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Help me, please!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Cheryl,
I was originally going to move back asap, but have decided to stay in Toronto for the summer and put aside enough money to hopefully sustain me for a while there so I can concentrate on my writing without having to work. I admit I am luckier than most in this position, because not only do I have a free place to live, I will have family also living there (my father), as well as some locals I now consider close friends. So, with that said, the DR isn't going anywhere so there really isn't any rush. Not too mention summers in Toronto are pretty great. Then again the winters aren't too bad either. So far we have only had 2 days of snow this year. It has been cold a little but usually quite nice. Still, I would rather be on a beach next winter than here. When are you going?
On another note, in the OPEN forum I found the post with everyone's pictures in it! It was great. So I added mine (with Abel, my DR friend). Very cool idea everyone.
Cheryl, you are kicking everyone's ass in the thread department. You go girl.
WW
I was originally going to move back asap, but have decided to stay in Toronto for the summer and put aside enough money to hopefully sustain me for a while there so I can concentrate on my writing without having to work. I admit I am luckier than most in this position, because not only do I have a free place to live, I will have family also living there (my father), as well as some locals I now consider close friends. So, with that said, the DR isn't going anywhere so there really isn't any rush. Not too mention summers in Toronto are pretty great. Then again the winters aren't too bad either. So far we have only had 2 days of snow this year. It has been cold a little but usually quite nice. Still, I would rather be on a beach next winter than here. When are you going?
On another note, in the OPEN forum I found the post with everyone's pictures in it! It was great. So I added mine (with Abel, my DR friend). Very cool idea everyone.
Cheryl, you are kicking everyone's ass in the thread department. You go girl.
WW
From the Modern Tales of Canterbury and In Praise of Folly
As Nicole has suggested, a Grandmother's Tale--
"Listen my children and you shall hear the Great Tale of Granny W.. For when she was young and foolish free,...
When April came with it's soothing rains, and drove away the cold of March,
Since she wasn't getting what she needed in these damp climes,
she went on a quest to the Land of the Brown Bunnies. She had quested there before and and knew them well, and was fulfilled to the maximum, and very well!
These Wonderful Bunny People will do anything for
you.
Money was not a problem, hon, especially at seventeen fifty to one, so adieu,
To the cold and the damp, she was off to her camp.
Sankis were there to the left and to the right, always getting into the fight. Over Granny! Oh, they were a sight! And what numbers they knew: Sixty Nine or sixty eight, and seventy too!
Yet, Alas, when the youth was spent and the money too, so went the sweet joys of the Brown Bunnies, those fuzzy little sankis, to find other women to woo.
And here is your ol'Granny, a tellin' you,
Be careful of who you want to screw
Up your life with, my kin, since fornicating is fun but it's also a sin....
This Tale of Granny W
as she told her grandkids how she got the action she needed, was brought to you with deepest regards by
1) Whoever it was that wrote the Midnight Ride of Paul Revere
2) Geoffrey Chaucer
3) Erasmus of Rotterdam
And the Lively Lady W.....
HB.....)8^))))))
Please stay tuned for our regular programming...
As Nicole has suggested, a Grandmother's Tale--
"Listen my children and you shall hear the Great Tale of Granny W.. For when she was young and foolish free,...
When April came with it's soothing rains, and drove away the cold of March,
Since she wasn't getting what she needed in these damp climes,
she went on a quest to the Land of the Brown Bunnies. She had quested there before and and knew them well, and was fulfilled to the maximum, and very well!
These Wonderful Bunny People will do anything for
you.
Money was not a problem, hon, especially at seventeen fifty to one, so adieu,
To the cold and the damp, she was off to her camp.
Sankis were there to the left and to the right, always getting into the fight. Over Granny! Oh, they were a sight! And what numbers they knew: Sixty Nine or sixty eight, and seventy too!
Yet, Alas, when the youth was spent and the money too, so went the sweet joys of the Brown Bunnies, those fuzzy little sankis, to find other women to woo.
And here is your ol'Granny, a tellin' you,
Be careful of who you want to screw
Up your life with, my kin, since fornicating is fun but it's also a sin....
This Tale of Granny W
as she told her grandkids how she got the action she needed, was brought to you with deepest regards by
1) Whoever it was that wrote the Midnight Ride of Paul Revere
2) Geoffrey Chaucer
3) Erasmus of Rotterdam
And the Lively Lady W.....
