That "I'm pregnant" thing - again

[nygoesdr]

Classic! You must have been sending signals that you were going to jump ship. BD - DT Most likely she is trying to cash in before the drop. Don't over do it just be nice and take her to the clinic ( forget the pill option ) yourself and pay the price of admission. And if she really is prego than either you or her boyfriend have made a mistake: she doesn't know who but she does know who has $$. When you play you pay and in DR you pay more often. And in regards to the Hooker thing - does it really matter?

And for those who come from NY - it shows! And it is the ugly side of the Dominican experience.

J

 

[greydread]

abortions in DR are frowned upon unlike in the US. If she is trying to have the child and receive a monthly stipend from you is something you have to sort out. This may be the most likely scenario. IF not offer to pay for the abortion and see what she says.

Either way having a test done may be pointless in that she may really be pregnant and then you box yourself into a corner. have a home test done first, its cheap and doesn't make you too boxed in, tell her to do it just to be sure and her own piece of mind. If she indicated that she doesn't want the pregnancy, go for it. But be sure that she will hit you with guilt forever. Nevermind all that.

Oh no. In the US abortions are legal but still frowned on to the point of abortioned clinics being blown up, doctors murdered in cold blood and employees and patients alike being endlessly harrassed.

I have a thought on the original poster's predicament:

1. She is probably pregnant but not by you. There's NO WAY you'd get an ultrasound of an embryo at 2 weeks. She was probably pregnant when you met. A pregnancy test will tell you nothing other than the fact that someone has impregnated this poor, sweet, innocent Chica.

2. You represent an opportunity to her (and Babydaddy). I don't think that she has to be a puta, part time or otherwise to want to scam you in this manner. It happens all the time. It is the result of desperate people making bad decisions and looking for an opportunity to make a meal ticket out of a broken egg (pardon the pun, it's a Fathers' Day remark that I didn't get to use yesterday). You showed up to "save the day".

3. This Woman is lying to you. Skip the pregnancy test and the ultrasound, Hell you can even skip the abortion. Tell her instead she has to take a polygraph test. They're more fun.

4. You should lie to her. Stall to buy yourself time. If you've already told her your departure date, change it. Tell her you'll be back to check on her in 2 weeks and every 2 weeks thereafter until you can come back for good. Go out and buy a bag full of prenatal vitamins and healthy stuff for her and tell her you'll go with whatever decision she makes about having the baby. Give her $200 and tell her to start shopping for her maternity wardrobe. Bathe her and rub her belly in coconut oil so she won't get stretch marks. Do all the things for her that her punk of a real Babydaddy doesn't.

Then leave, keeping in touch via email only. There's no way to tell if the child is yours until after it is born so stay the Hell away from her until then. When you return, bring her a present;

https://www.gtldna.net/?source=msn

The $79 kit should get you started. It will tell you everything you need to know. You're not spending that much for her. You're spending it for you. I already know you ain't the Babydaddy and so does she.

 

[Malibook]

To add;
DNA testing is very expensive and I don't think it can be done till the child is born if that is her intention.

There's no way to tell if the child is yours until after it is born so stay the Hell away from her until then.

Expensive is subjective but prenatal DNA testing is available.

Non-invasive prenatal testing can be done with a blood sample from the mother and a cheek swab (or other DNA sample) from the alleged father(s).



NON-Invasive DNA Paternity Testing in Canada and the USA (NO-RISK)

Paternity Testing Before Birth

A DNA paternity test can be performed accurately before a child is born through amniocentesis, chorionic villus sampling and fetal DNA testing at between 8 - 13+ weeks into the pregnancy.

Fetal DNA Paternity Testing (Non-Invasive Prenatal DNA paternity testing)
Non-invasive prenatal DNA paternity testing during pregnancy has been available since about 2002. Traditionally, prenatal testing required samples to have been obtained from "INVASIVE" procedures called CVS (Chorionic Villi Sampling) or Amniocentesis, both medical procedures done by an obstetrician . In many cases such sample collection is difficult and the risks to the fetus may not warrant such invasive procedures to establish paternity.

Through application of research technology it is now possible to determine the paternity of an fetus using a simple maternal blood sample and a simple DNA sample from the alleged father(s).

Non-invasive prenatal DNA paternity testing utilizes a blood sample taken from the pregnant woman's arm. Thus it is called a "NON-INVASIVE" test. There is no risk to the pregnant woman or to the fetus. The pregnant woman's blood contains both her DNA and that of the fetus. The fetal DNA is utilized in determining the paternity relationship. The alleged father(s) supply a DNA sample usually by means of a simple DNA specimen from swabbing the inside of the cheek to collect cheek cells. Other DNA samples from the alleged father such as, but not limited to, a hair with the root attached can also be used.

