Well funny you mention that...I think people in Canada are not happy because ALL they are driven by is material things.
I too own a lovely home...really never need to upgrade or change my vehicle for as long as it runs.
Most importantly, I think of the future, not surrounding myself with a bunch of worthless "possessions".
So I guess it would depend on definition of a "better life".
It is easy to say that when you have the money to afford a 'lovely' home and a comfortable life.
I grew up poor and trust me I did not like it. Poverty is depressing and stressful. You have less personal freedom and choice. Have a shorter life span than richer people. It motivated me to work hard and strive to be as far away from the poverty line as possible.
The 'they are so happy and they have so much less than us' is a myth.
I see many unhappy Dominicans just like elsewhere.
Money is not important is a bigger myth!
The #1 reason for marriage failure is FINANCIAL PROBLEMS! People fight over money more than sex or their kids.
That is why HB rules make perfect sense to me!
I know many happy Canadians (me included) who have material things... (nothing wrong with material things like the computers we are using) but dont make their material possessions their life.
Oprah with her billion$$$ and all her material things looks damn happy to me LOL, and her great wealth allows her to help many people who need it!
I agree things dont make you happy. But you can be happy and have material things.
As someone once said...'I have been rich and I have been poor,money does not make me happy but I prefer to drive up to my problems in style' lol
***Anyways going back to the OP hopefully she and others can learn from her situation. DONT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE! Take head, ask questions even if you dont really want to hear the answers.... and dont get dragged into a fairytale world cause someone says all the right words. Words are easy but actions speak louder.
Concentrate on their actions, that will tell you the truth.
If you are working hard, making sacrifices to make frequent visits to the DR to be with him and for the wedding,
filling out and 'paying' for, with your hard earned money his immigration papers and going through that long and difficult process,
making preparations so he is comfortable when he arrives, etc..
AND should be working just as hard...
He
says he loves you but is not committed enough to do something simple like putting in the study time and hard work to improve his English, so you both will have a better life, even though you are 'nice' enough to pay for the lessons? Well that speaks volumes! And over the months you talk to him and you dont hear much improvement and dont figure something is up? That should have been a Big Red Flag!
Him calling you 'mente', 'mi amor' and whispering sweet nothings in your ear with his sexy Spanish accent should never erase common sense and your womans intuition!
Who wants their life to be a Jerry Springer episode?
I truly hope the OP learns from this, grows, and moves on.