Why do 'we' have to label everything? Mutual consent about mutual disclosed information should be no ones' business but those involved. I agree, women should take what they hear with a grain of salt, then make their own choice on whether to partake of what's offered or not and to what extent.
I think it's a harsh generalization to clump male resort workers into the term sankie. Perhaps some workers take advantage of the situation their job puts them in, just as someone in another job may do the same (a bartender or such, at any restaurant anywhere). In my experience the men that "hit on me" from the resort were also very gentleman-like when turned down and continued to be flirtacious, pleasant, fun, and warm human beings I enjoyed getting to know more about. No doubt there are many scams being pulled, hearts hurt, egos crushed - just like any other aspect of our world. It's sad that even on "holiday" one can't throw caution to the wind without being judged or taken as a fool.
If someone knows what they're getting themselves into then I say to each his own. If someone is being "scammed" I think that is sad, but I have to ask...is it all about the money? or is it just another score (or notch on the bedpost)? Like I said, who's to know except the people directly involved.
Personally, it's always been my practice to be straight-forward, without deception and I would ask the same of anyone I placed myself in an intimate situation with. Of course, I can only control myself & not that other person so it's my decision, really, to be skeptical or believing, isn't it?
) with a "legit" tour guide you know what you're paying for and what you're getting in to. im thinking that most women/men who fall for a sankie/sankiette dont know that their is deceit, manipulation and empty promises involved. am i wrong?
