Mr. DR, thanks for the ecnouragement but you misunderstood. I am not overweight. I used to be a serious amateur weight trainer. No, it doesn't show now, but I am not heavy. I meant I can't function if the chick weighs twice as much as I do and I am 6'0 at 210 lbs.
The stick is fine in size, and functionality I have no insecuritites there either, thank you, but it is pale.
As for style, I think that comes automatically with confidence and attitude. Both of which are transient and depend on where in life you find yourself.