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Marrying a Domincan and relocating to DR
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Basically - as mentioned, if you have already decided to move to the DR and get married, then just fly to the DR and get married - no fiance visa needed for you to come to the DR and get married. After married, you can take care of residency, cedula, citizenship in the DR if you desire that (or just pay the overstay fee each time you travel back to the US for a visit).
Well clearly this doesn't apply because he has one child that he loves to death and takes care of very well. I get the feeling he would do anything for his son, that's one of the things that attracted me to him . He has very strong family values.
Only a person with very little moral fiber would say or do such a thing. What i said before about not betting against me was purely metaphorical honey. I don't bet on my future, that's like me asking you to consciously infuse my situation with all the negativity you can muster. Why on earth would I or anyone else do that? LOL
good. then when you catch him banging Yamilkis, he will just say that he thought it was you, since you look so much like her.
i have no moral fiber, whatsoever, but what i have in spades is the ability to see things coming down the road.
DR1 moral? hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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I'd rather not say because I know many people use this forum as a reference and am concerned about my privacy and anonymity.
I didn't read all the 7 pages of comments, so this might have been said already: anyway, there are stories enough on how it will go wrong, but there are also stories where it does work out perfectly fine. My wife is dominican, I have to add that her family is high-middle class. We are just a normal couple of which one happens to be from Europe and the other one from DR. I do think that in DR there is a tendency of cheating and lying, but I have a completely opposite experience with my wife (10.5 years married). I forced her to come with me to Europe 8.5 years ago, where we stayed for 5 years, but she really wanted to go back, even if that would mean it would go worse economically.
Back since 4 years now we are facing some doubts if we wouldn't be better of in Europe, especially while we have three children, aged 2 till 7. It does make us think: is it reasonable and even fair to let them live in a sub-developed country if we can also give them all the opportunities of a developed country. Take that in consideration, if you plan to have a family here, why would not better stay in the US (or wherever you are from).
The past two weeks the extreme heat also makes me reconsider our interim decision to stay in DR for the time being and evaluate maybe in a year. Just to walk from the cold shower to an airconditioned room makes me already sweat like if I ran 10 kilometers.
Back since 4 years now we are facing some doubts if we wouldn't be better of in Europe, especially while we have three children, aged 2 till 7. It does make us think: is it reasonable and even fair to let them live in a sub-developed country if we can also give them all the opportunities of a developed country. Take that in consideration, if you plan to have a family here, why would not better stay in the US (or wherever you are from).
The past two weeks the extreme heat also makes me reconsider our interim decision to stay in DR for the time being and evaluate maybe in a year. Just to walk from the cold shower to an airconditioned room makes me already sweat like if I ran 10 kilometers.
Mauricio, you are just like a particular buddy i have here on this site who has a wife from an upper class family, and i am sure that the issues that we have adumbrated do not come into play. money is not an issue, so she could not be playing him to get some. secondly, because money is not an issue, she is not from a social ecosystem in which multiple partners makes for economic advantage. when you start getting to the echelon that works hard to support a kid, and who is 'not rich", the dynamics change. a guy who lives on a modest fixed income in the DR, such as a retirement pension, will not be able to satisfy the average woman, financially. when she wants the Blaberry, or the Galasi, and her man just cannot stretch the finances that far that month, some cabana action is going to take place. i stand by that.
Its funny that you think things are predetermined. Its not that you see things coming honey, you influence the outcome with your thoughts and expectations. I too, have a tendency to be 3-4-or-5 moves ahead. Which is why I'm here asking questions. LOL
That sounds like the situation of a woman looking for a man to take care of her, which I am not. And the man I'm involved with is not barely scraping by, he's living modestly but effectively. And he's happy, maybe the happiest person I ever met. LOL There are advantages for me to marry him as well, so he could easily look at me and say I have an ulterior motive too. And to some extent, I do. But we have a real connection, of that I have no doubt. I'm not usually categorized with the average person by those who know me best, and part of the reason for that is I'm willing to take calculated risks and I think outside the box.