HB.....)8^))))))
Please stay tuned for our regular programming...
life in D.R
you go cheryl - follow your heart, thats what people keep saying to me
i have been with my dominican boyfriend for just over two years now. yeah he works in a resort hotel and yeah you got to be careful as some of them are known to be sankies and take western girls for what they can get
my boyfriend doesn't ask me for anything and he rings and emails me a lot
it is just hard for me as my parents don't agree with what i am doing and hate the thought of me being with me but hey thats life
i am going back to the d.r in ten days to spend a week with him and then again in june for two weeks. i want to make sure i am doing the right thing before i decide to uproot and go over there.
i love it over there and have made many friends and of course i have his family there who are also nice
so i would just say follow your heart and it now before you regret it
i agree wirth the job side, as i have heard it is very hard to get a job ther ebut if you can take enough money to last you a few months you should be fine
good luck and if you wanna email me please do at sonesj@tuckers-law.com or anyone else who has views on this
you go cheryl - follow your heart, thats what people keep saying to me
i have been with my dominican boyfriend for just over two years now. yeah he works in a resort hotel and yeah you got to be careful as some of them are known to be sankies and take western girls for what they can get
my boyfriend doesn't ask me for anything and he rings and emails me a lot
it is just hard for me as my parents don't agree with what i am doing and hate the thought of me being with me but hey thats life
i am going back to the d.r in ten days to spend a week with him and then again in june for two weeks. i want to make sure i am doing the right thing before i decide to uproot and go over there.
i love it over there and have made many friends and of course i have his family there who are also nice
so i would just say follow your heart and it now before you regret it
i agree wirth the job side, as i have heard it is very hard to get a job ther ebut if you can take enough money to last you a few months you should be fine
good luck and if you wanna email me please do at sonesj@tuckers-law.com or anyone else who has views on this
Loved your post HillBilly. But let me ask all of you this. If you had a free (and nice) place to live on a caribbean island and was able to live there without working to pursue a lifelong dream, would you do it? The men are just a bonus in my eyes, not a priority.
WW
WW
White Wave
As I told you in your very first post, if you can concentrate and do your work-remembering that writing is work, then go right ahead. You are extremely fortunate to have such an opportunity.
Remember, I only soured on this when you started to babble about Abel.....(my term, not yours..)
HB, with crossed fingers...
As I told you in your very first post, if you can concentrate and do your work-remembering that writing is work, then go right ahead. You are extremely fortunate to have such an opportunity.
Remember, I only soured on this when you started to babble about Abel.....(my term, not yours..)
HB, with crossed fingers...
Moving to DR
Make sure that if things are not what you expected, that you can return to the UK and have somewhere to live and perhaps a job to return to. Its always best to be safe rather than sorry! It is a big step to take... People are not trying to put you off or down, they can just see the pitfalls you face.
I have a boyfriend in the DR (and yes I met him at a resort). I have been back 3 times and will go again in June (yes I met the family and friends). When we can get him a visitors visa he will come and stay with me for a while so he can see how our lives are very different and to see if we have the same kind of relationship here as we do there... who knows?
Perhaps I am just very wary, but I have seen for myself girls who fall into the trap and how sad it is for them when it all goes "pear shape". Don't be blinded by love (easier said then done I know!).
Good luck. Enjoy.
Make sure that if things are not what you expected, that you can return to the UK and have somewhere to live and perhaps a job to return to. Its always best to be safe rather than sorry! It is a big step to take... People are not trying to put you off or down, they can just see the pitfalls you face.
I have a boyfriend in the DR (and yes I met him at a resort). I have been back 3 times and will go again in June (yes I met the family and friends). When we can get him a visitors visa he will come and stay with me for a while so he can see how our lives are very different and to see if we have the same kind of relationship here as we do there... who knows?
Perhaps I am just very wary, but I have seen for myself girls who fall into the trap and how sad it is for them when it all goes "pear shape". Don't be blinded by love (easier said then done I know!).
Good luck. Enjoy.
This is Jan not Jimmy!!
I say follow your heart but protect it...and have money to get by on but don't let anyone know what you have and don't spend it on anyone but yourself. Then after a few months you'll discover if its money of love. Pretend your broke even if your not and just be careful.
For example while
I say follow your heart but protect it...and have money to get by on but don't let anyone know what you have and don't spend it on anyone but yourself. Then after a few months you'll discover if its money of love. Pretend your broke even if your not and just be careful.
For example while
This is Jan not Jimmy!!
I say follow your heart but protect it...and have money to get by on but don't let anyone know what you have and don't spend it on anyone but yourself. Then after a few months you'll discover if its money of love. Pretend your broke even if your not and just be careful.
For example while waling to the main road today to get a public car to Zona Colonial 3 men stopped and told me they loved me! And got 2 more walikng the comde to the Galleria. Its funny sometimes and others annoying. Just be careful and guard your heart. These Dominican men can worm their way in if you let them whenb you don't even know its happening. So just be careful.
