miguel I liked your post as it moved me and I love to hear stories of people that have done something with their lives. The AD or DD in reality should just be called the dream or desire to live a good life. For that reason I myself don't like to use the phrase the 'American dream' because desire applies in all countries. Any normal human being wants a better life for themselves and their children. It received its title because, many years ago, the USA was the only country that afforded the opportunity to the people to achieve their dream without the oppression placed on them by their native countries. At the same time the dream means different things to different people. To me it is knowing that I have the opportunity to earn and/or have earned, legally, that which is necessary to sustain my family comfortably. The sight and thought of my family living without undue hardship makes me happy even if the process might require me to have to arise early in the morning and work all day. For me it is the end result for my toiling in the "rat race" of everyday living.
Because of your post I would like to touch upon "family". In the USA a child is born and raised by his/her parents and their parents and brothers and sisters are "family". Normally, that child then leaves the house at about the age of 18 to look for their "family". Once they marry they have a "family" which is not the same as the "family" at their old homestead. Their other half then becomes their responsibility and obligation to support and help mature and survive in this world. When that person is blessed with a child then the responsibility and obligation increases and the dream sets in. In their old homestead they still have "family" but it is not the same as the "family" that lives with them. I can't explain it any better then this. It is my upbringing by my parents that has taught me that I own nothing to my parent except love and respect and this holds true for my brothers and sisters. They too have and had the opportunity at the dream and it is up to them to strive to support their "families". If they should run across hard times I will help if I can because of my love and respect for them and not because I owe them anything. I have my "family" and they are more important then my other "family" because in my act of matrimony and if my act of fornication I had committed myself to them, "my family".
Because of your post I would like to touch upon "family". In the USA a child is born and raised by his/her parents and their parents and brothers and sisters are "family". Normally, that child then leaves the house at about the age of 18 to look for their "family". Once they marry they have a "family" which is not the same as the "family" at their old homestead. Their other half then becomes their responsibility and obligation to support and help mature and survive in this world. When that person is blessed with a child then the responsibility and obligation increases and the dream sets in. In their old homestead they still have "family" but it is not the same as the "family" that lives with them. I can't explain it any better then this. It is my upbringing by my parents that has taught me that I own nothing to my parent except love and respect and this holds true for my brothers and sisters. They too have and had the opportunity at the dream and it is up to them to strive to support their "families". If they should run across hard times I will help if I can because of my love and respect for them and not because I owe them anything. I have my "family" and they are more important then my other "family" because in my act of matrimony and if my act of fornication I had committed myself to them, "my family".