Once all samples have been received by the laboratory, an extraction procedure is used to separate fetal DNA from the maternal blood samples. Fetal DNA is extractable after 13 weeks fetal gestation.

Non-Invasive Prenatal DNA Paternity Testing of one man and the fetus is about $1,000 (Cdn/US). Each additional possible father tested costs about $150 (Cdn/US). Non-Invasive prenatal paternity testing is more safe and cost effective than traditional invasive prenatal paternity testing.

Scientists have reported what they refer to as "2nd generation NON-INVASIVE prenatal DNA paternity testing". One reputable company stated to us that they have had a 100% success rate for this type of testing over the last year ( MARCH 2007-08) and any woman over 13 weeks into a pregnancy can now be tested without qualification of any kind. As part of their standard procedure and the package price above, they do a confirming paternity test , immediately after birth. They offer a guarantee. Ask the company you choose for everything in writing.

 

[dv8]

she wants money either for abortion or for the baby, which is not even yours. if you are a visitor only pack up your bags and go home without leaving her your email, phone, name, address; you'll avoid all trouble this way.
if she wants money for abortion take her to any pharmacy and buy misoprostol, sold here under the name of cytotec (sold over the counter). each pill is about 100 pesos. 5 orally and one for down there (don't ask, they seem to do it that way).
cytotec can be dangerous and cause heavy bleeding or even death so make sure you can take her to hospital should anything go wrong (too much pain, too much bleeding, bad cramps).

 

[greydread]

Non-Invasive Prenatal DNA Paternity Testing of one man and the fetus is about $1,000 (Cdn/US). Each additional possible father tested costs about $150 (Cdn/US). Non-Invasive prenatal paternity testing is more safe and cost effective than traditional invasive prenatal paternity testing.
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Do they offer this service in the DR? I would imagine that only clinics or labs under contract would be utilized for the extraction to ensure sample viability. A $1,000+++ expenditure to determine that this seriously overdeveloped (two week old ) embryo dosen't belong to the original poster seems like a serious waste of time and money.

A flight change fee only costs $150 (Cdn/US).

 

[RacerX]

for the few savvy posters on this board. what's the deal with the girl being pregnatn, what's the child support. I heard it's around $200US.

Can she get a US visa without the dad's help?

$200? Its more like $40/month/per child.

I dont get the comments to refuse contact and delete emails and so on. Why?
It s not his child but he can befriend the babe. Even give her trinkets when he comes back next time.
And that $79 test sounds like a God send withthe FedEx return too....

 

[paddy]

Classic! You must have been sending signals that you were going to jump ship. BD - DT Most likely she is trying to cash in before the drop. Don't over do it just be nice and take her to the clinic ( forget the pill option ) yourself and pay the price of admission. And if she really is prego than either you or her boyfriend have made a mistake: she doesn't know who but she does know who has $$. When you play you pay and in DR you pay more often. And in regards to the Hooker thing - does it really matter?

And for those who come from NY - it shows! And it is the ugly side of the Dominican experience.

J

That " expierence" can happen on 161st or anywhere else on the planet.

 

[ElSul]

if she wants money for abortion take her to any pharmacy and buy misoprostol, sold here under the name of cytotec (sold over the counter). each pill is about 100 pesos. 5 orally and one for down there (don't ask, they seem to do it that way).

Thanks for that one. I just remembered that I know a doctor who could maybe supervise this for a propina...

 

[ElSul]

I've got news for you, my friend. She doesn't need your help(or ours) when it comes to abortions.

She can get that info anywhere and everywhere.

That comes from one who knows.....

Yes, you're probably right. (And tell us why you know this?)

 

[Shiraz72]

she wants money either for abortion or for the baby, which is not even yours. if you are a visitor only pack up your bags and go home without leaving her your email, phone, name, address; you'll avoid all trouble this way.
if she wants money for abortion take her to any pharmacy and buy misoprostol, sold here under the name of cytotec (sold over the counter). each pill is about 100 pesos. 5 orally and one for down there (don't ask, they seem to do it that way).
cytotec can be dangerous and cause heavy bleeding or even death so make sure you can take her to hospital should anything go wrong (too much pain, too much bleeding, bad cramps).

Use caution with this drug. It doesn't always work. I know someone who used it, the pregnancy did not terminate and the child was born severely mentally challenged. It still requires follow up medical care to confirm that it worked which often by the time someone finds out it hasn't worked, has past the first trimester and would have to contemplate a late term abortion...more difficult to come by and the family may find out by then that the girl is pregnant...Just something to consider.