If you need any info you can email me..I'm an Americana living in RD for 4 months now. janllave@hotmail.com..I'm using a friends computer right now thats why its coming up as Jimmy..
I say follow your heart but protect it...and have money to get by on but don't let anyone know what you have and don't spend it on anyone but yourself. Then after a few months you'll discover if its money of love. Pretend your broke even if your not and just be careful.
For example while waling to the main road today to get a public car to Zona Colonial 3 men stopped and told me they loved me! And got 2 more walikng the comde to the Galleria. Its funny sometimes and others annoying. Just be careful and guard your heart. These Dominican men can worm their way in if you let them whenb you don't even know its happening. So just be careful.
If you need any info you can email me..I'm an Americana living in RD for 4 months now. janllave@hotmail.com..I'm using a friends computer right now thats why its coming up as Jimmy..
The ole bag speaks......
I'm middle aged,overweight, with decidedly grey hair yet I get propositioned all the time when walking down the street in a "resort/tourist" area! Even if my husband is walking right beside me......there are guys out there looking for the sucker that's born very minute and a lot of lonely people looking for love!!!
I'm middle aged,overweight, with decidedly grey hair yet I get propositioned all the time when walking down the street in a "resort/tourist" area! Even if my husband is walking right beside me......there are guys out there looking for the sucker that's born very minute and a lot of lonely people looking for love!!!
Whoa Nelly!!
Oh my goodness this post seems to have a lot of what I like to call "mis-directed" anger.
Cheryl- you do what is right for you in a safe and well planned manner. You gotta look out for number one because no one else is going to do it for you.
And I also think that much of the advice on these posts have been reasonable- if not common sense which I am sure had already occurred to you. My only concern is the harshness with which the advice was given!!!! I am a very sensititive person, so okay maybe I read a little too much into it, but c'mon...If you have concerns-fine state them, you don't need to be rude or knock down another persons ideas/questions just because they are not inline with your own. I am sorry if this upsets anyone but honestly, if I had received as many harsh responses to my posts I would probably be in tears and just as confused as ever which is not the point of these helpful boards!!!!
Cheryl, obviously you are an itelligent adult. Research your decision, save your money, pick up some Spanish and take some time to think about your decision.
I wish you the best of luck.
Christine
Oh my goodness this post seems to have a lot of what I like to call "mis-directed" anger.
Cheryl- you do what is right for you in a safe and well planned manner. You gotta look out for number one because no one else is going to do it for you.
And I also think that much of the advice on these posts have been reasonable- if not common sense which I am sure had already occurred to you. My only concern is the harshness with which the advice was given!!!! I am a very sensititive person, so okay maybe I read a little too much into it, but c'mon...If you have concerns-fine state them, you don't need to be rude or knock down another persons ideas/questions just because they are not inline with your own. I am sorry if this upsets anyone but honestly, if I had received as many harsh responses to my posts I would probably be in tears and just as confused as ever which is not the point of these helpful boards!!!!
Cheryl, obviously you are an itelligent adult. Research your decision, save your money, pick up some Spanish and take some time to think about your decision.
I wish you the best of luck.
Christine
Perhaps we are jaded! Perhaps we have stars in our eyes as I am sure you all did when you first decided to relocate to the DR. And trust me, as I am sure I speak for all of us newbies, "We appreciate the advice and warnings", however, we are just slightly taken aback by the overt bluntness of certain posts. It is one thing to say- Take care while you are there because the locals tend to take advantage of unsuspecting tourists. But it is something altogether different to say - All local DR men are deceitful, manipulative, womanizing, users only after our wallets and visas. There are a number of great women on here that have proved that statement wrong, so why such negativity. Is it because you yourselves got burnt badly? I think it is pretty clear that we all understand the circumstances and have our brains and hearts intact, but if not, time will tell. We just want support and a little guidance from some friendly people who have taken the step before us. Hopefully we can put this subject behind us and focus on more important things from now on.
WW
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Well said, WhiteWave. You girls now know what you are getting into, you know what to watch out for, and I am sure you will make wise, informed decisions. I am sure you are no less confused than when you started posting, and no more sure about your respective boyfriends. Truth is, you never will know unless you go there and find out for yourself. Like I said before, treat your Dominican romance just like you would any other romance. And keep ties to your home city so that if things don't work out, you can return home. I thank God everyday that I made the move to the DR...I didn't move there for anyone, I knew very few people, and I ended up meeting the love of my life. He is one of the best people I've ever met. We are so happy and I now have 2 beautiful sons because of him. You just never know...