Young Canadian boy dies in Puerto Plata!

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Malibook said:
I am not looking to place blame for this tragic accident but it just seems so incomprehensible to me that it was a lone woman who made the failed rescue attempt.
She came so close on her own, surely a concerted effort by all of the adults present would have likely been successful.
My own offspring or not, I can't imagine standing by and not doing anything.

This tragedy has left me greatly saddened, shocked, and stunned.

RIP Adam and my condolences to the family and friends.


It's always easy to say in hindsight. There were 5 tour guides in close proximity. The leader , touted by the tour company as being the best in the business. Huge arms. The water reeked of death, swirling currents, thundering loud, I was sure I would die if I jumped in. It was total panic, screaming, crying, my 9 year old daughter and 13 year old son watching in horror. They did not need to see thier father die. I knew I would die if I jumped in and I was panicking, usually when wrong decisions are made. I struggled battling the currents of the first waterfall. We all thought the "experts " would jump in . I thought at one point that they were not jumping in because they were also afraid.I saw the panic in thier eyes, as if they new what luked below.We also had a life guard in our group, a strong swimmer who said he almost drowned . Many of the adults in the first group experienced a near drowning experience.
 

Lambada

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Please, don't feel you have to justify yourself to us.........God knows, it must be hard enough for you to justify yourself to yourself...........a process, I fear which will continue for quite some time. At least you know you panicked & therefore froze. I don't know that there is anything I can say that will make living with that knowledge any easier........but I'm sure all of our thoughts are with you as you struggle through the next few months.
 

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The worst thing one can do when someone else is in trouble in water, is to jump in and attempt to save that person if you're not equal to the task or the circumstances. This course of action usually leads to a double tragedy. Lesson number one in any water lifesaving course.

If you're instincts told you that you cannot do anything, then it probably would have been futile to try --- if you ignored your instincts, you also could have been in jeopardy. This probably was a heartwrenching and lifechanging moment for you. My heart goes out to you and your family.
 

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How very tragic for you

I too will express my sincere condolences about your loss. It is a tragic waste of a young man and very preventable.

I was shocked at some of what you wrote! It takes an aweful lot of courage for you to write this for all of us to see. Thank you. It helps all of us in the tourism business here to see this. We are always bombarded by rumours and half truths. This will help.

Some of the things you bring up lead me to other questions. I will send you a PM.

I also acknowledge how trying to change the situation and prevent this happening again will help you in your own time of grief.
 

BushBaby

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Nice to see something good has come out of this & Thanks for the update Lambada. Whatever happened to the other promises of updates we were given I wonder? As this story is over a week old I would have expected someone who promised updates would have supplied them by now!! ~ Grahame.
 

trina

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BushBaby said:
Nice to see something good has come out of this & Thanks for the update Lambada. Whatever happened to the other promises of updates we were given I wonder? As this story is over a week old I would have expected someone who promised updates would have supplied them by now!! ~ Grahame.



I do hope you're not talking about Cheetah, the father. I think he has enough on his mind without having to deal with having to inform complete strangers about his personal tragedy. If you're not talking about the immediate family, please clarify who promised updates, perhaps these people have no further knowledge of the situation?

Thank you, Lambada, for the update on this situation. I hope it will be of some comfort to the family.
 

BushBaby

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Trina,
If you have studied my posts on this board over the last 6 years you will have noticed I of a conservative nature & would never be so insensitive as to suggest someone in pain should be responsible for posting updates - especially in such tragic circumstances like this. No, My comment was a general one & directed towards the various residents here who promise to do something on the boards & then rarely follow up those promises. I have NO intention of naming names, just hope those who make promises will follow them through - no further comment is needed nor will be given. ~ Grahame.
 

trina

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BushBaby said:
Trina,
If you have studied my posts on this board over the last 6 years you will have noticed I of a conservative nature & would never be so insensitive as to suggest someone in pain should be responsible for posting updates - especially in such tragic circumstances like this. No, My comment was a general one & directed towards the various residents here who promise to do something on the boards & then rarely follow up those promises. I have NO intention of naming names, just hope those who make promises will follow them through - no further comment is needed nor will be given. ~ Grahame.


Thanks for your clarification - I have a great deal of respect for you. My concern was that the father was going to log in and see the comment, and think it was directed at him. He's already taken a little bashing from other posters, and I didn't want him to feel like he was getting it from you, too.
 

Cheetah

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Hi, don't worry I am not bothered by any negative comments.Everyone has thier right to veiw thier opinions. Actually everyone has been alright on this forum. I have been following some Mexico forums on another vacation death of a nine year old boy, and there are some real cruel insensative people on that forum.

