- Thread starter potus
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Really ****ty DR day! UPDATE AND QUESTION
I basically agree......but the first thing the Judges ask for is if I make my payments....it appears to be the pivotol point.....I do not want to take any chance, especially now that i handed in an appeal for full custody......
That's certainly a consideration. Good luck. If you get to the point where you have tried everything else, you know what you must do.
Forget that. There are two points, one payment and two visitation. If you stop payment you can bet anything that she immediately contacts you. Tell her when the kids visit they will leave with the payment. If weekly she gets weekly payments.
She is not really interested in taking you to court. First off she needs to pay a lawyer, that stops it cold. And if she goes alone you make sure you have a competent attorney with you that can explain the total lack of visitation. One more thing, when she calls you and she will, record the conversation and lead her on about lack of visitation. You will get her cold on this and the judge can hear from her mouth.
I doubt that you will get anywhere with that. Just more delays and more money she banks. STOP PAYMENTS. This is the only way, and it will work.
Another reason to stop payments. Your cash is not even getting to the kids. You need to be able to have visitation now.
Talk to your lawyer give him the money in trust once she complies with order funds released... show you are putting aside until
She complies ask your lawyer if this can fly ...if she likes her pills n booze that should fix it or your $hit out of luck and waiting game..
Apples and Oranges
IN a country where people make $200 a month.. $400 is 2 months Salary..
So your $50 K salary in another country the equivalent would be $8,300 a Month in Support .
keep making comparisons with the country you came from, and you will continue to get fleeced ...
$400 a month is a LOT, to get such Little RESPECT..
cant even see your kids, and keep paying .....good lord ..
imma stay out of this now
good luck to the OP..
As far as the statment goes the single worst financial decision a man can make is too marry and have kids here. That is not true. Getting married and having kids in the The States for instance is a way bigger financial risk. I am not a dominican making 2 hundred a month. So for me to pay an exwife and a child 400 a month is still peanuts.
The OPs support was based on his income. Not the average dominican income. It pretty much works like that everywhere, I believe.
Now whats happening to the OP, is a whole different set of issues, and he seems to be making all the wrong turns. But again thats just from the outside looking in. And again in the other countries it could still be worse. This guy has the option to stop paying. Some Countries take it right from your pay check. Support and Visitation are separate issues and one has nothing to do woth the other.
Exactly... but very vehemently chooses not to...
asks for advice , but has already plotted his course to keep paying no matter what .
starting to doubt the veracity of the whole scenario.
could be a language barrier though..
I'm pretty sure that here in the DR support payments and visitation/custody are separate issues as well. This is why it was recommended that the OP demonstrably set the monthly stipend aside instead of just not paying. Someone suggested potus give the money to his lawyer to hold in trust while the Ex goes through her attitude adjustment phase. That was an even better idea. You may at some point wish to demonstrate that you just didn't stop paying -just that the flow was interrupted due to her breach of the order.
Now, that is a great idea to place the funds with an attorney, pending visitation.......(Enforcement of the sentencing of the Tribunal)
