I am embarrassed to admit this and I am certain I will be ridiculed on here but if I can help at least one girl out than it will all be worth it to me. Here?s my story?
For almost a year I was together with a guy that I of course met in Punta Cana on a resort. He claimed to be an ?instructor? but truthfully he is an ?animator? at one of the nicer hotels in the area. We didn?t get intimate until several times after I visited there so of course off the bat I thought it would be different. I visited there almost every month (yes, every month) and we talked everyday. We pretty much traveled the country together and eventually I met his family and friends in Santo Domingo. Keep in mind that I am well aware of the ?sankie? stories and the way things are there. Being a frequent traveler to the country I have witnessed many things and have met many women/men who have gotten caught up in these relationships. I actually saw the movie while there as well. I was critical about our relationship from the beginning but promised myself that I would do my best to give us a fair shot. I should have listened to my intuition and taken a good look in the mirror.
I cannot express to you the number of things that I found out. Emails, text messages, letters from women all over the world. Even his friends were ratting him out and telling me about other women, I even spoke with a few of the women via phone and email! But I was so ridiculously caught up in this relationship that I couldn?t let go. I was caught up in the sun, dancing, romance, affection, etc, etc, etc. It is easy for us to be blinded by the realities and aborbed in the place and time. The lack of trust and security that I began to feel transformed me into a person I simply am not. Which is what I think many of us who have been in these types of relationships can relate to?
I don?t regret my memories and experiences I had while traveling the country, I love the country and the people. But I was used, cheated on, deceived, and lied to. Bottom line is please don?t think that you are the only one. Because you are more than likely not. Even if he isn?t asking you for anything now, most sankies are intelligent and patient. They will wait. And believe me; it will start with something like a phone which will then be used to communicate with the other women. Even if he doesn?t tell you he loves you, or better yet that he loves you but is not in love with you, that doesn?t mean he does not have a hidden agenda. You are just one of the many women who will be a reoccurring visitor to his country. And let me tell you, many of these women don?t care about whether he has a girlfriend/wife or whatever else. They do not bother with the details nor do they care. I have reached out to many of the women I knew of trying to look out for them and they still go there to see him! So imagine truly how many people you have actually slept with and the dangers you are putting yourself in.
To make a long story short, don?t be like me. Don?t waste your time, money, and energy on someone who doesn?t deserve the person you are. I am a young educated girl who is ashamed that I allowed myself to be so stupid and naive. Remember this if anything, a person like this will never be able to offer you anything tangible and I know that to many of us that isn?t important. But the saddest part is that it?s the free things in life like love and honestly that they can only offer and that is more than likely going to be what is lacked the most.
Thanks for listening!!! Please feel free to send personal messages.
For almost a year I was together with a guy that I of course met in Punta Cana on a resort. He claimed to be an ?instructor? but truthfully he is an ?animator? at one of the nicer hotels in the area. We didn?t get intimate until several times after I visited there so of course off the bat I thought it would be different. I visited there almost every month (yes, every month) and we talked everyday. We pretty much traveled the country together and eventually I met his family and friends in Santo Domingo. Keep in mind that I am well aware of the ?sankie? stories and the way things are there. Being a frequent traveler to the country I have witnessed many things and have met many women/men who have gotten caught up in these relationships. I actually saw the movie while there as well. I was critical about our relationship from the beginning but promised myself that I would do my best to give us a fair shot. I should have listened to my intuition and taken a good look in the mirror.
I cannot express to you the number of things that I found out. Emails, text messages, letters from women all over the world. Even his friends were ratting him out and telling me about other women, I even spoke with a few of the women via phone and email! But I was so ridiculously caught up in this relationship that I couldn?t let go. I was caught up in the sun, dancing, romance, affection, etc, etc, etc. It is easy for us to be blinded by the realities and aborbed in the place and time. The lack of trust and security that I began to feel transformed me into a person I simply am not. Which is what I think many of us who have been in these types of relationships can relate to?
I don?t regret my memories and experiences I had while traveling the country, I love the country and the people. But I was used, cheated on, deceived, and lied to. Bottom line is please don?t think that you are the only one. Because you are more than likely not. Even if he isn?t asking you for anything now, most sankies are intelligent and patient. They will wait. And believe me; it will start with something like a phone which will then be used to communicate with the other women. Even if he doesn?t tell you he loves you, or better yet that he loves you but is not in love with you, that doesn?t mean he does not have a hidden agenda. You are just one of the many women who will be a reoccurring visitor to his country. And let me tell you, many of these women don?t care about whether he has a girlfriend/wife or whatever else. They do not bother with the details nor do they care. I have reached out to many of the women I knew of trying to look out for them and they still go there to see him! So imagine truly how many people you have actually slept with and the dangers you are putting yourself in.
To make a long story short, don?t be like me. Don?t waste your time, money, and energy on someone who doesn?t deserve the person you are. I am a young educated girl who is ashamed that I allowed myself to be so stupid and naive. Remember this if anything, a person like this will never be able to offer you anything tangible and I know that to many of us that isn?t important. But the saddest part is that it?s the free things in life like love and honestly that they can only offer and that is more than likely going to be what is lacked the most.
Thanks for listening!!! Please feel free to send personal messages.