Dilo otra vez.....
Much of what you say it true about the phone calls, emails, gifts, and giving it up too early. That?s my experience and it took me my whole life to figure it out?. In fact, I think I had my ?highschool? experience late in life with one young Hispanic man who couldn?t make up his mind what he wanted. He still calls me? ?soy un poco deprimido, Margarita? Pienso que es la soledad.? We all know what that means? ?Your panties, I want them hanging from the light fixture by Sunday afternoon!? <sigh> It was only after I was on the brink of insanity that realized that I had to throw myself into something anything to keep myself from going crazy. That?s when I found the solution. I threw myself into schoolwork so I wouldn?t think about him. And for two years I?ve been so busy with reading, essays, projects and teaching that I haven?t had a chance to let him get near me. (Okay we won?t count how he found me on my birthday or a year later on Christmas?) Now I have so many walls put up it?ll take an amazing man to tear them down and no dog will get by that?s for sure.
aranoid: RIGHT?
It?s funny, when I?m not available and making someone the center of my world, I?m more valuable and sought after as a woman. All those acts of kindness, cooking meals, laundry, being available, being the perfect nice girl didn?t get me anywhere. I really became more valuable when I took care of my own needs for respect and stopped looking for some guy to give it to me.
I have to say one thing on the subject of the ex husband and ex boyfriends, dogs or not, they are part of my life and who I am. I loved them and no man can disrespect the men I loved especially the father of my child? or the first love, or the one after that?. and the other one and the other one. The other one after him, he didn?t count because I was tipsy? really there were only five ? okay maybe seven?. or eight... But definitely less than you? so don?t even ask for a number? In the words of that Ricardo Arjona song which I don?t even like?. "I?d like to thank the one that came before you?"
Planner?. he?s mine?Okay, well ... fine... Just pass the Limoncello then or the Brugal.
That was funny, your friend calling with "estoy un poco deprimido". (And your conclusion is true, btw).
It's true when you say that when you don't make yourself available, more want you.
There's a simple explanation:
We like a challenge!. The harder the woman is to get, the more we want her. It's that simple.
I mentioned, a few years ago, about a friend of mine that used to get girls VERY easily. He said something like this:
"These girls are so easy to get that after I am done with them, all I want them to do is get dressed and get the hell out of my house".
What happened to him?. Well, he met a Santiaguera in New York, that's what happened to him!!.
This girl is from a very nice, close and well-educated family and was NOT about to give it to the first MAMAO that came along.
She made him "work" for her "tool". And "work" like a DOG he did.
All of a sudden, one of the biggest DOGGIES who ever lived was being "trained" by someone who knew how to use her "tool" to her advantage.
By the time she was done with him, she had him eating from the palm of her hand!.
Nowadays, after 2 kids and many years of marriage, he still "jokes" about her being such a hard woman to get, about her not letting him kiss her 1-2 moths after meeting, about her not letting him touch her body (that must of been HELL since we love to touch and touch and touch that booty), about her not "buying" or giving a crap about all his tiguere/hoodlum mentality, about HER laying down the law and telling him what she expected from him......
See, this is a very strong woman and one day, in front of me, she told him that there are other men out there and that if he wasn't going to give her what she wanted in a man that she would just say goodbye without blinking an eye.
You know when I knew he was "toast"?.
We had plans to take a vacation to the DR with my girlfriend and an easy one he had met a few weeks prior.
Then he met the "DoggieTrainer".
Then, all of a sudden, he said that he wasn't going with us. I didn't understand since he was the one that came with the idea and planned the whole thing.
Years later I found out, from his wife, that she had given him an ultimatum:
"I know how Dominicans behave when they go on vacation to the DR by themselves so go if you want but don't think for one second that you will keep getting to know me after you get back".
That's it, he was indeed "TOAST!!!!!!!!!!!".
I't so easy it's insane!!.
Well, less insane than MOST girls not knowing how to "play the game".
