Dominican Men, good looking, but good boyfriends????

[QUALITYGUY1]

Everyone is forgetting one very important thing....

GREAT DAMN SEX!!!!

i dont care what anyone says....u can be head over heels for someone, then u hit the sack and they dont so much as cause a tremor in your world :bored: , ur attitude changes......

i dont wanna hear the "theres more important things then sex and true love over comes blah blah and u can teach them trick blah blah blah lbah"

good sex good sex!!

Yes you are right...as all long-term couples know...but remember, the biggest part of the relationship begins when you put your feet on the floor in the morning. If you don't have both pieces of the puzzle it'll never work right and one, the other, or both will NEVER have a happy fulfilling life.

 

[callik]

Lalla

I know you don't want to hear it but "good sex" is not what makes someone worthy of being a life long partner.You can't always have everything in a partner. If you make a list of what makes a relationship last Sex is not number one. I know for sure my husband didn't marry me for my skills but I also know that it never crossed his mind to marry those other women. My husband and I are like best friends.We balance each other out. When you look for a mate you want someone who is caring ,patient ,someone who understands you, has the same ideals and goals as you.Someone who respects you and communicates with you.Someone who can make you feel good without even touching you.Couples who put sex first don't last very long.
As for kids having sex. I think that's a shame but it's happening all over and it's really nothing new. I have a couple of friends that started having sex when they were 9. Sex is a big responsibility and I don't see anything wrong with being a virgin until you get married or your old enough to handle what comes with it.Women shouldn't sell themselves short be selective with your body.Great sex is one thing but a great romance is so much more.

 

[lalla]

I know you don't want to hear it but "good sex" is not what makes someone worthy of being a life long partner.You can't always have everything in a partner. If you make a list of what makes a relationship last Sex is not number one. I know for sure my husband didn't marry me for my skills but I also know that it never crossed his mind to marry those other women. My husband and I are like best friends.We balance each other out. When you look for a mate you want someone who is caring ,patient ,someone who understands you, has the same ideals and goals as you.Someone who respects you and communicates with you.Someone who can make you feel good without even touching you.Couples who put sex first don't last very long.
.

I never said its what makes someone worthy of being a life long partner....I totally understand and agree 100% with what u are saying.....

Having said that, sex is very important, not #1 but its up there in the top 5....why? because it comes down to compatability.....and not just in everyday things, ideals, morals, etc, but sex....if you have a wife that is a log and isnt as interested in sex as the husband (or vice versa) there is going to be problems and ultimately it will snowball to other things....

sex is never a foundation for a relationship, but it sure as hell is a strong beam in that foundation....

I have a husband too and we are the best of friends, and the relationship flourished FROM a friendship when we were both otherwise involved.....because of all the qualities u mentioned is the reason we are married and decided to bring a child into this world........and the sex too ahahahahahahah its jokes, lighten up dear

 

[callik]

I have a husband too and we are the best of friends, and the relationship flourished FROM a friendship when we were both otherwise involved.....because of all the qualities u mentioned is the reason we are married and decided to bring a child into this world........and the sex too ahahahahahahah its jokes, lighten up dear

Sorry if I came across as a little frigid in my post. I've noticed that we have some young readers amongst us. aranoid: I was trying to get my point across to them as well.

 

[lifes good]

I agree with callik...education/intilect and common sense are 2 very different things. First of all, it takes great maturity to establish a lasting relationship, even in a situation where the couple are from a similar culture. When taking 2 people from different backgrounds/cultures completely, it will take an exceptional level of maturity, understanding, trust, mutual love (that is, without jealousy and posessiveness), and I also believe a good amount of experience that comes with age. In other words, this type of relationship is not for beginners.
Furthermore, if you feel you have the qualifications but your prospective partner does not exhibit these traits, frankly, you are wasting your time.

I told her to write, you are what I wanted her to see. When a person has worked all their life for a goal, their family expects certain behavior and they greet every morning if they even slept the night before with knowing all the equations to the last question but can barely type their name yes they go to Harvard. Why do they not have fraternities and sororities ever wonder why? Even MIT does, all the kids are smart, smart girls are special, and being beautiful is especially a bad thing here, because if you are beautiful then you cant be smart, trust me this guy is smart. Her family was upset she would even have a boyfriend much less one that was colored, he is intelligent, hadsome and his education is everything, he was raised in a little DR area in Boston even their spanish is different. He knows what he wants and that is her but he wants her to choose between her education, family, friends, etc and him. She dumped him and went back to studying that wasnt fair, she needs to know all DR men are not bad not that you guys have convinced her they are all cons and hookers, there are good dominicans also and she put it all on the line by even introducing her to the family they have had fun with this, so guys hes just wanting to know where he fits in an unbecoming way, I think they can work this out.