Anyway, our Canadian Embassy is really helping out by enforcing these safety measures,implementing training of the tour guides, and there are more improvements in the works, short, mid term and long term. I am impressed with our governement on how much they have acomplished in such a short time frame, being also in a slow moving 3rd world country. It's the best I can hope for, that something good comes out of this.
 

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My Condolences

Cheetah said:
Here is my story

While on a vacation in the Dominican Republic with my family, my son Adam, 11 yrs old died while on a dangerous Jeep Safari tour sold by Alegria Tours s.a., licensed by Jack Tar/Occidental.

The tour was to travel the countryside and finish at the highlight of the tour which involves climbing and jumping off waterfalls at Damajagua. I wanted my 3 children to experience how 3rd world children live so they could appreciate what they have.

The tour was advertised as being fun and safe for children by a licensed operator !

The first river was waist high with a strong current. Groups of 5 held hands with the instructor. ( later web site videos show this river shin high)

It was a 20 minute walk into the jungle to get to the first water fall.

The second and last waterfall we swam below was very turbulent, it had rained on a daily basis over the last 14 days. My son Adam was next in line to sail downstream with the current with a smile on his face only to be sucked in under water. He was a strong swimmer. My second son, a 13 yr old made it through just after Adam.

I hollered to the instructors to rescue Adam but they spent many minutes arguing with each other.

The brave lady who jumped in said she felt the undertow pull her under. She touched Adam but was worried about her own life. Eventually his body was pulled out and attempts to resuscitate him by other tourists failed.

We then had to make the long 20 min journey back to the parking lot, over barbed wire fences, my dead son on a stretcher.

The ambulance transported my son to the hospital and my wife and I were driven in one of the tour trucks to the hospital.

We were immediately met at the hospital by the tour operator lawyer who said he was there to help us through things like this. I was immediately suspicious. I know he was there to cause interference.

He took me to the police station for questioning. The power was off at the police station, I did not know where I was , walking down long dark hallways, until we came into a dark room with 2 candles.

They did not ask me any questions and the lawyer did all the talking to the so-called officer, It was in spanish.

The lawyer said we could go back to the hospital and said I was lucky to have him there because he said the officer wanted to keep me there for questioning all night so he told him it was only an accident. A few days later the police report indicated that Adam died while in a swimming accident with his father ,failing to mention anything about the tour.. A total lie.

I then commenced my own crusade. Can you believe that the day after Adam's death ,that very same tour was being sold and still being advertised as being safe for children by Alegria and other operators, ( many of the adults in our group had difficulty battling the currents)

I have video footage of my discussions with these tour operators telling me the tours were safe. Also,I intercepted many families with kids warning them of these tours. One family told me they were just told the waterfalls were safe for their 6 yr old son who could not swim. I immediately tracked down that tour operator and gave him some unkind words

Later , a local Domincan, and a reliable source told me there have been many broken bones on these tours in the past, and reluctantly told me there were a few deaths. How long has this cover up been occuring?

Some companies do not go the Damajagua.

I have been in close contact with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs in Ottawa and the Canadian Embassy in Santo Domingo.The Embassy has already issued a Canada Wide Travel advisory on their web site and have notified all tour companies throughout Canada. They are investigating the matter themselves and were surprised when I told them the name of the tour company who was licensed by Occidental, the owners of Jack Tar.

They said they will try to shut down the tours, however they think that the Economic incentives will outweigh safety. At minimum they plan on improving the safety of these tours and possibly get funding and implement the program in honor of Adam's name.

Money is being poured into these resorts, someone is making money, but why all ther poverty outside . Why can't money be diverted to improving health and safety, and way of living.

I indicated I wanted to be a part of that program.

I am on an awareness mission and will do whatever it takes to do it. The Embassy encouraged me to do so.

We have started a sports scholorship in Adam's name to support underpriviledeged children.

I beleive Adam's death has already saved a few lives.

I have been talking to W5, fifth estate etc and hope to get the message out.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I have a young child and I know that it would just be extremely devistating if this happened to my family. I want you to know that our thoughts are with your families. Please take care of yourself.
 

Winnipegger

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Chris said:
The worst thing one can do when someone else is in trouble in water, is to jump in and attempt to save that person if you're not equal to the task or the circumstances. This course of action usually leads to a double tragedy. Lesson number one in any water lifesaving course.

If you're instincts told you that you cannot do anything, then it probably would have been futile to try --- if you ignored your instincts, you also could have been in jeopardy. This probably was a heartwrenching and lifechanging moment for you. My heart goes out to you and your family.


