What does that mean exactly
that contrary to what shalena said, in over ten years, people have not asked me for anything in return for what they did to help me.
What does that mean exactly
Oh please! They are like the GODFATHER, they always expect something in return. May not be today, may not be 5 years from now....but you WILL be called upon one day. So you keep taking those rides, eating that food....you are writing a check that you'd better be able to cash in the future.
SHALENA
Not resentment, but certainly more of a 'wtf' type of feeling. Yes, let me explain.
Americans are very sensitive when foreigners criticize their country. A few do tolerate it, but most put into question your reason for making such criticism, more often than not being tempted to considering you 'anti-American,' with everything that implies in this age of terrorism, yadi yadi yada. So, when you come to DR1 and read from various Americans their discontent when Dominicans don't approve of their DR-related criticisms, naturally it becomes a 'wtf' moment.
There are the holier-than-thou crowd, often holding the progress of their 'first world' country on their sleeves. It's not so much what they say, but the matter that its said. Very often it leads to another 'wtf' moment and the usual "your home country may be more developed/organized/whatever, but I'm very certain that you had almost nothing to do with that; so please, calm down and take a few breaths" type of comments.
It's the little things that causes the 'wtf' moments, especially when the hypocrasy becomes are clear as gin.
As for the DominicanYorks, pretty much it has to do with the same attitude. What makes it worst is that DominicanYorks are Dominicans that assume the role of the 'hegemonic' culture. They think they can impose new forms of conduct, which would had been OK had their new habits been acceptable; but, often times they tend to be bad examples than anything else. Its as if their goal is to exacerbate the levels of mediocrity that already exists in Dominican society. They should be an example to follow, but most ruin it by bribing the Customs official as soon as they reach the airport, driving in erratic ways just because they can, being loud and obnoxious in places for decent people, wanting to put reggeaton or some other type of noise in places that traditionally have been the hangouts of decent people, etc, etc, and unfortunately, more etc.
May God be with you if a DominicanYork family moves into your neighborhood or building and they turn out to be of the obnoxious kind; because if you don't move out of your own will, they will force you to move due to their 'ways.' And when confronted and asked why they do it, the answer always is 'we're in the DR,' and there goes another natural 'wtf' moment.
Nothing causes quite a few Dominicans of middle and upper class extraction to become quite uncomfortable with DominicanYorks when these attempt to make the claim that because of their remittances the country lives. They swear that if remittances were taken off the table, the country would collapse; and that's part of the reason the arrogant among them use to justify their holier-than-thou attitude. Their mantra is that the country lives becomes of them, so the country has to take their idiocities. Well, not so fast buddy. Remittances spend on consumption are just over US$2 billion, while total household consumption amounts to almost US$35 billion. It's one thing if all the people in the little campo you left are living because of the 'chelitos' they receive via Vimenca every month, but please don't insult the segment of Dominican society that accounts for 94% of total consumption. They see all the La Sirena, Jumbo, etc stores expanding and immediately think, that's because of our remittances, when reality is quite different.
Even worst is the fact that regardless where in the world, if there's a sizeable Dominican community, while visiting you can't say that you're Dominican. Noooo, the image of Dominicans has been destroyed by the very Dominicans that live there to levels so low, it's pathetic.
Their inferiority complex has reached such heights, that if a tractor trailer crashes anywhere in the U.S. they will accept it as an act of fate, but if it was to happen anywhere in the DR, they will blame it on the DR by cursing, degrading and unjustly criticizing the country for something that happens anywhere. You can read these comments on the online versions of the newspapers, its quite pathetic.
Again, its the little things that causes the friction.
The solution? Avoid most of the people from both groups as if they were the plague, but it would be nice if better people would take over those groups. Dominican society has more than enough island-born and always-lived-on-the-island types of chopos, no need for more. Please God, spare us a little mercy.
This, by no means, applies to everyone; only those that the descriptions fits as a ring does on a finger.
mariot offers this remark as an explanation
they only disregard your needs when they know that you need silence to sleep or work or whatever and don't care. how are they to know that they are bothering you, when nobody else is bothered? since nobody in the dr considers silence to be essential, they are behaving perfectly normal.
the fact that people do not know that they are bothering you does not mean that they are not. nobody is suggesting that it is done with malice aforethought. let me try this for size....if i am walking on a side street with my ten year old daughter, and some guy whips out Mr Johnson, and takes a leak in full view of my child, do i become unsettled by the event, or do i just dismiss it by saying that it is normative for grown men to urinate in public? or, when i come home and find paper cups and styrofoam plates littering my front yard, do i just say ??w, shucks, it is normative for people to throw garbage out their car windows??as to Chip...i am fully aware that there are several Dominicans who are as educated and as urbane as the day is long. we are talking in general terms here. or, so i thought.
mariot counsels
so all you can do is remind yourself that what they are doing is not disregard for you or an attack on your personal space.
let me repeat this. i made no reference to malice in this issue. however, i fail to understand the mentality that does not comprehend the simple fact that if you play your stereo at 120 decibels at 2 am, you just might keep someone else from getting a night?s rest.
I think resent is the most prolific emotion in this country. Dominicans that can objectify things do respect gringos for what we have done as a country, but for the most part they have a short guy syndrome when it comes to us. Being young I think I am exposed to it much more than the average poster on this board.
Let's say, I meet you, I dislike YOU for some reasons, wouldn't it wrong to assume, it is based on your nationality ?
Unfortunately, there are shallow people out there that think this way.