 

[lifes good]

I don't want to upset you Angel2fire but here goes...
How, and I mean HOW can you be in Harvard and have so many spelling mistakes and grammatical errors?
I know someone will attack me for this, but for the life of me, I would just expect someone with the intelligence that is required to become a doctor and the high standards of Harvard to at least know how to spell correctly as well as speak proper grammer.
As they say - anybody can be anybody on the internet!!!!
Now, I have to go back to the lab and continue working on my latest rocket ship. LOL
Marlie

Have you checked out what the kids looks like in the yard? They all look like zombie's, too much homework, pressure from everyone for good grades at $40,000 a year a B is not acceptable, probably from a family that expects too much, when she is running in and out of her dorm I am sure she is checking to make sure she has her books, glances at her computer screens quickly figures out the percentage of people who think she was a fool besides her white rich friends, her elusive parents. She doesnt have time for mistakes, grammar and spelling she could fix but she is probably holding to much stuff and is typing with her hat in her mouth with one finger. She called him and told him it was probably the biggest mistake in her life but she had read all this stuff on Dominican Men and she couldnt deal with it right now. She doesnt have time until one night she is going to think about it, this guy was right for her, he was insecure, she doesnt understand she is intimidating as hell. You know where the labs are? You can figure out which ones she hangs out in, thats social life, homework and check her out the only blond, quick smile quick to help, laughs easiiy, the one every one asks for help, dresses in pink, red or white, hair is a mess that just rolled out of bed look, talk to her she is real this is the only guy that has dared get close to her and s he doesnt even understand, she thinks guys dont ask her out except as friends because she is ugly. You have her all wrong, she is a lonely, beautiful genius. She just blew off the best thing he cant figure why she would have him, sad.....

 

[lifes good]

First of all, I am not a woman, I am man and I am don't claim to be a virgin like many claim to be.
Your story was so similar to so many bimbos here that I assumed you were a sankie lover. I never read the whole post (or posts).
Now if this guy has been living in USA since the age of 5 then he is not really your typical dominican. Since you have never been to dominican republic, then I don't see what you really want from us?
Please post a picture of him in his hip hop gangster atire and you would know what I was talking about. He doesn't sound like an Ivy league graduate to me, more like a rapper wanna be.
Now you said you will be graduating from Harvard in 3 years????
My A$$$$. If Harvard is accepting people of your caliber than I should be a professor there.
have a nice day.
AZB

Since she feels like such an idiot because all Dominican Men and worthless except to play with and look at, why dont you clarify that they really arent all like that, you have fire its in the way you write. No he isnt a rapper, poor very poor raised in a dominican area in boston, raised by a terrific grandmother, mother and siblings in dr, sends money home, he isnt typical except he doesnt understand why she wants him and she doesnt understand why he wants her, she only told you where she went because she has been called all sorts of things lately by family and friends, now his own people judge him and laugh at her, she is not a fool, they needed a cooling off period, they love each other, it can work they need to talk, not be criticized and for you info I would die if all dominican men were like that, they are able to listen and speak, they can do things other then video games and tv at the same time, they take an interest in their appearance and have manners, so what if they appreciate women, have some of your female friends hang out with me and some american guys, they would never complain again.

 

[AnnaC]

Did you say they will work it out?

Here are her words in case you missed it

HE goes out all the time with his friends, yet never invites me, I have met 1 of his male friends and that was just to get his approval, the friend walked away asking where did he find a girlfriend llike me and where could he get himself one? I have never been treated like this before, its his way or no way? Is this common in there culture, or do I just have a bad dominican?

I dont have to deal with his machoistic behavior, he acts like a caveman.

Some of us said that this behavior should not be tolorated no matter what country a man is from. She said he acts like a caveman. You seem to think he's great maybe you should be his girlfriend and let angelfire get on with her life.

 

[miguel]

Ok!!!

I told her to write, you are what I wanted her to see. When a person has worked all their life for a goal, their family expects certain behavior and they greet every morning if they even slept the night before with knowing all the equations to the last question but can barely type their name yes they go to Harvard. Why do they not have fraternities and sororities ever wonder why? Even MIT does, all the kids are smart, smart girls are special, and being beautiful is especially a bad thing here, because if you are beautiful then you cant be smart, trust me this guy is smart. Her family was upset she would even have a boyfriend much less one that was colored, he is intelligent, hadsome and his education is everything, he was raised in a little DR area in Boston even their spanish is different. He knows what he wants and that is her but he wants her to choose between her education, family, friends, etc and him. She dumped him and went back to studying that wasnt fair, she needs to know all DR men are not bad not that you guys have convinced her they are all cons and hookers, there are good dominicans also and she put it all on the line by even introducing her to the family they have had fun with this, so guys hes just wanting to know where he fits in an unbecoming way, I think they can work this out.

