^^^I totally concur. And I would add loyalty, compassion, and a strong moral philosophical base to the description of a "good man".
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Thanks for that info
and for clearing up the proper title of the book. Yes, the book is about a lot of the things we talk about and also how the foreigner has a negative effect on the local women (notice how it isn't the local men). Thanks for providing the name of the author and a little more insight into what this book is about.
and for clearing up the proper title of the book. Yes, the book is about a lot of the things we talk about and also how the foreigner has a negative effect on the local women (notice how it isn't the local men). Thanks for providing the name of the author and a little more insight into what this book is about.
Ok, Madame ButterNut!.
Now, you better behave if you don't want me to send La Barbie your way, hahaha!.
Only a nutjob will not see anything wrong with what she posted. Man, we have way too many NUTS on this site.
Btw, how do you say "NUTS" in Polish?. And while you are at it, can you tell me what you meant when you wrote "She has taken her lesson"?.
Better yet, please don't tell me. I can't read another of your nonsense posts. I beg you, please don't reply to this post. You are right and I am wrong. Please don't reply. You win. I'll be nice, promise!. Oh, the insanity!.
MOMITA for President!. See, I am being nice, please don't reply!.
Yes, I am a Mr, I am a Bloody and I am Perfect. And coming from a NUT, I will take it as a compliment!.
Now, you better behave if you don't want me to send La Barbie your way, hahaha!.
Only a nutjob will not see anything wrong with what she posted. Man, we have way too many NUTS on this site.
Btw, how do you say "NUTS" in Polish?. And while you are at it, can you tell me what you meant when you wrote "She has taken her lesson"?.
Better yet, please don't tell me. I can't read another of your nonsense posts. I beg you, please don't reply to this post. You are right and I am wrong. Please don't reply. You win. I'll be nice, promise!. Oh, the insanity!.
MOMITA for President!. See, I am being nice, please don't reply!.
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What not to do - something constructive
As much as the sankie stories provide endless entertainment, it is still sad to hear about someone that's been taken for more than just a few pesos and a sidiplay.
It's hard to find pity for someone seeking pity, but I would love to hear any advice the OP can pass on to others. Maybe it could help her in the healing process while helping others avoid the same trap.
There will always be someone who discovered the Sankie forum way too late, and those who read it daily but never thought it would apply to them, but for a few it will help.
Good luck to you, things can change for the better.
As much as the sankie stories provide endless entertainment, it is still sad to hear about someone that's been taken for more than just a few pesos and a sidiplay.
It's hard to find pity for someone seeking pity, but I would love to hear any advice the OP can pass on to others. Maybe it could help her in the healing process while helping others avoid the same trap.
There will always be someone who discovered the Sankie forum way too late, and those who read it daily but never thought it would apply to them, but for a few it will help.
Good luck to you, things can change for the better.
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Healing from hurt
Yes, I agree with Nikke, I think we should focus on healing from a situation like this. Everyone has been hurt in relationships before, so I think everyone should have some sympathy for WLGTDWI. The stories do tend to be entertaining, but in reality sometimes someone gets hurt in these situations because people have real feelings. I know there are many threads that discuss sankies, but never healing from being hurt be a sankie. I think that WLGTDWI is in the revenge stage, so after that passes, she will start the healing process.
Healing After the Revenge Phase
1. vacation to a different place if the DR has too many bad memories
2. a spa visit for a massage, facial, mudbath, manicure, or pedicure
3. a male strip show/club (always makes me feel good!!!)
4. find a new hobby (as corny as that sounds, it is helpful and occupies time)
5. immerse yourself in a new and interesting book
6. treat yourself to a new outfit or a new hairstyle (changing something small will make you feel good)
And finally..
7. Talk about it when you feel like it as much as you want to, I know it's cliche, but talking about it always helps and as you talk about it you start to get over it, eventually.
I haven't been in a sankie situation, but I have been deceived and hurt by a guy in Canada and when I was hurting, I did #1 (to the DR actually in June, but the trip was planned before the hurt happened, but it was great for me), #3, and #5. I would have done #6, but alas, I am a poor student! Hope WLGTDWI and others like her take some of this advice and be happy when they are ready to move on.
Power to all the ladies!!!
Yes, I agree with Nikke, I think we should focus on healing from a situation like this. Everyone has been hurt in relationships before, so I think everyone should have some sympathy for WLGTDWI. The stories do tend to be entertaining, but in reality sometimes someone gets hurt in these situations because people have real feelings. I know there are many threads that discuss sankies, but never healing from being hurt be a sankie. I think that WLGTDWI is in the revenge stage, so after that passes, she will start the healing process.
Healing After the Revenge Phase
1. vacation to a different place if the DR has too many bad memories
2. a spa visit for a massage, facial, mudbath, manicure, or pedicure
3. a male strip show/club (always makes me feel good!!!)
4. find a new hobby (as corny as that sounds, it is helpful and occupies time)
5. immerse yourself in a new and interesting book
6. treat yourself to a new outfit or a new hairstyle (changing something small will make you feel good)
And finally..
