I want to know if I am being sankified...

[Jumbo]

I think BG hooked up with DJ Boricua last night so be prepared for another thread. Only Joking mi amor.

BG, take it from someone that wanted to move to the DR after my 2nd trip blinded by love and sick of the Boston cold. Slow down baby. The love fades and there is plenty of time to do your homework and buy a vacation condo. Then you can shop around for your totaly different dominican. I waited 6 years and months at a time in the DR before i found a place to send my barrels full of junk. And looking for Dominicana #5 that will like to lighten my pockets.

Slow down. Get your divorce. Get your sh!t together. Your emotions are all messed up. Go to HR where you work and see if they can recomend a counselor to talk to. People, places and things rule our lives. Go to the book store and hit the self help/spiritual section. Someone sounds like they are emotionally bankrupt. When you have 30 people telling you the wall is green and you are still finding excuses to insist it might be yellow then you have a problem. I am not a shrink but i did stay at a Holiday Inn last night.

 

[Bronxboy]

These threads always end with the same result. They get closed fast. OP wants to hear what she wants to hear. Boring, closed it are the shot outs. Let's let it flow a bit.

 

[xwill]

"He has a Iphone,do you think that it is paid by some other girl?"

IPhones cost over RD12,000 here & he makes RD9,000 a month - you do the maths!

You've been played - just be glad he stole only your heart & not your money!

It depends on which iphone generation he has... A used 1st gen can cost 3,000 to 4,000 pesos

 

[GinzaGringo]

What I do not understand about the majority of the posters on dr1.com is the apparent vitriol with which they condemn the posters who inquire about their brush with sanktidom. It is one thing to warn an innocent newbie dr1 poster about the low quality loosers who hang out on Dominican beaches, in the hotels and in the resorts but what’s with the insults and anger?

 

[Preston]

BostonGirl,

I had similar feelings for a dancer I met at a resort on one of my first trips to DR in '05. We exchanged contact information (no FB back then!), and stayed in touch. But I was kidding myself when I thought a relationship of any significance can could result from that one encounter and, with all due respect, you are kidding yourself now. Six years and 40-odd visits later have convinced me that until you are living in DR, you should probably not pursue a relationship on that level. My question: why should your pride be hurt at all? My advice: leave that guy alone. Your guy is with one of the others and on to the next one. If you are unhappy with your marriage, either fix it or get out of it, but make a decision and ACT.

DISCLAIMER: In no way are my comments intended to offend anyone who have had similar experiences.

Preston

 

[xamaicano]

What I do not understand about the majority of the posters on dr1.com is the apparent vitriol with which they condemn the posters who inquire about their brush with sanktidom. It is one thing to warn an innocent newbie dr1 poster about the low quality loosers who hang out on Dominican beaches, in the hotels and in the resorts but what?s with the insults and anger?

Because it is fun.

 

[Jenny429]

I give bostongirl a huge standing ovation.. because she DIDNT jump blindly into a relationship with him.. Yeah she had a fling.. It's ok for men to do it... but women are sluts.. and OMG she's married? WELL Damn didn't she come to the right country?!

Anyway Bostongirl... I see a lot of red flags in this guy.. he has a LOT going against him. Is he a sankie? Or is he a good guy looking for a way out? You want to come here to live? You have no clue what it's like to live here.. You have no idea of the CULTURE.. I married my first love that I met when I was 16. I met him here in the Dominican Republic.. We were married 14 years.. have 4 kids together.. yadda, yadda.. We are divorced. I am currently living in the DOminican Republic.. engaged again.. (I know people think that is stupid.. but I realize I am most happy with Dominicans.. and probably most sad.. hahaha) Anyway.. I tried for 6 years other types, and I know what I am getting into this time around.. Do you?

Either way.. about the PI.. I can actually put you in contact with the PI that I used... They did an AWESOME job.. and I got all the info I needed.. PM me and I will be happy to hook you up..

I do commend you though BostonGirl.. You are THINKING about jumping ship, but actually THINKING, RESEARCHING, and ACTING, on your hunch.. not just closing your eyes and jumping.. You are thinking about closing your eyes and jumping but researching first.. You rock! Hang in there..

Jen

 

[GinzaGringo]

I suppose for some, making fun of people and and being mean to people is fun. I myself have never been one to derive joy from another's pain.

 

[SKY]

What is impossible to comprehend is how we hear the SAME story time after time, after time, with the same end result that we may or may not get to hear.

I see how some people on this forum just need to vent towards the OP because they know she is being played and she will fall for this old routine anyway.

