The great thing about being a foreigner in the DR is no one expects you to fit in. You can simply be yourself and enjoy what does work rather than complain about what doesn't. A woman who dates a foreigner and then expects them to act like a Dominican is bonkers. Why date someone just looking to get more notches in their belt when you can date someone who's trying to get ahead in the world? With success, the women come looking for you anyway. I think DS should start a straight talk thread on the Men are From Mars forum.
I've done business with folks like DS and I'd rather deal with someone who him who will be blunt and honest than someone who is trying to song and dance me and say what they think I want to hear. There are two types of business folk out there, wimps and a$$holes, and the wimps don't get very far.
PeterinBrat, your post above is absolutely on point. I'm so thankful to see that someone here finally "gets it." Yes, why would Dominican women expect us foreign men to act like their men? The same men who beat them silly? Did you people know that at least 200 Dominican women are killed each year due to domestic abuse? I read about it in a book on the DR I reviewed here on DR1....is that the type of men Dominican women like? Or, do they like a man who refuses to raise his kids, who walks out on them and leave them alone? I'm sorry, but I'm not that type of person. I don't believe in hitting women and I believe in raising my children, so if this is the type of guy these girls here like then I may indeed be in the wrong country.
PeterInBrat, you are right, I'm a great person to do business with. I always do what I say I will do(many people in business don't). If I say things will get done, I will get them done. If I say I will pay someone for a job, I always do. I have people who have done work for me for over 5 years, and I've never, ever, given them any problems getting paid. I always try to be a man of my word. I promised my mother last week that I would call her this past weekend, at a specific hour and time.......I did. I promised her I would send money.........I did. Dominican women have to decide if they want real men or posers. I may not be the most sociable guy in the world, but you know what? I've never been late paying my rent either. I've had my bank account for almost 10 years, and I've only been overdrawn once, and that is because I accidentally moved too much money from one account to another! When it comes to dependability I'm second to none.........but, given all the single mothers here in the DR, I'm beginning to wonder if Dominican women even like dependable men.
Regarding Machiavelli, I don't follow his teachings because I like being ruthless. I follow his teachings because I have to, it is the only way to realistically protect yourself in business and get what you want. Otherwise, as PeterInBrat said you won't get very far. Every time I was too nice to people I got screwed over, Machiavelli taught me to stop being so nice, and my life has been getting better ever since.