drmissy, I'll be honest and admit that I personally don't have an opinion one way or the other about your relationship with your sankie. That problem belongs to you, him, and his wife.
However, what I don't understand is when people like yourself make the point about being tested every 6 months as a cautionary measure, as if it were some kind of preventative measure, and a rational and logical arguement in favor of practicing unsafe sex (remember your own comment "I do [plan?]/practice to have safe sex", as if to imply that you've already had unsafe sex with this guy, and that somehow being tested every six months will prevent contracting a disease). Testing is an indicator, a notifier, if you will, of whether you have or have not already contracted a disease. Testing, itself, will not prevent you from contracting a disease. The only real prevention, of course, is abstinence, and I certainly don't blame you if you don't want to go that route. I like a good roll in the hay myself.:classic: Outside of that, all of the other measures available to us only help to reduce the risk, not prevent it.
And, finally, I personally find it difficult to believe that someone who is unwilling to take the necessary steps to, at least, minimize contracting a disease, will be willing to take the necessary steps in the future to avoid passing along that disease.
Again, I personally don't care what you do in your personal life, but shared information needs to be accurate, particularly for those who plan to use it, yourself included.
