a year, as I do now, and the child can visit the US as often as desired. When the child reaches the age of consent, they would be free to choose to a life in the US or the DR (or both).

All I expect is DNA testing to verify the child is mine and the expectation of a quality bi-lingual education. What are your thoughts?

Please check the cynicism and snide comments at the door.

Soooo what is IT that is wrong with you?
 

mountainannie

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Oh this is easy I know 15 guys who wanted this also. You have to go to the US embassy and ask for a "US Soil Birth" visa. Tell the people you want you child born in the USA , but she will return to the DR( make sure to mention they will return to the DR very important)

The fee for the visa is 19.75USD and the do not accept RD or have change so you will need the exact amount. Also they will interview you GF and make sure she mention how much she loves DR and her people, because unlike your girl many people arrive in the USA on a "US Soil Birth" visa and stay.

People think us Americans are bad, but we are okay with a man knocking up and woman then bringing her here so his child can be born in the USA.

BTW the visa is good for 3 years because they want the baby to get a feel for life in the USA before they return to Russia, Thailand, Dominican Republic, Honduras etc. Good Luck.

Non-Immigrant Visas | Embassy of the United States Dominican Republic yeah.. right!
https://www.numbersusa.com/content/learn/issues/birthright-citizenship/birth-tourism.html

but if she can qualify for a tourist visa, she can give birth there....
 

JMB773

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JMB773, sounds like you have already done, just exactly what the "OP" wants to do.
Who loaned you the $19.75 USD,....."Baby Daddy"???????????????????
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Sorry I do not import people, if they cannot come to the USA on their own then they should not be here. If the USA denies them how can I approve them???

You see CC I am NOT one of those men out here who tells Dominican women in DR " I want to bring to the USA and give you the world" LOL!!!

JMB773 tell women in DR" If you are ever in Chicago look me up"

BTW CC you do not know it but men like you created people like the OP LOL!!!!
 

mountainannie

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well I do not know about that last observation.. whatever else ccc's habits may be, he appears to be a devoted father.. is really present in his children;s lives.


I have a hard time understand that men can think that they are "fathers" just because they have the same DNA and send a check.. and are not there for homework, vacations, etc...

but then, I thought that sruff with Ms Lewinsky was actually having sex.. so I do understand that men and women think differently about life.
 

JMB773

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well I do not know about that last observation.. whatever else ccc's habits may be, he appears to be a devoted father.. is really present in his children;s lives.


I have a hard time understand that men can think that they are "fathers" just because they have the same DNA and send a check.. and are not there for homework, vacations, etc...

but then, I thought that sruff with Ms Lewinsky was actually having sex.. so I do understand that men and women think differently about life.

I agree with you if we were talking about fathers in the USA, but in the Dominican Republic, Honduras, Nicaragua, Mexico etc sending that check is SO important, because these places offer NO assistance to mothers and children.

There are plenty of men in DR that WISH they can be the "Check sending Dad" every month, instead of the father who is there but have no money to support his family.
 

JMB773

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well I do not know about that last observation.. whatever else ccc's habits may be, he appears to be a devoted father.. is really present in his children;s lives.


I have a hard time understand that men can think that they are "fathers" just because they have the same DNA and send a check.. and are not there for homework, vacations, etc...

but then, I thought that sruff with Ms Lewinsky was actually having sex.. so I do understand that men and women think differently about life.

Ask any REAL!! man on the planet and everyone of them will tell you they would rather their kids be healthy, have food on the table, cloths on their back, shoes on their feet, medicine when needed, toy, bikes etc and NEVER see their kids, oppose to seeing their kids EVERYDAY, but is unable to provide the basics like food and shelter.

MA the OP may not be many people idea of a father or myself for that matter, but I would rather my girls look at me with disgust because they do not see as often as they would like, oppose to looking at me hungry or sick.

I am not by anyway disregarding the role a man plays in a child's life, but their are things far worse like the type of dad that shows up right when his kids are about to eat and helps himself to the food, and leave without giving the mother a penny.
 

Criss Colon

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Spoken like a "REAL",..."Baby Daddy",...but NOT like a real man!
Your first paragraph tell us EVERYTHING we always thought, and now, from your own words, KNOW!!!!
How WRONG you are.
A child is many times better off with two loving parents in the home, ANY HOME, mansion, or dirt floor.
What kids need more than anything as they are growing up is to know that, "My Mami AND Papi" love me VERY, Very, MUCH"!
We are all very aware of your love of "Material Things", now we are also very aware that you know absolutely "Nada" about how children feel about their parents.
Posting lame excuses, because you wish to justify your own personal behavior,doesn't change ANYTHING!!!!
I can STILL remember how wonderful I felt when my "Mom & Dad",..read me a story, prayed,Gave me a BIG hug & a BIG kiss,EVERY NIGHT, when they "Tucked me In"!!!
We may have had "Fried Bologna Sandwiches" for dinner often, but their unconditional love "Filled Me UP!
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Please feel free to post yet another invalid excuse about "REAL MAN", and how we parent our children.
If you need some ideas before you continue to make a "REAL A$$" of yourself,...."PM" me, or any of the other DR!ers, who know how to LOVE their families, we have hundreds of them standing by!!!!


"Papigordo",.....as my kids call me,.....EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!
 
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ctrob

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Ask any REAL!! man on the planet and everyone of them will tell you they would rather their kids be healthy, have food on the table, cloths on their back, shoes on their feet, medicine when needed, toy, bikes etc and NEVER see their kids, oppose to seeing their kids EVERYDAY, but is unable to provide the basics like food and shelter..

But the discussion is about the OP intentionally creating a fatherless child. Big difference.
 
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