If the guy is so great, then she should be with him and then forget about all her complaining in her thread. If he is half the person she dercribed on her thread, she should not give this guy the time of day. I will read the thread again because i think i misses his niceness.

 

[miguel]

Oye

Have you checked out what the kids looks like in the yard? They all look like zombie's, too much homework, pressure from everyone for good grades at $40,000 a year a B is not acceptable, probably from a family that expects too much, when she is running in and out of her dorm I am sure she is checking to make sure she has her books, glances at her computer screens quickly figures out the percentage of people who think she was a fool besides her white rich friends, her elusive parents. She doesnt have time for mistakes, grammar and spelling she could fix but she is probably holding to much stuff and is typing with her hat in her mouth with one finger. She called him and told him it was probably the biggest mistake in her life but she had read all this stuff on Dominican Men and she couldnt deal with it right now. She doesnt have time until one night she is going to think about it, this guy was right for her, he was insecure, she doesnt understand she is intimidating as hell. You know where the labs are? You can figure out which ones she hangs out in, thats social life, homework and check her out the only blond, quick smile quick to help, laughs easiiy, the one every one asks for help, dresses in pink, red or white, hair is a mess that just rolled out of bed look, talk to her she is real this is the only guy that has dared get close to her and s he doesnt even understand, she thinks guys dont ask her out except as friends because she is ugly. You have her all wrong, she is a lonely, beautiful genius. She just blew off the best thing he cant figure why she would have him, sad.....

SHe did not needed to read our comments to decide if she wanted to be with him or not, the guy is a manipulator and a user, among other things. Harvard or not, should should know when a guy is an axx. I gather the she did, only after reading our comments and dumpted him. Good for her.

 

[marliejaneca]

Okay, now I am confused

Lifes good - who are you?
You said you told her to write to see what we are? What was that supposed to mean? Are you her friend? Are you Dominican? Are you a girl or a guy? You obviously want them to work it out even though you were the one to tell her to write to this forum? You obviously thought there was a problem to tell her to post her predicament? Now, because you didn't like what we all told her, you argue with us and say that we don't know what we are talking about!
What on earth do the two of you want from us?
I think I will unsubscribe to this post as it doesn't seem to be going anywhere and becoming more confusing with each post - she came, we answered, she left, lifes good came in and we are back to where we started. Flogging a dead horse, I would say!
See ya, bye!
Marlie
P.S. Miquel - how's the speech coming???? LOL

 

[miguel]

Listen hun!!!!

Since she feels like such an idiot because all Dominican Men and worthless except to play with and look at, why dont you clarify that they really arent all like that, you have fire its in the way you write. No he isnt a rapper, poor very poor raised in a dominican area in boston, raised by a terrific grandmother, mother and siblings in dr, sends money home, he isnt typical except he doesnt understand why she wants him and she doesnt understand why he wants her, she only told you where she went because she has been called all sorts of things lately by family and friends, now his own people judge him and laugh at her, she is not a fool, they needed a cooling off period, they love each other, it can work they need to talk, not be criticized and for you info I would die if all dominican men were like that, they are able to listen and speak, they can do things other then video games and tv at the same time, they take an interest in their appearance and have manners, so what if they appreciate women, have some of your female friends hang out with me and some american guys, they would never complain again.

I really do not know as to why you are defending so much and she is not posting, or is she?. In your eyes, this guy is great, then you after him. DID YOU READ HER THREAD?. Let's see, you say that they need a cooling off period (like he is going to change during that period), she does not understand why he wants her(maybe to keep on treating her like garbage comes to mind), you say that they love each other and that it can work (oh boy, you are a true friend). Now let me quote to you what she said on her thread and let me know if a true friend would not understand her "cries for help": 1-"he called and wanted to see me all the time and then he told me that now that you are my girlfriend, the honeymoon is over" so he stopped calling all the time and stopped seeing her all the time. 2-"he treats me like property", 3-"tells his friends that he is out with his white girfriend",4-"goes out with his friends all the time and does not invite her", "met only one of his friends just for aproval". And now you are telling us that this guy is a good guy. If he is nice in your book, darling I would hate to see that guys that you date. Don't you realize that if someone is treating you this bad after only 5 months of dating, it will get much worse as the time passes. I really don't know if you are her, her friend, her boyfriend or whomever, but the one thing I know is that you are not a true friend. You should be telling her to stay away from this "nice guy".

 

[AnnaC]

I hate tests and this looks too much like a test.

Thanks for your comments everyone it's time to end this.