I think it was all well intentioned.....even if there was a little ribbing in there too.
From your descriptions, she does not appear to be the one who is lost.
You came here, ostensibly looking for answers to questions and some sort of validation. You are not getting that validation. What you are getting is for the most part, the collective knowledge and wisdom from the members here.
You perhaps dislike it..................but it is a form of tough love.
There are lots of members providing advice here who are also married to a Dominican........................and have successful long term relationships. Please do yourself a favor and take what has been said to to heart.............and then do whatever you feel.
Perhaps your "girlfriend" has been generalized...............and perhaps your situation is somehow different. Just know that many here have seen this potential train wreck........................countless times over the years.
Speaking of train wrecks....................time to sample one of the many examples to which people here refer;
https://dr1.com/forums/threads/this-is-the-end.106624/
Please take the time to read it...................his situation was not unique...............but it is an example of being blinded by the light.
Again, good luck in your journey.
Respectfully,
Playacaribe2