Jane J. said:
I really resent some people's tendency to so distinctly separate gringo from non-gringo. I, gringa as I may be, have friends and family in Sosua, as does Trina, as do other people who consult these boards. And YES, we want to know who it happened to, it could be someone we know, and perhaps we might HAVE to make a condolence call, KEN.
I have found out that the boy who was killed is the grandson of the owner of the pizzeria in Charamicos. Granted, that doesn't mean a lot to many people who read these boards, and may seem like idle gossip-mongering, but no - that is called information.
I am also chagrined that someone could post here that this changes "nada" in Sosua... except certain people's LIVES and loss of. You have no way of knowing who might be affected in an incident such as this and I really don't understand the insensitivity expressed.... ??
Jane, and other posters - with respect -- None of the posters on this thread asked any of the Sosua residents to find out specific details in order to make a condolence call. If anyone asked, I am sure that the Sosua residents would have gone out of their way to help find the information. We've seen this level of support happen before on this board. No-one asked, besides Trina who did not say why she asked. quote: "In both articles, it mentions the name of the father, but not the mother. Does anyone know the mother's name?" Trina, I did not know that there was a good reason behind your question. It seemed to me just a casual question. If I knew, I would have attempted to find out for you.
Some people on this thread asked for sensitivity of another kind. The sensitivity to 'live and let live'. The sensitivity to allow others to continue with their mourning process with out being overwhelmed by the curious and the sensation seekers (and with this comment, I am not making any allegations to anyone... these are the only words that I have to express what I'd like to say). The quiet voices asking for quiet sensitivity was not given much space here - check out the thread, there were many posts asking for 'quiet sensitivity'. Personally, if I was discussing this incident with anyone whilst seeking information for information's sake, it would feel totally inappropriate and disrespectful and shameful. This family does not need another person trying to get the story behind the story, especially from those who do not live in the community.
Also, this incident was discussed on the radio just about the whole of last Friday. There was a lot of information given but I personally am not sure enough of my translations to give anyone information based on what I heard on the radio. I would expect those people with ties to the community to get their information through the circles of family and friends.
I found Ken's comment about making a condolence call simply realistic. If you know Ken, he was simply expressing astonishment that all with deep ties to this community were not been able to find more information, and wanting to know why. Also if you know Ken, if anyone gave him reason, or asked him, to find out information for them, he would get on his horse and go and find out.
The comment that this news changes 'nada' in Sosua, I found not insensitive, but feet on the ground realistic -- and shockingly sad.. This news should change things. This news should have the people who live in the affected area up in arms and doing something locally to make their lives safer. I find the fact that they dismantled the house and threw the possessions in the sea, heartwarming... this is real local action and one can carry out this action whether you are poor or not, Dominicano/a or not, gringo/a or not.
I am a mother and a grandmother. Any news of any little 2-year old dying in any circumstances makes me feel to say the least, quite ill, irrational with inability to right the wrongs of the world, and attempting in my way, to simply send thoughts of strength and support to those affected. I don't necessarily cry all over my keyboard.
Some of us cry publically, some of us cry privately - the one thing that I'm sure of, is that all of us cry!