I just learned of this tragedy after reading a post by Cheetah on another thread. My heart also gos out to you Cheetah.

I also agree that one should listen to their instincts in situations such as this. It was almost exactly one year after Adams tragedy that I was sitting on the beach in Cabarete having a few cervezas when I heard some screaming and yelling from the water. I got up to investigate and realized that there was someone in trouble in the waves and her friend was screaming for help. I have had lifeguard training many years earlier but forgot lesson number one! I instinctively ran into the water to help. They were not that far out and didnt think it would be much of a problem to get the one in trouble back on the ground. What I didnt realize was that there was more than one that were in difficulty til I got out there. It seems it was a dominican family and after I starting pulling the young girl back to shore the older woman who had been screaming also latched on. Fortunately they were both so exhausted that they didnt try to struggle. Unfortunately for whatever reason I didnt seem to be making any headway back to shore and I began to tire quickly with two people holding on to me. I had just begun the thought process of what I was going to do when I was relieved to see somebody show up with a boogie board. However for some moments the thought crossed my mind that I would soon have to let go of them if I didnt start making progress.THAT would have been difficult to live with. But as a parent I am sure it doesnt approach the horrible thoughts that went through Adams' fathers mind when he realized he could/should not enter the water.

As it turns out the fellow with the boogie board who ended up saving all of us was a young dominican who had just rented me the beach chair a few hours earlier. This all happened a short distance from a nice sparkly lifeguard stand. However I have NEVER seen or heard of that stand being utlized in the few years that it had been built. For that matter I have never seen a lifeguard on Cabarete Beach? I guess it is all about the appearance of safety for tourists that the DR authority is concerned about.
 

trina

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Thank you, Wud, for posting the link to the website. I was able to enjoy about half of it, and had to stop reading because I couldn't stop crying. These parents loved this boy with all their hearts and souls, and it's just such a tragedy that they had to lose him so early in life. It serves as a reminder that life is so very short - we all need to make the most of each day and cherish it. My heart and prayers once again go out to Adam's family.
 

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I've never seen a lifeguard anywhere in the DR.


Dominicans in general have an instinctual (or learned) respect (distrust, fear) of water (sea, rivers, lakes...) which protects them from behaving in a reckless manner in or near water. When a drowning occurs it is invariably because this instinct has been overridden by alcohol intake, unsupervised very young bathers (children between 1-4), or unpredictable conditions in the water (sudden swell, turbulance, etc.). Only during Holy Week (Semana Santa) the state provides lifeguards in most public beaches. However, most of the lives saved are not due to actual rescue activity, but to limiting alcoholic beverage consumption, and closing the beaches by 5:00 pm.
 

Emma22

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I know trina!!! :-( I'm not a "cry baby" by any means but when Adam's dad posted that link on a thread I'd started I couldn't see the screen through my tears!!! I've never PMd anybody that hasn't PMd me before but cheetah was an exeption. The word in my head??? "ADMIRATION" - what a determined and brave man. Really, I think he is doing a fantastic job of keeping his son's memory alive and to do "good" out of a personal tragedy - a better person than I!!! I love my girls to bits and wouldn't even want to imagine what kind of mental state I would be in if such an event befell one of them...I have admiration indeed.

As far as Winnipegger's post goes: Thank God you're okay!!! :-O Mirador's post has concerned me too...certainly be keeping these points in mind when allowing my children into the sea! Thanks for that, Emma ;-)
 

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Holly F^*K.

I just read this entire website about Adam. I'm at work - had to take a brake and go downstairs for a few minutes. I tried to hold back the tears but when I got to the elevator they just poured out.

I know how hard it is to loose someone you love so much. I lost my Grandmother in Sep of 2004.

My heart goes out to the family of this beautiful little boy. May he rest in peace!!!

And to the parents - never let his memory fade away. Everyone honors loved ones memories differently. Today I wear my Grandmothers face on my back (pretty larget tattoo). I wanted it done accross my chest but since I am not a large guy it would have been kinda small. I wanted it to be big so got it on my back.

In my own opinion it is the most beautiful tattoo you will ever see.

Here - I will share it with the rest of you.

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Emma22

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Tattoo

THAT is one GOOD tattoo!!! It's almost a "photo-copy" of the photo!!! - Me like!!!! I have a Celtic cross tattoo on my shoulder entwined with ivy in memory of my grandparents. I designed it myself and each "point" represents one of them (all 4 of mine have gone). Sometimes, if I feel 'low', I can look at that tattoo (via the mirror!!) and remember the strength of my grandparents. I'm by no means a "tattoo addict" (have just the one!!) but my grief led me there and I'm not sorry for my decision. Emma ;)