 

[xamaicano]

What pain? Gringa comes down, has a fling and is now trying to get people on a public forum to cosign on her desire to make it more than what it is. I am not judging her for what she did, she had a good time, good for her.

She did not get his number, his email address or any other form of contact. How meaningful was it to her? Now she is thinking off hiring a PI and stalking him on Facebook. For what purpose? Does she suddenly have claim on her third world plaything? You want me to take this serious? OK. Gringos go to third world countries, one of which I am from, have their fun and then make it all about them. What are these people to do base their lives around some foreigner who may or may not come back? Or at best come when they are able to? Really? Is this the basis of a real relationship?

Let say the DJ is pure of heart and really loves hers, he would still be in a relationship that requires him to place his whole emotional well being in some one who has total control. She comes and goes as she pleases, he can't. He should sit around in the DR committed to a relationship that is based on whether she is inclined to come back or not. But why should he care? He is just her little brown plaything that had access to her premium gringa vagina. Sankie or not, this a real person involved and he still has to deal with the reality of his life while she plays out her fantasy.

I suppose for some, making fun of people and and being mean to people is fun. I myself have never been one to derive joy from another's pain.

 

[SKing]

I suppose for some, making fun of people and and being mean to people is fun. I myself have never been one to derive joy from another's pain.

Where was anyone being mean? Just because what we say isn't sprinkled with sunshine and gumdrops doesn't mean that anyone is intentionally being mean....please.

SHALENA

 

[SKing]

Let say the DJ is pure of heart and really loves hers,.

LOVE???? After 1-2 days?

SHALENA

 

[JMB773]

Why do so many of you go to the DR and find love? If some of you have a thing for Dominicans, there are plenty Dominicans in the USA and Boston Mass has tons. Many marriages in DR involving LEGAL ALIENS has nothing to do with love, but a business arrangement.
This is for Bostongirl go to any Starbucks in your city let a person who has no ties to DR read what you wrote about the guy. I promise you the response will open WOW!!!

 

[xamaicano]

LOVE???? After 1-2 days?

SHALENA

Exactly. And now we are to feel her pain.

 

[donP]

Disillusion on Gringa P.

He is just her little brown plaything that had access to her premium gringa vagina.

I remember 'a brown plaything' in Africa saying:
"Well, once you are through the white stuff it's just like home..." :bunny::cheeky::tired:

donP

 

[Lobo Tropical]

