miguel-I know it sounds unreal. Maybe he would have suggested sex if I hadn't. I honestly was not looking for it, but it happened. I had not been intimate with someone for three years and had gone through a very nasty divorce. That is where my "not wanting to rush into things " things meaning marriage comes into play. anyway the impression I get so far from all the replies is that if I love this guy and truly believe he loves me then I am just fooling myself