As usual....Trina and Anna
...have teamed up to post one of the best pieces of information on DR1...
Yesterday, Aug. 3rd, I received the letter from the National Visa Center that states that within a week Tony will receive instructions from the Embassy in Santo Domingo as to what paperwork he needs to have ready for the visa interview.
I am so excited!!! Keep in mind that we started this process May 31st, 2005 and in only 2 months everything has been approved here in the US...I know that waiting for Santo Domingo will be the hardest part now, but we are ready.
Here are some of the things I've been doing to get Tony used to the idea of living in a 'different world' ...as I have tried to explain to him that that's what it will feel like once he's here...
Tony already drives, he owns his own car...so I brought him the Driver's manual, in Spanish, for him to start learning to get his driver's license as soon as he gets here...
He also enrolled back in English classes...We speak English as much as we can when we're together, and he knows pretty much enough to get by at a job, or to go shopping or just hanging around in the city...besides, Miami is mostly hispanics so he won't have too much trouble, although I've already told him I wouldn't want him to start 'hanging out' with too many hispanics!!!
He doesn't even have that much of an accent when he speaks English, I found that to be extremely helpful!!!
I've also made an expense sheet (how much I make, and how much I spend every month) so he gets used to seeing that it doesn't matter if I make $5000 a month, I usually spend just as much!! (Just an example...)
We have agreed that for the first few months, we will send his mom about $300 USD, which is what I spend on airfare to go see him, but since we can't go visit DR for a while once he's here, I'm sure she will be very happy to get that money as it will help out a lot.
He is very determined in findind a job as soon as he gets here, he keeps asking me about it...because he doesn't want to depend on my salary or 'be a burden' on me as he puts it...He has even said that we won't get married until he can contribute at least half the money towards the wedding...We'll see! :nervous:
I have repeatedly told him exactly that 'money doesn't grow on trees' here as most people believe (even in Uruguay, some of my family believes that!) I've explained exactly when I wake up in the morning, what I do throught the day, etc...so he has a clear idea of what life here in the US is about...
Also, I've made sure to let him know that the 'visiting' and 'going out' is reserved strictly for weekends...and that's if I'm not working...otherwise, there will be no 'going out drinking' or just 'hanging out'...unless we have a very good source of income in the household! (Meaning him!!!)
I realize I have a little of an advantage in the fact that we both speak Spanish, and have very similar beliefs in family and traditions, and also likes and dislikes...but are there any other suggestions I should follow before he gets here?
Thanks!!!
Trina...I hope you and Angel and the babies are doing wonderful...you guys are in my prayers! Thanks for being a good friend...
MQ