...or the other man exists....
I have a lot of gay male friends back in Toronto and they tell me about all the 'married' men (many who are Caribbean 'macho' men) who they sleep with.
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how can a american man settle down with one girl in the DR?
...or the other man exists....
I have a lot of gay male friends back in Toronto and they tell me about all the 'married' men (many who are Caribbean 'macho' men) who they sleep with.
STDs....That is the main issue. Now lets be real!!! How many of these pleasure seeking, in the moment men....men who as we said are only thinking with one part of their body, do you really think are using pleasure reducing protection with their women on the side, that they have been with for months or years sometimes?
Sorry I dont believe too many, especially when I see so many unwanted, resented and unloved 'children' being born from these 'on the side' relationships here. With no daddy in sight. Too bad not enough men equate being a 'man' means taking care of your children and responsibilities.
The immediate self gratification without thinking about the consequences, lets live for today and not think about tomorrow mentality, that is so common, especially throughout the Caribbean does not lend to using the 'oh I cant feel anything, I dont like those things, they are not comfortable' condoms.
So the moral of this story is if you are not 100% sure your significant other is not sleeping around...... no glove...no love.
Unfortunately like in a lot of developing nations, a lot of these women who are financially dependent on their men to feed their kids, arent in a position to say wrap it even when they know their men has a 'trailor load' of women on the side (that he is more than likely not using protection with!).
Slow down with the STD talk!!! Not to many people are catching STDs in DR so slw down with the condom retoric!!!
Exactly, they are fooling him, actually. Every woman knows if he has others. It is quite obvious to any of us. I would rather be open about it and stay safe from stress and STDs, than pretend like nothing is happenning because I am scared and insecure. I don't have time to be his one only pleasure. I am just way too busy with my work, family and life. But it is nice once in a while.[/QUOTE
Do you have data on this?
Do what you like with your own life but I think it's irresponsible to tell the general public that "not too many people are catching STD in the DR".
Do I really need to tell a bunch of adults that there are some STD's that have very little symptoms?
Like I said, do what you want with your own life but don't post such reassuring info for the general public.
And Pat, pulling out and denying don't work well in a DNA test.
Here is a post from a Canadian girl ( whom I've met in person) that volunteered in the DR.
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Alot of women are losing GOOD men because they are too rigid and have a one track mind set...Have faith in yourself and the fact that your man loves you and it has NOTHING to do with YOU
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Exactly, I would feel very sorry for loosing a good, kind and self-respecting man. That kind of man can do whatever he likes with whoever he wants. I will never say a word against it as long as he is safe. But it is healthy to get rid of those who allow themselves to treat other people like trash - just for our own health and sanity
SHALENA[/QUOTE]
Exactly, I would feel very sorry for loosing a good, kind and self-respecting man. That kind of man can do whatever he likes with whoever he wants. I will never say a word against it as long as he is safe. But it is healthy to get rid of those who allow themselves to treat other people like trash - just for our own health and sanity
Yes. That is why we are here. To have a 18 y.o. wife (and five more dreaming to be in her place)when we are 75.
Would you try it in beautiful EEUU? Can you name anything more important in life?
I guess for me that would be to have someone attractive, well educated, intelligent and independent who likes you for you and not for your money, or because her mother tells her she has to get married and have babies. I guess people here think otherwise. Maybe they never had one like that and never will. Oh, well, it is not for everyone.
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STD - not a joke
Just looking at my stats on HIV prevalence in the Dominican republic, 1.1 percent (0.0 - 1.3 range), with only 52 % of men using the 'capote' -I would be a bit concerned, and not only AIDS is a concern, many of the less 'vile' STDs are more risky like clamydia or herbes - nasty encounters that many a European man and Woman have experienced from their flirts during a charter trip to the Mediteranian
-let's not be naive about the amount of disease out there - and besides naivity can be criminal- this is not just yourself that you contaminate, but also your sex-partner...
Just looking at my stats on HIV prevalence in the Dominican republic, 1.1 percent (0.0 - 1.3 range), with only 52 % of men using the 'capote' -I would be a bit concerned, and not only AIDS is a concern, many of the less 'vile' STDs are more risky like clamydia or herbes - nasty encounters that many a European man and Woman have experienced from their flirts during a charter trip to the Mediteranian
-let's not be naive about the amount of disease out there - and besides naivity can be criminal- this is not just yourself that you contaminate, but also your sex-partner...
Before you go on yapping, READ what I am saying, I NEVER SAID that my husband was not a cheat, I am saying that when a person is GOING to cheat, they will do it no matter where they are and that I dont waste time worrying about those things because truthfully I have never been given reason too.
Who knows what he does when he leaves the house aside from what I know and what he says, I would never say never, to ANYONE, but again, I dont worry because so far, I have never been given a reason, so that means:
A) he might just be faithful or B) hes very good at doing his thing.
I dont worry either way, I am secure IN ME.
but move on, this isnt about ME or my relationships, its about PEOPLE and what they chose to do with their time and life and dycks!
This is SO true, and VERY much how a dominican household goes down. Even the most "respectable" family man has this arrangement. It is beyond me why this still happens these days.
Island living....
This happens in most developing countries.
Reason why it still happens..... ECONOMICS, and the women know that if they leave their husband the next guy they are with will do the same thing!
A is very unlikely unless he is really afraid of you or not a good playa.
B: is more likely because it is the norm. Men can keep these 2 lives very separate ex. never shyte where you eat,never goto same restaurants,theatres or anywhere a man would take his number 1.
This happens all over the world but is more accepted in DR than it is in the US, But it happens everywhere. Accept it for what it is.
...or he is not interested in being with another woman.
I know alot of men cheat or wish they had the opportunity to...
but SOME men really have no desire to be a 'playa' and are really a one woman type of man.
I love how some men expect the women in their lives to 'accept it'...but if the tables were turned they would NEVER 'accept it'.
Was talking to my local agro market guy this week and he was eating his yummy looking lunch and I jokingly asked him to ask his wife (who I casually know, I was there next door neighbour for a short while, at least well enough to go to her house and play with her kids) to make some for me.
So as he was sharing his lunch with me he loudly states oh my wife didnt make it my other woman did. I said what did you say, shocked he would be so blunt about it with me since I was just with his wife, and his employee and some other guys there said his 'other woman'.
I said ok and said does your wife have another man? (I knew what his response was going to be but was just having fun playing with him)
Of course he looked at me as if I was crazy, and so did his employee and friends and said hell no thats not allowed here, I would kill her.
I said why is it ok for you and not ok for her...and how do you know what she is doing when you are at work all day?
Hahaha I dont think he enjoyed his lunch that day.
And his other woman is most likely only with him because she can get free food and not because she likes his sexy beer belly LOL.
Like I said ECONOMICS