Yes

This is my first time posting but read most of the threads and found it so helpful and interesting!This is going to be a long post, sorry in advance. If you don't feel like reading the whole story, just read the last paragraph. Thanks in advance.
I am a Canadian now living and working in the US for close to 10 years. I am a healthcare professional, 32 y.o., I live confortably financially but I am in a failing marriage of 7 years (yes I guess the 7 year itch...). I like to think that I have some common sense and can read people more easily than other can. I am petite (height and weight) and I keep in shape. I do get attention from men in the US but I have to say I was not prepared for the DR. (I have travelled in many different places but always with my husband, but not this time).
I went to Punta Cana for a week with friends. I was getting lots of attention at the hotel, from the Dominican and from a few tourists but most of it was so obvious, it was easy to brush it off.
One night, I met V (yes, he is a hotel worker, a DJ...) He seemed different from the other guys because mostly he was not talking a lot, I guess I like the silent type... We danced, had a quick kissed and he grabbed my axx ( I know this is no excuse but I was drunk and on vacation and by that time I felt like maybe I was going to have a fling).
By the next night, I felt like: we live only once and I have never done this even though I know very well that my husband has (at least one time that I know of) and I "deserve" it. Like it is a price or something...
So the next night, we danced some more and we planned to meet after he gets off work and my friends were off to bed. I did not want them to know...
We did not sleep that night even though I have to say he is not really good in bed... We had sex a few times and were talking about our lives.
He told me he has a 2 year old child from a previous relationship (after reading all the posts on DR1 about dominican "polygamist", I don't know if it is previous or current.) He was in the army for 4 years before this job. He is 26 y.o. (6 years younger than me). He loves his job (been there for a little over a year) and loves batchata... That his friend don't want him to dance with their girlfirend because he dances too sexy, I can get that... He told me he had never been in bed with a tourist (I told him that I did not believe him, in return he told me that he did not believe this was the first time I cheated on my husband... even though it really was). His father has 21 kids from 5 different women (a real Dominican from what I understand now). He had 4 with his mom.
I was very honest with him: married, unhappy with my marriage, looking for a fling, not love. He seemed to think the same but asked me to please meet him for a second night since after that, he would be leaving the resort for holiday and not come back until I was gone. So, I accepted.
The second night was different, less casual if I can say that. He wanted me to sleep there until morning. He was asking me why I did this (sleeping with him)? Saying that my husand should know how lucky he is to have me. He asked me why I did not have any kids in 7 years? I told him that most likely I will not be able to have kids (I have some hormonal issues that make it unlikely that I will become pregnant without some kind of fertilization treatment, I did not go into those details with him) He told me that if I were to become pregnant with him, he would want me to come to DR and he would take care of me. He said he has no money but has his love. He asked me if I would come back another time to see him, I did not answer. He said if you ever come back to DR, just know that there is someone here who cares about you. He wanted to get my email, facebook, etc, I refused. He really seemed heartbroken, do you think it was his wallet talking? He kept saying: "I can't believe this will end just like this. No more 'my name'. No more 'my name'. You are my fantasy.". I told him that he is a good person, he will find a girlfriend. He said " no, my hand will be my girlfirend..." He said he sometimes watches porno movies with girls like me and now that he has known me he doesn't even want to watch that anymore. I thought this was a little disrespectful but I did not say anything. After all, I had gotten myself into this. He asked if I would forget about him and I said no never, that he would be a good memory. He said when you are very old, you can tell your husband about this.
I am proud of not giving in to his request for my email but after he left I really was devastated, kept thinking about what he said, what if he is honnest? What if I am really his fantasy? He never asked for money or complained about his life. He even said that now he makes good money with his job. I wonder if he was talking about what the hotel give him or if he has other girls like me??? He has a Iphone,do you think that it is paid by some other girl?
I feel like I need to get to the bottom of this. If he is really honnest, I would actually consider going to live there. Seeing how it goes. I feel like we had a connection but I am wondering if he felt like he had a possible connection with my bank account instead of me. I would not mind supporting him financially but I cannot live with a player, cheater (who am I to say that..). I know that when I found out about my husband escapade, it broke something and we have not been able to restore it since then. I feel like I am in a limbo, my life is so stressful in the US and I could really use a break. I have never felt so appreciated and special as I felt with him.
I keep going back and forth between thinking this was the best thing I ever did or the biggest mistake. I need help! Do you know of any private investigation service that can look into him? I only know his first name, hotel and that he is a DJ) I would be willing to pay good money to know the truth. I think this may be the only way for me to get off the hook. If I see a proof that he has other women taking care of him, I will go on with my life, just my pride will be hurt a bit.

Or, No it's true love!
Save your money on the "investigator" come back enjoy the DR and the sex, there are many true one and only soul mates and STOP FEELING GUILTY!!! Sex is fun life is short. And yes relationships are hard and sometimes we have to let go and regroup, even if it hurts. Keep your money as a tool for yourself. :lick:

 

[Lobo Tropical]

Caucasian envy?

What pain? Gringa comes down,

... her third world plaything? Gringos go to third world countries, one of which I am from, have their fun and then make it all about them.
But why should he care? He is just her little brown plaything that had access to her premium gringa vagina. Sankie or not, this a real person involved and he still has to deal with the reality of his life while she plays out her fantasy.

They are both willing participants. She's hurt looking for love, he looking for money and the promise of a brighter future. For some reason the Gringos did explore the world and created viable societies.
The Tainos could have conquered Europe and gone to the moon, but neither they nor the other third world countries did.
Stop blaming success. The chinese Gringos are not doing too bad either.
Love does happen across the social and cultural spectrum.
The premium gringa vagina sounded like cultural jealousy.

 

[Tamborista]

The premium gringa vagina sounded like cultural jealousy.

I am partial to the premium Toto Dominicana!

 

[xamaicano]

Caucasian envy? lol

Cute. They are both willing participants but she is one on a public message board. Blaming success? Yeah OK. I am sure you believe that it is every Dominican dream to have sex with a gringo.

They are both willing participants. She's hurt looking for love, he looking for money and the promise of a brighter future. For some reason the Gringos did explore the world and created viable societies.
The Tainos could have conquered Europe and gone to the moon, but neither they nor the other third world countries did.
Stop blaming success. The chinese Gringos are not doing too bad either.
Love does happen across the social and cultural spectrum.
The premium gringa vagina sounded like cultural jealousy.

 

[bostonsteve]

are you kidding me?14 pages devoted to this?hey boston girl,get a grip-if you even have to ask if you have been had-then you HAVE been had. in the future,just enjoy the sex, get a divorce, and class up on your play pals-please, a disc jockey at an AI?what is next,a valet car parker?