What you said about "standing out" is probably my biggest concern. I in fact had this very same conversation with my girlfriend (Dominican) about how it looks driving around in a new car in this country. We live in the Centro Ciudad in a building with a garage, so it won't be on the street, ditto for when she's at school/work. However, there are times when she visits her family and they live in some poorer parts of town and I asked her how she felt about driving to those places in a new car; she didn't seem concerned. However (and I can hear the collective groan from you guys), she in fact only asked me to buy a used Rav4, not a new one. I am the one who suggested that we get a new car.
I'm with you all on the financial soundness of buying used and will eventually get a used car for myself. However, we are expecting a child and I really want to have the latest, safest, most reliable car for the sake of the child. I only believe in new cars if you're going to drive it for a substantial amount of time, which is at least 10 years for me.
I really do value everyone's opinion. So if you were me, expecting a child, living in a relatively safe place with a secured garage, going to take good care of a car and drive it for 10 years minimum, 150-200,000 miles, what do you think of my decision? Oh, I forgot to mention that we really don't drive that much.