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Advise needed to help a friend
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She never told me who pushed for the marriage, but she is the typical African American woman cant keep her mouth shut. I told her she is coming into his world so better learn to adapt .....FAST
Does she speak Spanish?
What's the plan after they get married? Live in DR? Live in US? What about the kids (both sets)?
About how old is this woman? The guy?
So many questions! Sorry
What's the plan after they get married? Live in DR? Live in US? What about the kids (both sets)?
About how old is this woman? The guy?
So many questions! Sorry
She speaks a little Spanish they plan to live in America with both sets of kids she is 31and i believe he is 33
Ok well tell her to put her "big girl panties" on and game on. If she has been a member of this site then she knows very well what to expect. Eyebrows, rug hair...please..She is a woman and she has 2 kids so she knows how to attract a man ok. What type, long term...that is on her. Just wish her the best..That is all you can do.
Isn't she concerned about her children living with a total stranger?They haven't met him or spent any time
with him to win their trust.She should be looking out first for the welfare of her children.She doesn't know
anything about this man and yet she's bringing him home to live with her children.She is a foolish woman.
with him to win their trust.She should be looking out first for the welfare of her children.She doesn't know
anything about this man and yet she's bringing him home to live with her children.She is a foolish woman.
bronzeallspice, it will be some time before she's able to get him a US visa, if ever. They'll have time......
I'd be mad, too. You really can't tell from your original post if you want her to succeed or to fail. You seem to want her to up her game, which will only make her more attractive to said sanky. And I don't understand why you expect a person to accept advice from strangers when she won't accept it from you, someone who supposedly cares for her and knows her. The comments about hygiene were out of place when you knew she'd see them, friend.
Having said that, on the basis of immigration alone, it's unwise to marry site unseen or with very little face time. They ask about it, and it's only really accepted in certain cultures and countries, and the US/DR for the most part isn't like that. More than meeting a sanky, I think it's sometimes a slap in the face for Americans, myself included, who believe that being an American citizen means something when you go to the consulate. Never gotten worse treatment from any government agency than Immigration in the US.
So certainly, go see, enjoy. As an adult, she's entitled to make her own mistakes. While your motive as a friend is to prevent her from great pain that you predict she will experience, you're overstepping.
good luck with this!!! from what I've heard, his chance of getting into the US, (even if recently married), is about the same as a snowball's chance in hell -- or on the beach in the D.R. at least she's not planning to drag her poor kids to the D.R. still think it's not exactly stellar parenting!!!!
The scary thing is that visas are going through very fast now not like before and I did advise her to take several trips with the kids to she if it's a good fit.
Who in their right mind wants a friend to fail I may have over simplyfied the eyebrow issue but it goes to a larger problem if the eyebrow is an issue and a small one in the big ptcture imagine fr exmple I asked her if he was marriedby the court or just calling the mother of his kids his wife and she did not know the answer to that....Just the tip of the iceberg
A idiot like her will et him here faster than normal. I bet she will have less problems getting him here than a normal relationship
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