7. Talk about it when you feel like it as much as you want to, I know it's cliche, but talking about it always helps and as you talk about it you start to get over it, eventually.
I haven't been in a sankie situation, but I have been deceived and hurt by a guy in Canada and when I was hurting, I did #1 (to the DR actually in June, but the trip was planned before the hurt happened, but it was great for me), #3, and #5. I would have done #6, but alas, I am a poor student! Hope WLGTDWI and others like her take some of this advice and be happy when they are ready to move on.
Power to all the ladies!!!
I was talking to guy from one of the third world countries who worked in the US for some time if he wanted to stay here and if he would marry someone to do it. He said he might do it, but only if that woman agreed to take money for it. He said he would never consider lying to her that he loves her just to marry and stay in the US. Any normal man would agree with him. How can sankies think about themselves as "men" after doing such thing with women? Where is their pride? Of course you can say women are stupid for getting involved with them. But most women would never expect such deception from a man they love and care about.
I agree with you tk, One cannot go around in life doing wrong to others and still have a wonderful life, it catches up to you someday.
to: whatslovegot....stay strong, you had honest intentions and good feelings and you never thought that this "gusano" would pay you this way, but every cloud has a silver lining. All these people who blame you are mostly men, they don't attach feelings to sex that's why they can come here and always criticize the women who go through this. Its difficult for them to understand your situation. You'll be just fine, stay positive and you'll triumph.
In a perfect world ....
Maybe your test case was playing you :speechles
But we don't live in a perfect world. Sankies aren't normal people .... both parties must love one another, even then some people are still deceptive.
Maybe your test case was playing you :speechles
I agree with you tk, One cannot go around in life doing wrong to others and still have a wonderful life, it catches up to you someday.
to: whatslovegot....stay strong, you had honest intentions and good feelings and you never thought that this "gusano" would pay you this way, but every cloud has a silver lining. All these people who blame you are mostly men, they don't attach feelings to sex that's why they can come here and always criticize the women who go through this. Its difficult for them to understand your situation. You'll be just fine, stay positive and you'll triumph.
They just won't admit it.
Most of us understand very well. What we are just saying is that the warning signs are usually always there in enough quantity but people make CHOICES to ignore them.
The greatest percentage of men will usually take advantage of women mainly for free/cheap sex and most will even pay for it even if they are only willing to part with a token. But most men are not really interested in marrying a woman and taking her for everything. That is more the female route. I am sure most of the women here will understand what I am talking about. Even a gigolo/sankie is more interested in his regular stipend than in marriage.
It takes a lot for a man (who has obviously little education) and has never travelled to canada and knows how the system works to try to pull-off something like this. Most will just be happy to get there and say bye-bye to their bride.
This story (if it is true at all) stinks of being a one-sided version.
Maybe, it was long time ago. He actually left US when his visa expired - did not want to look for ways to stay ...
I know, there are masters and genieses of deception out there. They live in the world of their own lies and actually beleive in what they say. Some people want to be deceived actually. They want to beleive.
Many foreign men have been taken by sankiettes maybe more so than women it's just that men will never pour out their experience on the internet.
You are quite right about that. We go about asking for trouble and more often than not we get it. You need to see the long lines of men waiting at the "come and buy a foreign bride" offices. Most are older men looking for the trophy bride and really asking for trouble instead of aiming realistically. From mexico,thailand,phillipines,the DR, Costa Rica, Venezuela,colombia, cuba , Soviet Union, Ukraine etc these trophy brides are waiting anxiously to get out with just ANYBODY. The sankie business is a drop in the pool compared to what is going on with these men out there.
If the men came with their pity report, the response will still the same thing. THE WARNING SIGNS HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THERE. YOU MADE A CHOICE TO IGNORE THEM.
We men are much more willing to own up for mistakes that we could have avoided so we are much more willing to keep quiet instead of blaming someone else.
Life is about the choices we make.
Many foreign men have been taken by sankiettes maybe more so than women it's just that men will never pour out their experience on the internet.
Men get to pick a beautiful woman half or third of their age and spend time with her. This is what they are looking for and this is what they get. Sometimes it becomes a long term relationship sometimes it does not. Men get something out of it unless she runs away as soon as she arrives - kind of hard without knowledge of where to go and what to do... Most of these men don't have much to complain about.
Why cry over spilt milk
Not criticism ... rather it's sound advice - just forgetta'bout it, there's always another one
The silver lining is to look for another one to make you happy!!!!to: whatslovegot....stay strong, you had honest intentions and good feelings and you never thought that this "gusano" would pay you this way, but every cloud has a silver lining. All these people who blame you are mostly men, they don't attach feelings to sex that's why they can come here and always criticize the women who go through this. Its difficult for them to understand your situation. You'll be just fine, stay positive and you'll triumph.
Not criticism ... rather it's sound advice - just forgetta'bout it, there's always another one
Not true .....
Men have shorter memory .... forgetta'bout it quicker and move to the next oneThey just won't admit it.
Men have shorter memory .... forgetta'bout it quicker and move to the next one
AJA!!! proves what I said. :glasses:
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