It's just too bad that you aren't WOman enough to admit that you made a tempest out of a teapot.
1. See, I don't believe I did. Again, go look at the first post that I talked about this. In post 11, I bold "responsible sovereign individual" .. it really stood apart from the words man or men you know. Gently did I go about this!
Then, the next few posts continued on talking about men, man - no mankind, no responsible sovereign individual .. just men and man. Example and I'm not blowing up the flames again ..
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2. "I always figured "laws" were the rules for how reasonable men and unreasonable men were to interact. If all men were reasonable, we wouldn't need them, would we?"
This use of exclusively male language continued in further posts.... By now I was suspecting that the poster wanted it this way...
Then I went a tad further and hoped I'll make the point by simply bolding, screetching and using acceptable language myself ...
3. "Even reasonable 'men' (aaargh!) may create a set of rules for societies to live by. This is what the law is supposed to be, a reasonable set of rules for people/mankind/men and women to live by.
(Disclaimer, the bolding is not because I am politically correct. It is because I am not men, I am women and by definition, the poster excluded me and my type from his discussion. That is kinda rude. I don't know if this is deliberate or whether he is simply quoting from a set of literature that was written in the style but I thought to let the poster know that that is rude and not something that we want to encourage here.)"
Three times I was reasonable, low key and gentle. The third time I explained with lots of space for the other person to retract or explain .. Is he quoting? This is kinda rude .. I thought to let the poster know ...
Even you 'got it' Bob .. and said something about it ...
I was clear to you as well: "If a moderator starts complaining about usage of words, it does mean that there are a few pm's in the box already. So, I ask you and all of man-kind, to stick to acceptable language."
4. And then a 4th time I was reasonable ... Note my words ... It is a request ... note I'm saying "I ask you... "
This was four attempts from me, using reasonable non-violent language. Unfortunately the AhHa moment never arrived for cb. What arrived on my doorstep was needless attacks and 'looking for support' that looked insane to me and accusations about why I was doing what I was doing, that looked mad to me. You fellows need to know by know that I talk for myself and stand by my words and never go out looking for 'shills' that will support me.
Then from that point onwards, I reacted to what I received which looked completely out of proportion to my first four gentle (for me) and reasonable attempts to handle this business and get people to be aware. I don't like that language you know. Millions of other women can like it and want to be a man, I still don't like it as I have a good idea of what went into the process of liberation for women. That process needs respect even if other women are perhaps unaware of it, or perhaps have no reason or willingness to respect it. I have seen enough demeaning, base and sub-human treatment of people in my life and will speak out if I encounter it.
As far as cb is concerned, I really cannot understand that anyone that grew up in a liberated household can use this language. It is not consistent with my experience that someone can be so completely unaware of his language. I find sexist language equally as destructive as racist language. And again, other women have been talking about this for a period of time and there still is an ongoing off-line conversation about this use of language. I chose to react to it in this thread. There are two parts to this board .. the online one and the offline one and these are both good!
However, if it will make anyone feel better to get some kind of 'apology' out of me, I apologize that I bored you all with my radical insistence on appropriate gender language. I found this absolutely necessary especially in a thread that addresses the Rule of Law vs Rights of Individuals. I preferably want to talk about legal and individual rights for mankind, rather than for man, as I feel quite left out of the man thing. I promise to continue with seeking fairness, appropriate language and gracious actions for myself and others around me, to the very best of my ability. I am really sorry if my sense of humor sometimes interferes greatly with these high falutin' objectives. And if you want me to be a man, sorry, cannot oblige, I'm built differently which is an excellent and joyful thing.
Just a final note .. Perhaps not everyone is quite up on modern feminism and that is not a problem, but the movement these days is more about integrating and rediscovering those qualities that we perforce had to lose during the struggle, i.e., the feminine, or the sacred feminine, than trying to be men or better than men, or even competing with men. That stuff all belongs to a worn out past. Liberated women are re-integrating femininity without losing the right to be enfranchised human beings - this is the group that I fit in. Loosely as far as I can see, there are two other groupings with their own sense of things - 2nd wave and post feminism. The young women are still actively working towards a true liberation although the objectives have changed as life changes.