 

[Frank the Tank]

I am pregnant and AZB is the father.

 

[Bronxboy]

I am pregnant and AZB is the father.

lol..............................:laugh::laugh::

 

[Bronxboy]

I am pregnant and AZB is the father.

That I believe. AZB doesn't use condoms based on his prior posts.

One needs to have a sense of humor these days.:bunny::bunny:

 

[Malibook]

Do they offer this service in the DR?

I don't know if there is a company that can do the testing in the DR but the service is available in the DR via Fedex.
https://secure33.softcomca.com/healthgene_com/prenatalgeneticscenter/paternity-order.asp

I was simply refuting the mistaken claims that DNA testing can only be done after birth.
Whether or not one finds prenatal DNA testing desirable and affordable is irrelevant to me.
Prenatal Paternity Test on Blood
Prenatal Paternity Test on Fetal DNA

 

[POPNYChic]

I agree w JDJones. Please believe she knows exactly what to do and where to go. All Dominican women do, should it be necessary or simply what they opt for. No point wasting your time asking here. Ask HER what she wants.

 

[ElSul]

Have confronted her with some doctors who say the 5 mm in 2 weeks is impossible, and she continues to lie and make up stories, but seems to leave me alone now. Now her mantra is that "she's bleeding" and need a medical exam - she probably wants me to believe that she has lost the embryo and is not pregnant any more. I told her to go see a doctor for the bleeding, and let him/her advise what to do next. If she still wants another ultra sound I'd be happy to go with her... Have a good weekend and thanks for your replies.

 

[RacerX]

Damn it man, are you dense? The biitch wants you to give her the money and only the MONEY. She will tell you whatever she wants you to and whatever she thinks you ll believe just so you ll give her the MONEY.
She may be pregnant or maybe not. Who cares? She boned a dude she just met, and it wasnt the 1st time. The timeline means it couldnt be yours. But if you dont know that?? Lets make him believe it. "Give me money so I can get some pills or some sh-- that she s telling you. I m bleeding, I need to see the doctor, I need money. I m dying, my left leg was eaten by a shark who beat me in a poker game, I need money. Whatever you ll believe(cough,cough), etc, etc, I need money." She s leaving you alone because you aint buying her lies, so until her girlfriends/co-hustlers and/or pimp/boyfriend tell her some new lie to work on you she ll let you be. But when she get that lie figured out she ll be talking to you.
You know how to pick'em.

 

[ElSul]

Not so dense, no.

There is nothing new in your post here, we have well figured out all that already.

She has never asked me for any money, and she has accepted to go with me to see a specialist of my choice. Her business model is either very unprofitable (or she's the one who's retarded) if that's the way she thinks she'll get to my money, or she has something on me. I don't care about the 300 pesos for the new baby scan, I'm not that short on cash.

But as I'm more into empirics than Beliefs, I'll get her the proof since I can't count on her to produce valid evidence. I know her for more than 2 weeks, and if it's me, I'll help her out, no worries. If she still wants to prove that I'm wrong and she is right, which I doubt she will, I'll be happy to pay the lab - not her.

 

[RacerX]

Her business model is pathetic, shes not retarded only uninformed. She ll go to the doctor and he/she says she s pregnant. Now what? Her fetal development is about the same as when you were with her, now what? You are still in the same place you are now, 50/50. You wont know if its your child until after its born. She could have been with more than one guy during that time and you maybe the wealthies or the one with the best prospects. And if she didnt want to have it she wouldnt have told you at all with doctored ultra-sound pictures. She didnt ask you for money probably because she expected you to donate it like the "gentleman" you are(hahahahha! they really buy into that Caballero fodder) OR she wants one of them Richard Gere moments in An Officer and a Gentleman....or Pretty Woman, take your pick. You ll sweep her off her feet and offer to marry her. It probably happened to some girlfriend of hers who married some American dude because she told him she was pregnant.
I doubt she ll go to the doctor with you. I think she ll wait until 10 minutes before she is supposed to be there and then someone somewhere in another town got sick and she has to go see them. These people arent very good liars.
To recap:
a. she s not pregnant by you but some swarthy coconut with an old moto and one polo shirt to his name.
b. you re her last hope, Obi Wan
c. even in the worst case, you ll send her $100/month from the US when you come back to help your child or a friend who has a young child.
Its a limited loss situation for both of you.

 

[rsg]

I am pregnant and AZB is the father.

You lied to me frank...I thought i was the father..:ermm: