What are the most insightful, helpful posts you have found on DR1?
There have been a few posts on DR1 through the years that I have considered very insightful and have helped me a great deal to understand local culture and more importantly, how to get along in it. Here are two of them, there are more that I just cant think of. (or find right now) Please reply with your favorites.
and an older one:
There have been a few posts on DR1 through the years that I have considered very insightful and have helped me a great deal to understand local culture and more importantly, how to get along in it. Here are two of them, there are more that I just cant think of. (or find right now) Please reply with your favorites.
"Why can't we all just get along?"
I'll tell you why,because we all come from different circumstances! That's Why"!!!
I may not be able to defend some of the "things"
that "AZB" posts,but I can,and will, defend his right to say them! (Within the "Guidelines" of DR1 of course!:cheeky
Here are "some" of the "Things" that I have "learned" about Dominicans after first visiting,(Starting in 1986) and then actually "Living here"!(THAT means 24/7 for the last 12 years!!,NOT going to an "AI" twice a year!!)
I started out as a "Dominican Wannabe"! That is "Stage One"! Hanging out with "Real Dominicans" Whores,Getto Trash" Chopos, Bachateros, you know,90 % of the Dominican people!!!
(Time for the "Disclaimer"!!) Not "ALL" Dominicans are "DUMBminicans" just 90 %!
After you actually live in the DR for a few years. You realize what you are doing,"Sluming", and start to withdraw from the "Street Culture" Dumbminican Wannabe state!! You may just withdraw to the "Expat" culture,you may,like AZB start to find some Dominican "friends" amoung the "Higher Class" in the DR. AZB likes "lightskinnen,intelligent, "Santiaguerras"! so that is now his "Bubble" to use your "classification"! That is "Stage Two"!
After a few years in "Stage Two" you begin to realize that "All Dominicans Are Basically The Same!"
Doesn't matter so much what "Class", or "Socio-Economic" group that they belong to,they are ALL from the same culture (Which is homogenious, due to the DR being an island, isolated for 500 years!)
Now what does THAT mean?? Now this is where we separate the DR1ers into two groups! Those that know what I mean,and that I am "right", and those who will claim "Outrage" at what I am about to say!,and beg to know "Why?" I,and those of you who know what I mean,continue to live in the DR,if we "HATE" Dominicans So much??"
Dominican "Culture" IS Really DIFFERENT!
Here are "some" cultural "Norms" in the DR:
Stealing,lying,gossiping,corruption,envy, promiscuity, RACISM,Classism, Chauvanism, disrespect,no self-respect,abuse of alcohol,and now drugs, can't drive,block your passage, EVERYWHERE! Loud music till dawn,polluting the evironment with impunity! My finger is tired,so I will not go on!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"OH!" child abuse,wife beating (Even when the DON'T deserve it!! Can You Believe THAT?)
Now lets get to "Stage Three",you "withdraw" into a "defensive perimeter"!
You only have a relationship with your family,and a very few close friends! The friends may be dominican,or "Expats"! You may have superficial "friendships" with "Others",but you NEVER allow them into your "Defensive Perimeter"!!!!!
I am VERY happy here! I could care less about how the Dominicans treat eachother ! I am "Above-The-Fray" so to speak! If you have enough $$$$$ living in the DR can be GREAT!
And Furthermore: I love to "Flame" ignorant posters on DR1!! "Duh!!"
But I really don't dislike anyone( Except Maybe "Nals",and that is not for his "So-call" posts, but because he is an exposed lier on DR1!) and I hate liers!) but some of you seem to get really and truely Pi$$ed at other posters for their opinions. Waht's Up With That?"
And could I make a post about DR Culture,and "WHY" I stay "immersed" in "IT" if I "Hate It So Much", without mentioning those beautiful,sexy,YOUNG, "EASY" Dominicanas,who "Give-it-up" to "Fat,Bald,Ugly,Old men,(Who have a few hundred pesos to spare)???
"The answer is; "NO!",I can't!
So, "Here's To" all those Domincan men who get all those young girls pregnant,and then "Move On",(NOT .org!) to the next "Victim"! Then those girls take the "Easy Way" of making money,and "Sell Themselves"! To the highest bidder!
Now to all you posters who think the girls "Have to sell themselves", to support their kids, "Bull$hit"!
Prostitutes,AND I KNOW Prostitutes!!, are Prostitues, because it "Beats Working For a Living"!!
Time to give "Nals" a chance to say:, It's worse in the US!"
The DR IS,"Just Like Everywhere Else!" but as a friend once said:, "Only Moreso!"
Cris Colon. With:.."Too Much Time On His Hands!"
and an older one:
A few things here.
First, conservative Dominican girls who are otherwise eligible for marriage to a Dominican man don't bother with foreigners.
Dominican society did not undergo Illuminism. This means that persons don't exist as individuals, but as members of a family/clan. Marrying outside the clan or to individuals who do not belong locally means losing all privileges and facilities granted to members, and since DR is not a democracy, but a kind of feudal society, this is almost equivalent to losing your civil rights.
Dominican society has got two casts, the "respectable" and the "poor". They don't mix, and poor people have almost no rights.
Dominican girls lose their right to marry to a "respectable" Dominican man when becoming pregnant outside of wedlock, or when making a similar social mistake. The sentence can not be appealed, and it is served by the "damas" who congregate in church. At that point, she can resignate to not marrying anymore, to marrying a poor, or marrying a foreigner, all equivalent choices.
In case she marries a foreigner who decides to take her abroad, she will go from a feudal society to the 21st century in a few hours, the time of a plane flight. I can hardly imagine apdating to such a shift.
If this were not enough, there is the problem of responsibility. In the Western world, responsibility is individual. I, as an individual, am responsible for my own actions. In DR (throughout casts) responsibility is shared. Whatever I do, my clans/family will bear the weight of my actions with me. Dominican women, who, in addition to the aforementioned, usually delegate responsibility to men, will crumble in a split second when confronted with the consequences of their actions and withdraw in total denial.
But of course, you might have met the daughter of a very tolerant father who actually taught their daughters to be opened to other cultures and lifestyles, made them live, through books, the Illuminism, gave them a passion for non-Dominican music and food, and so on.
Please investigate before putting your balls under a sledgehammer.