Hey guys, I am seeking opinions on my situation so that I may look at all sides. In the end, I will make my own decision but it always helps to hear outside opinions as they may bring up something you never considered or thought of. Please, I will respect all opinions as long as there are no personal attacks on me. I can get very rabiosa when riled, although I have calmed somewhat since the birth of hijo #4!
So here's the situation and a little background. I came back to the States in Dec after living in Santiago for 18 months. Due to family issues in the States, and my state of health (pregnant, with HORRIBLE 1st trimester). I was not happy in the States before but felt ok to stay awhile now. I was shocked by my children whom I thought would be estatic about returning. That was not the case. Not having experienced the cold or seeing snow in a year and a half obviously did not make them unhappy, they complained all winter here and I had to hear daily from my 2 youngest a game that they made up where they took turns saying what they would be doing at that exact moment if they were in Santiago. "If I were in Santiago RIGHT NOW, I would be playing in the marquesina with the water hose", etc.
I had planned to stay here in the States until the baby was at least a year old, but we all were miserable. So I made North Carolina cards and Dominican Republic cards and gave my kids one of each.I had them put in a bucket the card where they wanted to be living in Sept ( this we did about 3 weeks ago).
I got 3 DR cards.....
So, you might say, what's the problem? Everything was fine until I got a call from UNC Hospital in Chapel Hill. I had applied for a Operating Room residency for nurses back in December and they were now interviewing. It is a very intense residency, there were 2 interviews, a week apart and both were 2 hours long. Over 98 nurses interviewed for the 6 open positions. Needless to say, I was offered one of the coveted positions.
I would not even bat an eyelash to turn it down except that this position would send my career soaring and if I took the position, in the future (maybe 3 or 4 years) I could basically move back to DR and be better off financially. There are few nurses that can do everything thatvwe are going to learn in this residency. Just for comparison, orientation for regular nursing jobs are 4-6 weeks. This orientation/residency is 6 months. Then you have to work for them for at least 2 years so that they get their investment back.
My problem is that neither myself nor my children want to be here in the States. My children seem fine with their new friends etc, but still speak about going back to Santiago with excitement.
I am extremely depressed here, and it doesn't help that I am postpartum but I cannot not at least give some thought to the position that I have been offered. Any thoughts or insight? What do you guys think. Here, I am scrambling to make ends meet and spend less time with my kids because I am working so much. In Santiago, I spent more tine with my kids than I ever had in the States, but I was traveling alot to NYC to work. This time around we would live more modestly in Santiago as I will only travel once every 5 weeks to work (1 week working, 4 weeks off) so we will have live off of less than half of what I earned before.
So I am seeking personal opinions, please no attacks, I am not in the mood.
(maybe I should have left that last part out, "I'm not in the mood" always seems to bring the attackers out )
So what should prevail?
STANDARD OF LIVING or QUALITY OF LIFE ????
SHALENA
So here's the situation and a little background. I came back to the States in Dec after living in Santiago for 18 months. Due to family issues in the States, and my state of health (pregnant, with HORRIBLE 1st trimester). I was not happy in the States before but felt ok to stay awhile now. I was shocked by my children whom I thought would be estatic about returning. That was not the case. Not having experienced the cold or seeing snow in a year and a half obviously did not make them unhappy, they complained all winter here and I had to hear daily from my 2 youngest a game that they made up where they took turns saying what they would be doing at that exact moment if they were in Santiago. "If I were in Santiago RIGHT NOW, I would be playing in the marquesina with the water hose", etc.
I had planned to stay here in the States until the baby was at least a year old, but we all were miserable. So I made North Carolina cards and Dominican Republic cards and gave my kids one of each.I had them put in a bucket the card where they wanted to be living in Sept ( this we did about 3 weeks ago).
I got 3 DR cards.....
So, you might say, what's the problem? Everything was fine until I got a call from UNC Hospital in Chapel Hill. I had applied for a Operating Room residency for nurses back in December and they were now interviewing. It is a very intense residency, there were 2 interviews, a week apart and both were 2 hours long. Over 98 nurses interviewed for the 6 open positions. Needless to say, I was offered one of the coveted positions.
I would not even bat an eyelash to turn it down except that this position would send my career soaring and if I took the position, in the future (maybe 3 or 4 years) I could basically move back to DR and be better off financially. There are few nurses that can do everything thatvwe are going to learn in this residency. Just for comparison, orientation for regular nursing jobs are 4-6 weeks. This orientation/residency is 6 months. Then you have to work for them for at least 2 years so that they get their investment back.
My problem is that neither myself nor my children want to be here in the States. My children seem fine with their new friends etc, but still speak about going back to Santiago with excitement.
I am extremely depressed here, and it doesn't help that I am postpartum but I cannot not at least give some thought to the position that I have been offered. Any thoughts or insight? What do you guys think. Here, I am scrambling to make ends meet and spend less time with my kids because I am working so much. In Santiago, I spent more tine with my kids than I ever had in the States, but I was traveling alot to NYC to work. This time around we would live more modestly in Santiago as I will only travel once every 5 weeks to work (1 week working, 4 weeks off) so we will have live off of less than half of what I earned before.
So I am seeking personal opinions, please no attacks, I am not in the mood.
(maybe I should have left that last part out, "I'm not in the mood" always seems to bring the attackers out )
So what should prevail?
STANDARD OF LIVING or QUALITY OF LIFE ????
SHALENA