And what about the notion that two people with aligning interests can come together and build a better future? Does that not exist in this forum? LOL
A question I always bring up. What about those lucky catches in your hometown? None to catch? Need to go "outside the box" to capture? lol No offense to you though. Just curious.
Sometimes dominican men or women want to have a foreign partner just because they have had bad experiences with dominicans before. In this case money, visa, etc are not a driving factor. I must admit these are very rare exceptions, but they exist.
With that said, all of you guys who know me here, know that I agree with most of what you have posted. However, we were also newbies in DR at some point. We all made mistakes trying to assess situations, and we all wanted to believe. We never trusted negative opinions, and we overlooked those advises that were not of our liking. It's human nature. A person who keeps from doing something just because other people said it was bad, is not a person who will get very far in life. We all had bad experiences and moved on (except maybe Hernandez). So, as many have mentioned, pretty much the only useful advise we can give here (and she's not asking for any), is to not do anything permanent for the first few years, meaning not to put money down for anything, buying property, getting married, etc. That will give her the chance to run away if needed, and with no permanent damage. How long is a good waiting period? I don't know. I've been here for almost 13 years, and I trust women less with every passing day. I've found women to break character only after some good 4 or 5 years. So, at this point in time I'm sure I will never trust any woman's (dominican or not) intentions to be good for me, but that doesn't mean I can't be happy with them, and I can always get out of any relationship when I feel it's going south. No permanent moves, and you'll be ok.
The only danger here is thinking we know how everything is. We don't. We never will.
With that said, all of you guys who know me here, know that I agree with most of what you have posted. However, we were also newbies in DR at some point. We all made mistakes trying to assess situations, and we all wanted to believe. We never trusted negative opinions, and we overlooked those advises that were not of our liking. It's human nature. A person who keeps from doing something just because other people said it was bad, is not a person who will get very far in life. We all had bad experiences and moved on (except maybe Hernandez). So, as many have mentioned, pretty much the only useful advise we can give here (and she's not asking for any), is to not do anything permanent for the first few years, meaning not to put money down for anything, buying property, getting married, etc. That will give her the chance to run away if needed, and with no permanent damage. How long is a good waiting period? I don't know. I've been here for almost 13 years, and I trust women less with every passing day. I've found women to break character only after some good 4 or 5 years. So, at this point in time I'm sure I will never trust any woman's (dominican or not) intentions to be good for me, but that doesn't mean I can't be happy with them, and I can always get out of any relationship when I feel it's going south. No permanent moves, and you'll be ok.
The only danger here is thinking we know how everything is. We don't. We never will.
aligning interests? what the heck is that? some New Wave stuff?
listen here, OP, i am not a curmudgeon. i only play one on tv (damn, that's cornball). anyway, i have been in this country for 25 years, and i have been there , and done that. i have had Dominican girls live with me in NY, and live with me here. i have never met one that was different from the other. NEVER. know why? i never met one that was in the social class of a woman such as Mauricio's wife. all were of modest means. the two in NYC were just your average chica i was extending a helping hand to. the playbook was the same. the stories were the same. the lies were the same. it was like a Xerox machine spit them out.
see my point?
I have read all 8 pages of comments. The OP has received some good advice from the regular posters. She is showing a
good deal of resistance to the buen consejos. The only thing is to see how she is progressing in her chosen endevour.
I personally am very curious to know how it progresses, seen the OP desire to go forward with it.
Isis, will you be so good as to let us sceptics know how is going? Which town or city will you be moving in?
Please keep in touch, it could be beneficial to you too.
good deal of resistance to the buen consejos. The only thing is to see how she is progressing in her chosen endevour.
I personally am very curious to know how it progresses, seen the OP desire to go forward with it.
Isis, will you be so good as to let us sceptics know how is going? Which town or city will you be moving in?
Please keep in touch, it could be beneficial to you too.
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