It seems that some people here are still mixing things up so perhaps you might answer the following questions
1)If you went into a restaurant for the 1st time and you noticed that the place was a bit tacky, would you order your food or would you pass and find another restaurant?. Perhaps they served the best food in the world. Would you wait to taste it?.
"'Some of the best food I've eaten as been from tacky hole in the wall restaurants, especial seafood"'
2)So you are in the hospital about to have an operation and the surgeon comes in dressed shabbily, his hair and beard unkempt and talking like an uneducated person. Would you not ask for time out and try to find out what the heck is going on?.
"'Yes, I would certainly be concerned"'
3)So you drive your child to a school everyday dressed up to the T in a Jaguar and everyone else drops their modestly dressed kid on a motorcycle. Would it not make sense if someone told you to 'tone it down appropriately' or perhaps you took your kid to another school?.
""I would tell them to stuff it where the sun don't shine, perhaps in different words. My children go to a school with children on welfare and others are children of millionaires. ""
Why would anyone expect anything different in this situation?
If the OP did not believe in elitism, then why is he sending his kid to an elitist school?. Why not send the kid to a tacky public school why she can be properly learn about humility and poverty?.
Whether anyone likes it or not, the fact remains that the rich would always continue to rule over the poor. Whether in the USA or the DR, whether in Azerbaijan or in Zimbabwe, the rich will always rule. Let nobody be deceived, even in america, we have an elitist system. You cannot go into politics unless you are rich or have the backing of the rich. That is the way it works here and in every other country in the world. The only difference is that we have a different system and some things are not so obvious and so they are played out differently.
The issue here is about doing something that no one else seems to be doing?. What else would you expect to happen?. As the popular saying goes ' No man is an island'
The issue here is about being smart and sensitive to your environment. It is about learning how to interact, to socialize, to network and to position oneself to take care of opportunities. It is about acting in a way that the people that really matter will see you as an equal and treat you as one.
So you are in a tough position and you need someone to pull strings for you. Do you call a motoconcho driver or you call someone in position of power that can pull strings for you and make things happen?. Whether anyone likes it or not, the rich and the powerful are the same. They are the people that make the laws and they can bend the laws for anyone that they want to favor and nothing will happen.
Everyone cannot be equal in this world. The communist/socialist system tried to prove that men could be equal, but just look at it's pathetic collapse.
For the reason that the OP already has those things that could work in his favor and make a difference, why does he not use it?. Would you work for your money or allow your money to work for you?
There is a big difference between being humble and having a poverty mentality.
Sholly
We all try, at least most us, to give our children the best education we can afford, we try to teach them right from wrong, give them a moral code. In my world this means teaching them to have respect for others, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly...etc. On any given day our son's friends visiting our place might be Cuban, Chinese, Iranian, Honduran, East Indian...etc There is no colour barrier, or wealth barrier in my house. I consider myself middle income $80k +. I agree with chip, but can also see ABZ points...etc. Chips wife is certainly not very dark so i would think that his daughter is much whiter than many of the students that may be teasing her about her colour. Unfortunately as she grows older she will be more influenced by her peers than her parents, so now is the time to start to work on that moral code.