What?s the problem about raising a kid in the RD? we?re doing it. My wife is Dominican I?m a Brit ex-pat. Our (now) 6 year old daughter goes to a private school here in LT, if I?m not happy about her progress I go to talk to the professoresa. Every day when my daughter comes home we talk through the day then we hav e at least half an hour of english and use that language to discuss the countries on the globe and anything else unclear that happened during the day. OK she?s not always enthusiastic about this but its surmountable. My 2 year old Dominican godson is staying with us at the moment and his Mum, their english too is improving. Bringing up kids her is a lot easier than in the UK. No stupid rules and regulations, i can dry my daughter after a bath, no cold, no drafts. After lessons we can play in the garden. Discipline works the same here as it did for my first brood, if I say NO it means NO. The neighbours are co-operative, although I do wish the parents would wash some of their children and clothes more often, still an obligatory shower and no street clothes befors using the piscina help's. Thjats all for now, lunch calls, insist we all eat together with NO television. ciao, I like it here.?
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Why do you live here and why do you stay living in the dr.
I came here with my same-sex partner 3 years ago because we could find no other place to live legally. I'm from the US, he's from the Caribbean (not a Dominican). We are biding our time until we can return legally to the States. There was nothing compelling that drew us here except the lax immigration laws. Unlike many of you, I strongly feel my life can and will be much improved when I return to the States.
Aren't any of you ex-pats close to your families? I miss mine dearly!
Aren't any of you ex-pats close to your families? I miss mine dearly!
They use the RD as an excuse for children turning out bad, instead of their lack of in-home education. No matter what country in the world you live in, 90% of everything your kid will ever learn is learnt right inside of your home.
Anyone who said their social life was better elsewhere, was because you have chosen not to become part of the RD culture. Social life here is extremely rich and fulfilling and the love I receive from friends and family is something that I have never felt living in the US. I felt like all of my friends in the US were broke potheads who just hung around me because I had beer money and a nice car. In the RD, my friends have just as much or more money than I do, and hang around me because they like my company. This opinion is coming from a half-Dominican so maybe there is a different perspective, but I have some Canadian friends here who are freaking awesome.. even if they say eh all the time.. lol
There has always been comments made about how the ex-pats just complain about the country and are always negative. Remember with negativity also comes love, a deep love that many ex-pats have for this country. This is home, where their heart now belongs. Do we expats complain, h*ll yes we do because we know this country can be so much better. Ex-pats will tell it like it is, the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly. But why do we stay, because it is home and home is where the heart is.
Well, just my two cents. I have been one year living here (came on 1st Sept last year), and Im gonna be daddy.
Since I knew I was going to be daddy I started, without no doubt, thinking of leaving this country. Enough time to realise this is not a place to raise my daughter, or at least, better to say, it is not the place if you have the possibility to raise her in a western country.
Why? I think it is quite obvious my god! Infrastructures of this country, quality of healthcare, quality of studies, violence (here you can be killed for just a few pesos) and one more thing, if you want to have JUST a medium class live like I had in Europe, I have to spend really much more money than in my home town.
Cheers.
Since I knew I was going to be daddy I started, without no doubt, thinking of leaving this country. Enough time to realise this is not a place to raise my daughter, or at least, better to say, it is not the place if you have the possibility to raise her in a western country.
Why? I think it is quite obvious my god! Infrastructures of this country, quality of healthcare, quality of studies, violence (here you can be killed for just a few pesos) and one more thing, if you want to have JUST a medium class live like I had in Europe, I have to spend really much more money than in my home town.
Cheers.
In my book , that's still better than getting killed for going to a movie (Hello Batman!), or to a youth camp (Hello Bleivik!) ....
If you ask me, that's the kind of thought you have after only 2-3 years (I know I had them). After that, you just start realizing the good things.
Home and school hold very different but equally important fundamental life skills (education), yes what is taught in the home will be the foundations for what is learned at school, but your idea that children learn 90% of what they will ever learn is learned in the home is not typical, unless home schooled which I think seriously stunts child developement on the grand scale of things.
anyone who says the social life was better elsewhere was because they have chosen not to become part of Dominican culture?
You are stating that the Dominican Republic has the most valuable culture in the world? A Sweeping statement if ever there was one.
I appreciate your experience is different to everyone else's, and your history lays between the DR and the US, but you can't make judgement on everyone else's experience based on your own. Most would not agree 90% of a child's education is taken from the home, or that the Dominican Republic has the richest and most rewarding culture in the world, as you claim.
with respect and no offense intended.
Of course, you can be killed anywhere, for any reason .... but trust me, just an example, if you are robbed in my home town, 99% they will take your belongings and thats it, maybe if you resist, some hittings, but here in DR the possibility to be shot in your head when you are robbed is so so high ....
And they're really gandules. They're only guandules in RD.
Actually it is known as gandul only in Puerto Rico, in Colombia Panama and Brazil and most of latin am is Guandu, in
Venezuela is Quinchoncho, in Peru is Chicharo, in Spain and in France is Guisantes de Angola.
here is a note from wiki: Pigeon pea - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
apparently guandules are also called: gandule bean, tropical green pea, kadios, congo pea, gungo pea, gunga pea, fio-fio, mgbụmgbụ, or no-eye pea.
i love the word fio-fio
and i love how we stray off topic in every single thread
apparently guandules are also called: gandule bean, tropical green pea, kadios, congo pea, gungo pea, gunga pea, fio-fio, mgbụmgbụ, or no-eye pea.
i love the word fio-fio
and i love how we stray off topic in every single thread
Can you tell me what freedom a person has in Santo Domingo that a person in West Hollywood CA does not have?
The list is endless if you are talking about actual enforcement, or lack of as is the case.
jm; for one thing you could talk with a woman on the street (trying to get some) and not be a police decoy and be placed on the ground with a gun in your head and be arrested etc. Btw. it has never happened to me
yes, i agree. but this is what people often mistake as freedom: ability to do as they please. which in DR comes at a price: everyone else too has that freedom
personally i enjoy the fact i can disrespect some (if not all ) traffic laws and i do not get stopped by the cops. the most you get in DR is a ticket. no one takes points off your licence.
personally i enjoy the fact i can disrespect some (if not all
) traffic laws and i do not get stopped by the cops. the most you get in DR is a ticket. no one takes points off your licence.